how do i get my husband to forget about my cheating?

nightman122554	one of the main ingredints in love is trust but you were seperated and life go on # 1 everyone need a stablity relationship in their life . and if he cant forget it then its time to move on love is not a game love is understanding trust communication commitment good love life to short

nowhere	Well, you cheated on him. You broke his heart and his trust in you. He still loves you and wants to be with you but he is also very hurt and part of him does not want to be with you. Lots, lots, lots, of love and communication and patience. Just because he forgives you, it does not mean that it goes away automatically. Give him time.

SanDiego21	you wont ever get him to forget , trust me you screwed up and he will always bring it up in your face and never trust you. you little tramp.

?	i agree with he can forgive but can't forget; when theres a major break in trust like that it destroys the relationship and even if you do move past it; it will always be in the back of his mind and generally drive him crazy; even if you don't see it... he will constantly have and internal battle over whether or not he can trust you not to make that same mistake again when you're out shopping, hangen out with the girls.... etc. it's best to follow your heart; you did him wrong, you've admitted it and apologized and kudos to you for doing so; but it may not "save" your relationship and things may never be the same; you can accept that or call it quits and find what you're really looking for. good luck!! hope things work out one way or another.

RC	He can never forget the cheating. Time will heal that. Work it out the best you can, possibly with professional help. But, on the other hand, if he keeps throwing it back up in your face everytime you guys argue, then it would be best to move on. He will always have that trump card to fall back on. And you will never have anything up your sleve to equal that. Life is too short and precious to put yourself through mental tormoil like this. If he can never really get over the mistake you made, then i will say move on.

lil boosie	you should ask him if you really love me well you should forgive me and move on everybody cheat but nobody is perfect that's why god made us the way we is.

Jackeeeee	im going through a similiar situation, im having the same problem as your fiance. Its really hard to get over betrayal of your spouse. I bet he is trying really hard to forgive you, but that doesnt mean he isnt hurt still. I love my fiance with all my heart, but he has hurt me really bad, and thats something i never thought he would do. Spend sometime apart from each other, so things can cool off. I think thats what i need too. Dont give up, just realize its not something thats going to be easy!

WhyNotMe	Have you tried talking to him

texas_angel_wattitude	He'll never forget about it, it will always be in the back of his mind. Everytime your late or not home when you say you will be that is the thought that will cross his mind. Its hard to forgive someone who cheated regardless if you were separated during a trial period or not. Some people look at it as "if you loved me the way you did how could you have done it". If he's told you he's forgiven you but keeps bringing it up I'm willing to bet 10 yrs from now during an argument it will come up then too.

newbiegranny	Counselling. He probably does love you, but treachery is not soon forgotten. You will have to earn his trust again, which is the price one pays for cheating. You should get counselling because these relationships can be healed. Best Wishes, Sue

jrs wife!	im having the same problem only were married. he took me back and now he throwns it in my face. what u need to understand is you hurt him really bad and hes probably fighting with himself. he loves you but hes scared that youll do it again. my advice is seek marrital couseling. especially before you get married. good luck girl!!

newmanagain	first of all, you have to realize,he is never going to forget ,but if he is willing to forgive ,then he will put it away ,turn it over to god, and NEVER bring it up again.Good Luck I hope things work out.

pinkestkitten21	well, he has alot of bad feeling towards u. i think u should get out of the relationship before it is to late. he is always going to ise that against u. he will make u feel real bad about yurself. if you cheated, then u are not ready to get married. goodluck 2 ya

JohnS	It doesn't matter what you do.... He will always refer back to you cheating on him and will use this to get his way.... The best thing you can do is get out of this relationship.... There is no good in staying.... Maybe next time you will consider your actions....

Fruit Cake Lady	Someone who has been cheated on can never forget, they can only forgive, and don't expect them to keep doing that either.

mayihelpyou	You should have thought of this before you cheated on him. He obviously hasn't forgiven you or forgotten. Being cheated on is one of the hardest things to forgive or forget as you have let him down big time. You have taken away the trust he had for you and it may never be fixed. It may take him some time, but chances are slim.

Cyber Stalker	You need to make sure that he always knows where you are. You should also only be around people that he knows and trusts. When you are out you call and check in frequently and let him know where you are going and who you are with. This may seem like childhood all over again, but you certainly brought it upon yourself. I'm really not sure why he would take you back, but you need to work hard to regain his trust.

babubabuni	He's getting back at you by treating you this way and it might get worse. Now that he has you real close he is going to do his best to make sure you know you hurt him every single day, he is going to be very resentful and probably say something like "you screwed this relationship up not me" and finally, he'll probably get back at you by doing the same thing to you. Get out while you still can.

Sara	Why do you want him to forget? Why did you cheat? If you really loved him, I don't think you would have. I'm in your fiance's position right now. I don't trust my husband at all, knowing that he cheated on me. Why should I believe he wouldn't do it again? Words don't mean anything, actions and behavior do. It will take a lot of time, a lot of begging, and a lot of you showing how much you love him EVERY DAY before he might start to trust you again, if he ever does. Good luck with that.

ransdoll90	He is setting you up for the fall. He is going to get his revenge. If that is how he is behaving. He is just drawing you in.

chelle302002	I dont think you can get him to forget be i think if he really loves you he will forgive you and put it behind him . But turn the tables around ......could you forget ?

Jools	Don't go back with him if he is really mean to you don't be with no one who wants to do that to you be with someone who well want to do things for you and treating you the right way.

?	tell him to make up his mind, what you did was wrong but so is what he's doing

mrseahorse1	sorry to say he may forgive , but he will never forget

al p	bring another woman over for him and then you will be even and he can get over it

french_frnd	Move out.

me4tennessee	dump the dude it doesn't sound like either of you want to be married date lots of guys until you are ready to settle down