Your opinion on divorce?

?	I agree. Unfortunately, my ex husband thought different by cheating on me. A month before this happened, we were completely happy and best friends. You can go into marriage thinking it's the best thing in the world, confident, and trusting. But it only works if both people believe that way. My ex told me he did before we married. See where that went? My divorce wasn't an easy process. It took us over a year to get things settled.

â™¥B@BY~GURLâ™¥	I AGREE

â™¦justmeâ™¦	I agree with you. We live in a "whatever makes you happy" society. Children's suffering has just become collateral damage in our pursuit to our own happiness. Somewhere honor, commitment, and being a responsible adult have fallen by the way side. Both of my parents have been married 3 times, so when I got married I meant it. I never want to put myself or my children through what they put themselves through and what they put all of us kids through (I have 7 siblings in all). I do believe divorce is a necessity in some cases, but for the most part, most divorces happen because one or both partners lose interest , or believe someone else would be better for them and make them happier. I don't know about you, but I've never been happy all the time, when I was a child, a teen, or a single adult. Marriage is no different. It's what you make it. Nothing more, nothing less.

Diablo Fanatic	Very interesting philosophy. As a survivor of divorce, I can only disagree with the statement that divorce is easy. Technically, you are correct. Financially, it is a nightmare for any man. I got divorced in 1999, and still feeling the pain. I have custody of our only child, but financially....dam! In this country, most divorces ruin the man. My ex is having the time of her life, and has not looked back at all, has no contact with her daughter, and does her best to remain a stranger. And that is allowed. You've heard of Dead Beat Dads, but how many women are chastisedfor running from responsibility?

Shirley	What i feel is - Divorce is must when someone makes your life miserable. And finally we are humans, so we can do mistake in identifying someone before marriage. And its very difficult to identify people without getting married (without living with them u cannot understand them).

TokyoGirl	I agree that people should put more thought into it. There are too many people who get married way too quickly & without really getting to know one another. I think that there are a lot of people who mistake physical love for long term romantic love. I also think that there are a lot of people who get married that are too selfish to make it work. They are either too immature (regardless of age) or too selfish. However, I think that if a couple has tried to make it work, REALLY tried to make it work, then getting divorced may not be such a bad thing in their case. It's better to find someone who suits you better than to stay in an unhappy marraige just for the sake of tradition. But I do wish that people would put more thought into it. There are too many people who go into a marraige thinking "if it goes wrong, I can just divorce them".

littleluvkitty	i agree. but i doubt many people get married thinking that the person they love so much is going to break there heart. things happen that we have no control over. i myself have never been divorced. but i do think that in so cases its justified.

Mr. Taco	Generally I agree with you, but there are three things that you are forgetting (or are ignorant about)... 1. People change. I agree that one should seek every avenue to make a marriage work before calling it quits... counseling, therapy, talking... everything. But people change, and if two people are not in love anymore, and have tried everything, then it is foolish to stay married. It is bad for morale, bad for morality, and bad for the children. 2. People can be dishonest. That perfect man you married might later reveal himself, after it is too late, to be a cheat or abuser. Happens all the time. Should a woman (or man for that matter) stay married for the sake of staying married when she is manipulated or abused? I think not. 3. There is this silly misconception that divorce has not always been a problem. I have studied the history of Europe and America for over a decade, and guess what I found? Divorce has been around for centuries, has pretty much always been common even when it was more difficult to get, and it is not going anywhere anytime soon. Ultimately, what someone else does in their marriage is none of your business.

Rico Sauve	Your right. The meaning of a marriage has been distorted and changed in the last 100 years, but so has society. The pressures on people are so different now and so if family life. Maybe divorce isn't the problem, but the answer is to make getting married and having children more difficult. BTW, I think your concept of marriage is religiously derived. For us secular people it is a contract. Granted it should be taken seriously, it is still a contract that should have a termination clause - divorce.

Elizabeth	Well I have been with my husband for 6 going on 7 years I dont believe in divorce for any reason other than cheating and threats of death. Forever is Forever and That is what I mean I will NEVER Get Divorced and if something happens to where I do I promise on everything that is Holy that I will NEVER get REMARRIED

bigbrainwoman	People get divorce mostly because of abuse. Many guys are good actors, and get you to believe that they will be a good husband and father.

smartypants909	I grew up in a home ruled by an abusive alcoholic father who beat all us children, and then my mother, on a daily basis. My childhood was a nightmare and even now at age 53 I carry many emotional scars. Divorce was a relief from the torture we endured. You don't know everything.

celticbuddha	i completely agree with you, and those were my exact thoughts when i walked into my marriage. unfortunately my soon to be ex didn't think the same, and that is why he's petitioning me.

retroactivism	I agree divorce has become a loaded gun. All it takes is one side to be immature and point it at the other to get their way. I believe that the assets of the marriage should be taxed 50% if a divorce occurs. That is to say, if you get divorced, 50% of everything both people own goes to the government and each person gets 25%. This will stop sharking lawyers from encouraging contested divorces and dragging out proceedings.

Turkey Choke	I think divorce is abused (or marriage is) in america. People just selfishly stumble around life now days. I do however believe there are some instances where divorce is a good thing.

miss leonor	I agree but in some cases the mate might conceal their true colors & the other person doesn't realize it 'til too late so there r exception for a divorce

perfectvelvet	I'm afraid to get married because I am afraid of divorce. Everything in life fades, even romantic love. Some people have unrealistic expectations going into it, and I know that if I make that decision, it will be with a lot of thought. I would love to get married and hope to do so one day, but I've seen enough divorces working in the legal field that they are absolutely awful.

Joel T	If your unhappy then why stay in the relationship? Life is all about taking care of you. The other person comes second. If you have Children the come first you come second and the other partner either the man or the women comes last

Marina	I agree with you. In fact, my husband and I decided before we got married that no matter how angry we get in the heat of an argument, the word divorce will never be used as a threat or as an option. It's a word we don't ever speak.

greengawin	Divorce...responsible for countless and unknown problems...more so then any other thing.

sparrowszealot	Love can be very blind and when it finally opens its eyes it might not like what it sees so it can't always be so cut and dry.

Spud	For the most part I agree. There are few reasons that I think are valid for grounds of divorce. If you commit, commit.

Emanon	I agree. But, there are three very good reasons to divorce. Abuse, Addiction or Adultery.

~nicole~	If you can't work it out and don't love the person, then get out.

S&NFervor4Ever	I agree

Hea N	fine if you don't have kids.

AcornHero	i totally agree