help me i want to die?

carol9cjm	I was in your situation before and you can move on . yes you should report the abuse because he could hurt you very badly but most important you need to think about you because you are important. please remember you can't love anyone until you love yourself. by you moving on you can start to feel like a real person not someone's punching bag. it may encourage that person to seek help if he in fact truly loves you. if not that's okay because now you can start to repair the damage that has been done and finally see what a beautiful world there is out there and also find the true love of your life. so i hope you get started today please

robin s	i loved my abuser for years after i finally got away from him. you just have to make a decision that you are better than that and then get away from him. getting away is the hardest part because every time you want to he senses it and starts treating you better, but ultimately they will never change and you have to protect yourself or it will just keep getting worse.

Karen	He's an abuser and NEEDS to be stopped or he WILL do it again to another woman.

phoebe	Think about it. You get a rope, tie to a tree, or ceiling fan, something strong, you make sure the rope is short and strong enough to support your weight, climb on a chair, put the rope around your neck, and jump. You are stupid if you want to kill your self over a guy. And your a moron for loving him. If you're still alive in the morning then we'll know your not dead. Dump him and GET OVER IT. Life is to short. Live this moment as it were your last.

blackpearl	We can all come up with very violent ways to deal with this situation, but let me share some things from a very personal experience. My sister was in a extremely violent relationship for a long time. Things finally got so bad that in the end she tried to shoot him with his own gun. Eventually after taking one last beating she called the police and had him arrested. That was 2 children to late they saw and heard all the abuse. I am telling you this because you may face a similar situation if you don't decide to start caring and loving yourself. This man is not worth your life being spent miserable and being called every vulgar name he can think of. Why have you given up on yourself God made you in his own image and God don't make trash. You need to reach out to someone you can trust there are information lines in the front of the phone book you can call to seek some help. Try a local pastor or a women's group, or even a shelter. Take back your self-esteem you are worth gold. One day you will look back and regret not to mention resent the fact that you stayed and put up with his crap this long. Make it sooner than later let this A-- H--- be your big mistake move on this is not real love you are feeling..

Jennifer S	get away from him, he should not make you feel this way. find a womens shelter in your area and get out asap. they will help you find a job if you need one and help you get away from him. your worth more than this.

Gonzalez a.	his been hitting u and calling u stupid 4 three years leave his *** and get a new husband that really loves u

notjemama	Hey sweetie. You might love him but it doesn't sound like he loves you. If you want to die, you might as well leave him. So here is how you do it. 1. Write down three people you know who have a couch that you could sleep on. Even if it's one of his friends/relatives. 2. Pack three outfits. Nothing fancy. Nothing more. 3. Go to the first person on your list. Walk if you must. Ask to stay two days. If they're not home or can't let you stay, go to the next one. If no one on your list can let you stay, go to the YWCA or church. 4. The next morning get up thank your host. Go to the library to research where you can live permanently alone even if it's in another city or state. 5. In the next two days, go there, find a job and get yourself set up. 6. If you wear out your welcome on your first couch, go to the next one until you can complete steps 4 and 5. If there's drama like him showing up or you wanting to go back to him while you're going through these steps, then go straight to step 4 but look up books, newspaper articles and obituaries on women who died in abusive relationships. Picture yourself. Then ask yourself do you want to be die that way and have that be how people remember you. Notes on step 2: If you have anything sentimental that you must have, mail it to someone you trust. Don't try to carry it now. If it's too big, take a picture. You can go back and get it after you're settled. If he destroys it, you will have proof and can sue him for it in small claims court. As for the clothes you have now - treat the expensive name brand stuff as per the sentimental items above if you must. If it's not expensive or brand name, forget about it. It won't be in fashion on the new You. It can be replaced.

mummy heffalump	You need to get. Find a woman's shelter or family or friends that will help you. You may need to talk to someone like a therapist who will help you to see yourself in a truer light and not through his eyes. Talk to your doctor. Talk to a friend. Confide in someone. There is help out there. You deserve so much better. Please try.

Meatwad	get a divor... that thing

J.S	tell your family.. run away and get protection. best of luck

daglas69	well the answer is easy and you know it the problem is the difference between knowing it and doing it. you got to leave the *** couse you cant suffer this much longer. you are not going to grow old with this guy. you got to go now, their are girls who will leave a guy for much less. a man who beats up woman is no man. good luck

Yakuzaznyc	There is help. Try going to a hospital. I know Kaiser Permanente has all sorts of programs to help you. You don't really want to die. You were happier when he wasn't in your life before y'all met, then go past it. It's his fault, not yours, so don't punish the people who love you just because of his mistake. If you want to feel better, try listening to this one song, it's empowering women everywhere: "Like a boy" by Ciara or "Listen" By beyonce.... I hope you find your peace.

rtanys	Get out of there immediately! Don't look back! This is not love, it's abuse. How can you profess to love someone who treats you so horribly? Whatever the reason, your life may be in danger. GET OUT NOW!

Kanakalele	Get a hobby... no seriously. Fill your time constructivly. Get an edcuation, get a job and feel the freedom of life! If you don't move on... you like being hit, so I suggest you get used to the pain and invest in plenty of bandages.

Melanie	Please....get help! Go to a family member, friend, someone you can trust. You didn't mention if you live with him. If you don't, and if he is harrassing you, get a restraining order. Protect yourself. Don't stay with anyone who thinks it is ok to hit you. I know it is hard to leave if you care for him, but in the long run, you will see that you will be better off. You need to take care of yourself! You can find someone who is good to you!!

â™¦Screwupâ™¦	It's hard huh?..To leave the one you love...But if he hits you why are you gonna be with him?..My suggestion...Try to find him some help...If he's willing to change he will...atleast thats what i wanna believe...If you can't move on cuz you love him get him help!.. But if you really wanna move on...Dont have any contact with him...No phone calls no e-mails nd if he goes to your house dont open the door...distract yourself...or sneak out through the back nd go somewhere else...Sooner or later you'll realize that you're okay without him... In any case...I hope thinghs work out for you sweetie...â™¥â™¥â™¥

i_b_winkn_at_u	You get up away from your computer and you simply walk away from him. Go somewhere anywhere and take the kids if you have some. He is the IDIOT. He is weak. He's done it once this is only the beginning. If you are feeling very brave call the police and file charges against him. Why do you want to die because he is a pathetic individual who has to hit someone else....you have plenty to live for...just get away from this loser.

white tiger	You most definitely need to move on. This guy will never change. Nobody should be put through that kind of abuse or treatment. You need to get out of that relationship before it gets worse. You'll see it will get better for you. Also there are alot of guys who are not abusive that would be happy to be with you. Just hang in there life is not that bad.

always51787	There is absolutely no excuse for abusing you. You should never ever have to put up with it. Recognizing that he is wrong for you, is the first step, then disassociate yourself with him, keep yourself busy, and whatever you do, try not to have any kind of communication or contact with him ever as long as your still hurting. It's never easy to mend a broken heart, but time heals all wounds. Trust me, you will eventually meet someone wonderful and extraordinary. They say, you have to meet the wrong guy in order for you to realized when you found the right one.

balpreet s	Believe me.....over time u can get over everything.

â™ªVivaâ™«Joeâ™«Strummerâ™ª	Look up a battered women shelter in the phonebook or online, and show up. You're not thinking straight, and it's gonna eventually get you deceased.

45 auto	It's time to love yourself and get away from him. There is a reason why your letting him hurt you.Get some help.Do you have family, you can go to someone to talk to. Call crises hot line ask them for help.If he hits you again 911 or 1 time he may go to far. there is no reason to thump one another.Be safe.

naticatty	I read your older questions and I can see that you think that itÂ´s ok for him to hit you because he only does when he is mad. Look, a man cannot hit a woman. I guess you are hispanic (mexican, maybe???) and I read that you want to get pregnant but think about it: what kind of life will your kids have when they see your boyfriend/future husband hitting you in front of them??? I met two boys who watched their mothers getting hit and they learned to not hit a woman. ThatÂ´s the way you want your kids to learn thatÂ´s not right to hit somebody??? Please, read what I wrote to you in your another question similar to that one!! Leave that guy!!! I do not understand why you are still with him! And worst; trying to get pregnant... of him!!! And worst: you got a DST from him!!! ItÂ´s obvious that he cheats on you and couldnÂ´t care less about you!!! LEAVE HIM!!

Andrea D	I understand your pain. I too was in an abusive relationship. Women do not have to put up with being hit or being called names. You need to be strong and say enough is enough and just walk away. I look back on my abuse and say to myself, "what was I thinking." I'm not stupid, I never cheated on him, I am pretty. He always accused me of cheating and would blame me if another guy looked at me, which would lead to him hitting me. I finally walked away when it was too late, I was pregnant. The breaking point for me was when he threw me and my unborn child against a wall. I say he knocked the sense right into me. :) At that moment I asked myself one question, if he could hurt me, what would he do to our child? I have not seen him since. I am now happily married to a wonderful man who adores both my son and me. There are many jelly beans in a jar and you happened upon a sour one. Eventually you will find your sweet jelly bean and you will finally understand what love really is. Letting go of something or someone you know will be sad, you yell, you will cry, you will be mad. Those things are a part of grieving, but you will get over him in time. I made it and so can you!

Anna Marie O	don't die god will take you when he needs you

christinalovdogs	first of all u DONT want to die. there is more life has to offer you. if hes abusing u tell one of those abuse organizations and they will take care of everything for you. if he truley loves u he wouldnt do tht

AskMe	You are co-dependent. Please, leave him. It will hurt, you will feel lonely and sick to your stomach but you do not deserve what he is doing to you. I went through the same thing, it took me a few years to get away and it felt like I hurt forever, but the tears will stop and you will be happy again, I promise. Good Luck