how do I deal with being married and having a boyfriend at the same time the biyfriend and I are together?

Sweet Face	I AGREE WITH EVERYONE ELSE. Karma, baby. It exists.

www.bajunajewelry.etsy.com	I would suggest dealing with your motives first. Do you really love either of them or just the challenge of juggling two people at the same time? Why don't you want a deeper more meaningful situation. In order to do what you are doing you can't go deep with either. Before you go any further you need to ask yourself why don't these people deserve better and why are you so sadistic to play with their feelings? Cut them both loose and tell them both what you have been doing. That exposure to their feelings will cause you to be more empathic and help you to straighten yourself out. I would suggest not to push going out with either of them any more and get a divorce. The other person deserves a better situation and also before you have a kid to complicate things. You have trouble seeing them as people and that is a dangerous place to be.

estella	might as well not be married or not have a boyfriend. do only one. i mean seriously in another state.okay.but you kno what i hope your husband finds out.. <3me

Java Queen	If you are married then why do you have a boyfriend. Isn't this called Polygamy?

lorena	What goes around comes around and one day you'll know exactly how it feels!!!

Captain Jack Â®	Get a grip and be fair to your B/F, your Husband and yourself. Either divorce your husband, or loose the B/F. Not only are you being very unfair to the men, but you are putting yourself in a stressful and volatile situation that will likely eventually blow up in your face. Sit down and do some serious soul searching as to which one you really want and choose, or you might wake up one day and find yourself with neither. Make a choice. Good luck.

Perdido	3some

farmergirl100904	I don't know, why don't you give me your husband's name and phone number, and I'll check with him.

swanser	Are you kidding??? You don't deal with that situation. You change that situation. If you are married, then be true to your spouse and walk away from the boyfriend. Tell your husband and ask him how he wants to deal with it.

vgordon_90	Sorry to see this happening, but you are not going to be happy with my answer. What you are doing is a sin! You are a married woman. You should be with your husband, not cheating on him! Probably need to let the out- of- state boyfriend go. If you love your husband, do it. Your husband will find out sooner or later. P.S. There is a reason that you have asked this question here. It must be that you are seeking help. So get it!

1DivineSistuh	First of all, have you asked yourself these questions: Why am I married? Do I really love my husband? If I don't love my husband, then why don't I file for divorce to be with my boyfriend? If I do love my husband, why do I even have a boyfriend? Your situation is a very selfish one. You should not have your cake and be able to eat it too. This little game your playing could be very harmful. Love makes you do some strange things. I really believe you need to grow up and make a serious decision about who you want to be with but somebody has got to go. Good Luck!

gabriel_demus	If you think this is hard for you now, wait till your husband finds out and then watch the pain and confusion in his face, knowing you caused all of it. For you, the choice is this simple - commit to your marriage or get out of your marriage. Good Luck! Aloha!

Baw	Your husband gives you too much freedom. Do you think it's alright he is in a different state? Think for a moment the pain your husband will feel in his heart. I've been done that way and I hurt so bad to think I had trust in someone so dirty. You are dirty. If I knew your husband I would tell him. *****

Stefbear	Do remember your vows?! Marriage means one and only. It's called cheating. Get rid of the boyfriend or be honest with yourself and the man you married and tell him what you are doing. No man gets married to share-that's called dating. I sure hope you don't have any children in the middle of this mess you got yourself into.

Mommy of 2	Why even ask this question? Did you think we would really give you advise on how to cheat on your husband? Get real!

laura s	omgosh! if your married you shouldnt even have a boyfriend. duh!!

dickn2000	If you will provide me with your husband's email address, I'll be happy to inform him of your infidelity, and offer to loan him one of my .45 caliber pistols to solve your dilemma!!

nisha A	Well witch one do you love more ..think about that for me ok ...have a good day :)

David H	You need to have to choose one guy or the other. First, think in your husband. You made an eternal vow to stay with him forever. If you have a family, then definitely choose the husband. Cheating isn't right, and it isn't right to hide it. You are going to have to choose between one of the two.

DrRJP	You either get rid of the boyfriend, or get a divorce. Which part of "Cheating is wrong" did you not understand?

donna_honeycutt47	When you say you and the Boyfriend are together, I assume you mean you have left your husband... If not you have no business Cheating on your husband. You made a Commitment to him when you got married. The grass is not always greener on the other side..

Mary O	well get a divorce because when your husband finds out he will kick you to the curb and you will get nothing from your relationship.

TI	You dump the boyfriend.....YOU ARE MARRIED!!!!

allknowing	Shame on you. Get a divorce if you don't want to be with your spouse.

irishboodah	SL*T

roxiecat4200	I hope your husband finds out and takes everything you have...and then I hope your boyfriend gives you an STD! Grow up!

Could you be loved?	Why would you even want to do that.