Would you marry this guy?

True Grits	I would not marry him - I am a man and marriage is only marriage if it is between man and a woman. As to your respective economic backgrounds, what does that have to do with anything? The many poor people live happy and productive lives and many of them also become rich if they are motivated enough. if he were the "Upper-Middle" class and you were the "very low-income" part of this relationship, would you like him bringing that up as proof of your inferiority to him?

Shelly E	I would follow my heart. I understand where you're coming from but money isn't always a reason to do something or not do something. He will need to at least get his G.E.D and he'll have the ability to further his education but until then you'll have to be the main provider and there's nothing wrong with that. Just make sure he understands that it will be a temporary situation and that you don't intend to carry him for the rest of your lives. Please don't have any kids until he gets himself together though. Good Luck

auntya	Heck no! You do not want to be "poor" with him. Think about this... if this man can not hold down a job how do you see him supporting you or your kids? You will be more than just poor with him. You'll live your life working 2 and 3 jobs trying to support yourself and your kids. I don't see this working out at all. The bible says "if a man doesn't work, he shouldn't eat" Let him stay skinny! It's not about finding someone with a lot of money, but any woman wants a man that can at least hold down a job. A job is a commitment, if he cant stay committed to one job then how's he going to be committed to you. Also, just a question... who brought up marriage?

Lance R	No you should NOT marry a broke a ss bum who can't hold a job. No everyone can be smart, rich, etc....but being fired 4 times in one year is a pretty good indication that there is something wrong with him. Many people will tell you "love conquers all" but you can't live in "love", feed your kids with it, or use it to get your family decent medical care. Don't make a mistake you and spend years of your life broke and unhappy. Move on!

Dear Lady	For my part it would not matter. I have my own financial security so I don't need a husband to support me and my sons. I am at a point in my life that money is not an issue. I sense you are not at that point. There are compromises a person makes for love. There are compromises in every relationship. You know, I want a guy with green eyes but I always seem to end up with guys that just don't have green eyes. The eye color isn't a deal breaker. Money issues, however, will kill a relationship. It could mean you will never have the financial security to feel comfortable to have children. It is a big consideration. However, the fact remains plain to me...if you have to ask such a question, you are not really in love. You have doubts. You have to ask yourself why are you having such doubts?

shdwtalker2002	If you were planning never to have children, I would have said, "Go for it." This man is irresponsible, however, and it could cause not only the financial problems you are anticipating, but it could also spill over into his fathering skills. It takes a LOT of responsibility to be a father!

Big Super	Let's be honest - there is more to love than marriage. This includes making money and being able to provide for your family. You are already telling me that he can't hold a job, that he won't be more than he already is. This isn't something you can fix. You come from a educated, middle class family, and are used to certain things. Now, you will not have those, and will not be able to provide them to your kids. You need to forget about this guy, and move on. In the movies, you could live happily ever after, but this isn't the movies, its real life.

a_lot_smarter_now	Depends on where your priorities are. Are you interested in marrying for love or money? You can't live on love alone, though. I think you are wise to consider all of this and how it will affect your future. However, if you really love him and want to be with him, and he treats you well, then give him a chance to get a job, stick with it, and prove he can pull his weight in this game we call life with you. Let him show he can stick with a job for at least a year. If he can find something with room for advancement, he may be able to work his way up to better things. Take your time with this one...it's a lifelong committment.

crazyworld	I married a guy who came from a low - income family and i came from an upper- middle class. When we first got together he wasnt at a job more than a week. Finally once i got pregnant with our son he got a wake up call and he started at a job and hes been there awhile now. Give him a chance and definitely encourage him to get his GED, let him know what is expected of him before you get married, so you dont get a divorce 3 days later

sophia_of_light	None of that matters - life is what you make it, your career is what you make it your, marriage will be what you make it. He has options to make good imcome building, hanging drywall, plumbing, Ask him to take a trades class, like of welding or reading blue prints, he has a world of opportunities open to him so do you... Marriage is for those who can love eachother unconditionally, for the mature, for the honest and there is no room for jealousy and communication is part of the whole, if you have these things love can withstand any obsticals and any illusions and trust is there. But both must have the will and have the desire to want a lasting relationship -you can start off by syaing o.k. this is what we'll do but if one of you lacks the giving of these things you are back to square one. Communication must also go as far as dicussing s_x with one another, if you can not be honest or tell your spouce that strange has been on your mind then problems will arise!!! If you know what I mean, if you can't talk about s_x with your spouce then who can you talk to about it with... An open mind helps as well as being best friends...

spun_down	it's not the $ , it's the lack of will

Hi its me again	he'll keep you in the same rut that he's been in all of his life. this is all he knows. Marry him if you want this kind of life. most poor people stay poor because they see themselves as nothing more than poor. It doesn't look like he's tried to break the cycle as of yet. in fact i bet he blames the world for his problems also. I would worry too if i were you...

Gyasi M	part of being a Man and a husband is being able to provide a sense of security. Maybe you won't be able to eat out every weekend, but if your happy your happy. Security also includes providing the right opportunities for your kids. You have to figure out the definition of success. It may be different than success as Hollywood defines it. Keeping a job to provide food and shelter is critical in my eyes.

redgator40	doesn't sound financially stable. is this what you want from the father of your kids? sounds immature to me. i wouldn't marry him but its your life to mess up

andy a	it is up to you to marry this guy, we cant help you on here. if i loved him and he was a good man i would marry him.

Jewells	I would not marry him. You have to think about yours and your future kid's lives. Love doesn't pay for college.

Switch	I wouldnt. You arent use to the same lifestyle.

prouddaddy	Move on to more responsible people you and your future kids deserve as such. Avoid the future pain.

Kitty Kat	No I would not marry him. I thought that too about my ex husband before we married. Notice I said EX husband. Seriously, your mind changes when you start to realize the life your children would have. I was not smart enough to think ahead.

short1forview	he has low self esteem! you need to build him up! as far as making it no you won't you can tell by what you ask and how you ask it!!!!!!

Violet Pearl	Nope, not my kind of man. He obviously has no concept of commitment if he can't hold down a job and dropped out of school. Sorry, but my children's future is a more important.

Bobbie	You might find that later on down the line, he's not living up to the expectations you have of him and you'll start resenting him for it. I'd make sure that I was able to accept him for what he is now - not thinking that he'll change in the future. If that's what you're willing to be with the rest of your life, I'd say 'go for it'. But, if not, you need to let him go so you can find someone who'll complete you.

sensi	no

Yummyâ™¥Mummy	I'd get rid unless you don't mind be the chief financial supporter in the relationship-which can tire very quickly and puts a lot of undue pressure on you.

z	Wait some. Maybe he'll settle somehow, or you will find somebody to suit you better.

momof3	Convince him to get his GED...atleast.. then take it from there

BabeHart	He would not be marrying material for me. I want more than to have to live hand-to-mouth and try to ward off bill collectors.

free_angel	I wouldn't marry him, he has a piss poor work record and people's work habits do not change.

KRISH1111	i am a guy and i am not gay..hehehehe..