how do i stop hitting and hurting my wife?

Trese	Do the right thing and leave. Get help. Don't make her misarable no longer. Think of her and what she is going through....how would you like to get your butt kicked by someone who loves you? It's not right, Don't be selfish, get the help and let her be.

BDON	You're funny man! Domestic violence isn't funny, but going on the internet to get advice on how to not hit your wife is. I assume you threw the question out for shock value? If so, hit her harder!

witcheywoman	A real man doesn't hit a lady for no reason. Love isn't suppose to leave bruises. Men like you think its always her fault but its the devil in you. Its your fault your the only one that can control yourself. Myself if you where mine, I would wait till you fell asleep an throw a blanket over you an I would beat you to death with a iron skillet.

queryboy	yu need professional help man. i am not joking here. yu shudnt hit yur wife. its very bad to do that to the girl who has decided tht yu are worthy enuf for her to spend the rest of her life with. isolate what causes the flare up and reduce it. go for meditation or anger management.

Tom Da Bomb	some day you'll kill her in your rage then you'kk never have to worry about hitting her or hurting her again

?	You can't possibly love her, if you don't mind hurting her. Love does not hurt!! Think about it. When you are mad at yourself do you smack yourself around. If not then you should not hit her. If you don't stop you might Love her to Death!!!

Joe	your differences and differences of opinion should be manifested as awe and love, not anger. that would be ideal. You love her, now show her you do by not hitting her.

vogue	you didn't love her that much because you like to hurt her when you're mad..

Jack P	You need counseling. Get it before someone calls the cops on you. This way you get a better choice of counselors.

david o	KILL YOUR SELF YOU SOB. GEEEEEEEEE i see someone dont like my answer. oh well.

FairGround	get counseling.

quik1804	listen, women can be a pain in the * sometimes, but it is up to you as a man to be a bigger man and not hit her, try to avoid situations in which you know she gets mad. if she is acting like a pain in the * and you start getting aggressive then the results will be ugly. step up and be a man and explain to her and try to make her see things, if she doesnt reason with you then shes the one with the problem.

GR	If you really love your wife, you won't abuse her. This is not what love is all about. Real men do not hit their wives, no matter how much they anger them. If its that bad, walk away. It sounds like you and your wife need to get counseling. Talk to your local healthcare provider and ask for help. Also, pray in sincerity and ask the Lord to help you stop being abusive. Don't stop praying until your prayer is answered. It works. And at the end of your prayer, thank the Lord for answering your prayers.

Alan	Get counseling immediately. You are sick.

Meryl	You need to pack up your stuff and get out now. Save her a lifetime of misery. If you love her, leave her, even if she begs you to stay. Also, don't drink. You're hitting her cause you're crazy. Maybe you're crazy with booze? Regardless--Go!!! Leave this woman be!

i love rain92790	GO TO THERAPY! u can get arrested for this dude. try to blok out the anger. push it away. fight anger, not ur wife.

ven	for not hitting her, firt thing is u stop getting mad.

lilparis_12	Praying is good.Go to God about it what should u do.Go to God pray and believe thathe going to make away for u to stop,hittin ur.I'll pray for u to stop hittin her.She might in up leavin u,so stop it take it to God first before u make a misesteak

slpkwp	You may need to get away from her for awhile, she does not deserve to be hit or beaten, no-one does. And a man that abuses his wife isn't really a man. If he where he would NEVER hit anyone in anger. If you really love her, you would NOT want her to hurt, you need to evaluate your feelings and your relationship. Get counseling, alone and with her. And find an Anger Management group in your area to join. I hope you don't have any children and if you do, I hope they have never seen their daddy hit their mommy. Also, if you really want to stop hurting her, either tell her to call the cops on you if you do it again, or be a man, stand up to what you did and turn yourself in.

Danica F	let me tell you my story, my father killed my mother at the end, im now 23 and suffer a great deal....think of the live you are ruining and the others that may suffer in the future. give yourself over to the police , so that they can lock you up. you will learn your lesson in jail and feel for yourself how it feels to be beaten. you dont deserve to breathe.

vanessa	just think of what would happen if she called the cops:(

livlafluv	You don't love her you love to see her down and helpless, maybe you should go to a bar and pick on the biggest guy there and get your *** whipped and you will know how she feels.

nikki	U got to be f**kin kidding me. u are a poor rat mouth bum. u must be white cuz if u were messin wit a black woman "me" i would chop off a couple of things. and u wouldn't have a arm to hit me wit. Know that! tell ur wife to call me i'll give her sum advice 314-494-2542. dum basturd!

bejay	Man you need help now, she doesn't make you mad you choose to get mad! Respect her first & take time out [leave] if you have children go now!. Cut out all booze & drugs they're no excuse. If your in Aust there are groups & counselling avilable use the web to find them rather than playing with this site, try Mensline [phone] or MHIRC. It's that or goal for you!

aims48	speak to a psychiatrist or your local health professional. They will be able to point you in the right direction. If your wife and yourself need to separate whilst you get treated then so be it. Its better for her to be safe than risk doing further damage or worse. Atleast you have recognised that you have a problem, this is more than many other people but please dont make excuses for your behaviour (ie: but she makes me so mad sometimes)

Dave	How about I come over and knock the shytt out of you!!!

Laura Renee	You should separate from her for the sake of safety and so you can both clear your thoughts. Both of you should get counselling, you for your inability to control yourself when you're angry and for blaming her for your anger (your angry behavior stems much deeper than her mere presence in your life), and she for allowing you to treat her that way.