having an affair and leaving for the other person?

gerrifriend	Well of course you're right. She ought to be fair to him and tell him. On the other hand, if there is a reason why she can't leave the family home yet then perhaps she is concerned about how difficult it will be living there with him once he knows. I can understand her not wanting to do that. Of course there is another possibility, she may not be completely sure that she wants to leave him. She isn't ready to burn her bridges yet. You should speak to her about the reason she is reluctant to tell him. At the end of the day it is her decision, she will do what she wants to do, but it might help you to understand it if you know why she's made that decision.

Vanillangel_45	Well, tell her if she wants to be with u then she'll tell the truth and leave her husband alone.

babubabuni	Chances are she is just playing you both. If she really wanted to be with you she would have ended the marriage already and gone to you. If her husband really cared for her he would have come after you in no time. I think she is using you to get rid of him or to have him react in some way because he shows no signs of caring for her or the things she does. Stop messing around with married women. Go and find youself someone who is single and someone whom you don't have to convince to be with you. There's plenty of fish in the sea.

Ms. Good P.	You stupid, if she messing around on her husband she is going to do the same thing to you. It is easy for her. She got the cake she going to eat with some ice cream. Think before you leap. Judge Mabaline (Divorce Court)

breadbreaker	I think that this is the type of crud that people get killed over. I can understand her seeking out comfort from you to help decide whether she really wanted to be with him or not, but when she decided that she did want to be romantic with you, she should have left her husband....and even at that, still at least tried to be discreet about her new relationship to prevent hurt/enraged feelings. Some people just can't handle having their strings yanked like that which is why there are so many so-called "crimes of passion".

?	you wait and see if she's really going to leave him

Tara	Maybe she has not told him cause she does not plan on leavimg him.

gblue52	first and foremost having an affair isn't fair to ither of you.If she chooses not to let her husband know what's going on then that tells you what she thinks of you.I was in the same situation and I finally left him after 25 years.What I learned out of the situation is that I wasn't happy with ither man so I am not with ither one.

mukyon1	be carefull, she might get "cold legs" doing it , he also might do unsympathetic things, stay away up to the moment they solve it by themselves.

55 and trying	She is not as serious about you as you are with her. Forget her and find a single lady to date. Much safer and more fair.

Lab 7	Your building a skyscraper on a foundation of fresh crap. Not going to hold up to well. But, anything is possible when it comes to love.

luckygirl	The same thing will happen to you, in a few years when she gets bored. If he doesnt know she shouldnt tell. She should just leave him . No reason to cause the guy more pain in admitting she has been having an affair. Relationships that begin in betrayel never work.. Have you never heard the old phrase "what comes around goes around?" Did you ever stop to think maybe she wont ever leave him?...

m. z.	UM, YeS! firstly, sweetie, you shouldn't have an affair with a married woman! She's taken!! and you don't know what she's telling her husband about you! She's probably just cheating on you both and playing you guys like fools. If she cheated on her Husband, what makes you think that she WONT cheat on you, too after she leaves her husband?? My opinion, leave her. Let her deal with her own problems with her husband, if not, she'll just create you more problems! Good luck & God Bless!

GrnApl	How long will it be before she becomes discontented with you and starts to think her X wasn't so bad. Your relationship wasn't built on a solid foundation but stolen moments. He will be hurt no matter what and she is a sorry excuse for a woman.

Nightchild	Wtf is wrong with you if you knew she was married you should have backed off i hopethey didnt have any kids together i mean how selfish sometimes you need to think of people other than yourself first and dont say you are because if you were you wouldnt have had an affair with a married woman for a yr A YR he has suffered well you and her watched

unknown	the only advice I have for you is to cut it off with her. It won't last between the both of you, and if you do continue to seek to be with her. Are you married as well? In the long run she will regret leaving her husband, if she do decide to leave him. If she's not happy with her husband what make you think she's going to be happy with you? Just b/c you can please her now? Which what you can only do for her will only last temporarily.

blueblossom33	Here is the best advice you will ever get..........make friends with her husband you can talk about how dirty she is when she cheats on you!Once a cheater always a cheater you might want to remember that!Have you ever heard the song have you left the one you left me for?

maya	if she's leaving her husband for you she might leave you for someone else and maybe she's just play with you and don;t want to leave him just use you for fun

General Custer	Pray he doesn't put a 9mm through your head.

marchhare57	What do you get if you eventually marry her? A women that cheats on her husband.

childofgod2911	Leave her. If she cheated once, she will cheat again.

cranky_gut	yeah, don't date married women : (

incubus760	She isn't going to leave him dude! You are being used as an escape valve for the problems in their relationship. Look elsewhere!

devil_queen_biatch14	what makes u think she wants to really leave her husband? if she hasnt left him already n told him maybe she really dont want to. its so stupid.and only ends badly and another thing. what makes u think she wont do the same to u when n if she gets with u.

free_angel	Thank your lucky stars her husband hasn't come after you with a gun.

Beautifulâ™¥	honestly.. if she wont tell him, you should tell him. and dont screw around with married women! cream of wheat, you fool.

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Scooter	If she is having an affair on her husband, don't you think she will do the same to you?

Chrissie	I am going to be brutally honest. You are very, very wrong for ever getting yourself involved with her to begin with. How dare you come between two people who vowed their lives before God? Honestly, what makes you think that if you two were to marry, that she wouldn't do the same thing to you next year? You think that things between them were always bad? No.. they were just like you and her. Laughing, spending time, making love. Don't for one second think you are any different than that man. How horrible it is, for you to think that it is okay to separate a marriage?! Should you feel that you really care for her, you should have stood your ground and stayed away from her. And IF and ONLY IF they split for reasons not concerning you - should you be able to then go forth with having a life with her. Sorry I was so rough, but these types of questions really rub me the wrong way. Does not anyone take marriage seriously anymore?