how do you help someone who needs help but wont admit she needs it?

kunsang	i am ready to help everyone by adviceing and give some important informaton.

Morningstar	What a painful situation. The law says that an adult has free will and can live independently. There is nothing you can do. Spending Christmas alone is not awful. Plenty of people do so by choice every year. Not everyone likes all the talking relatives and dinner table ritual. It can even put some people off to go through the whole choosing, buying, wrapping, and giving presents. They don't really want to receive a present and they want to give one even less. Allow her to make her own choices and don't force her to comply with yours just to make YOU happy. I am sorry about your daughter's illnesses. She appears to be under the care of a doctor. Unless you go to court and petition it to become her guardian, you must let her live her life as she sees fit. Do not make yourself miserable by wallowing in a big old vat of mother's guilt. You didn't make her the way she is. She probably didn't make herself the way she is. It is sad, but still hopeful. Pray for her. Help her when she will permit it. Love her.

strawberries	Are you sure its her? in my experience, the person who cuts contact is usually being disrespected for awhile and hurt. Don't pretend that might not be the case. Some ppl do bc they'd rather pretend. The only way to fix it is to address the disrepsect she's getting from whoever she's trying to avoid. Good luck.

logicalanswer	Not much you can do, as was said she is an adult. She has to first get sick and tried of being sick and tired and want to change. It is impossible to help the unwilling and unwanted....

zombie_kitty_from_hell	I developed a chronic illness about two years ago. I got angry at my family because they treated me like I was going to die the next day, constantly. They told me about herbal remedies that would heal my condition, told me that if I "just did this" or "just did that" that I would be okay, when none of those options worked. Settle down and examine yourself. Are you selfishly trying to "cure" this 37 year old woman who, by the way, is capable of making her own decisions because you're too worried about her welfare, or are you just doing what you're doing because it's in her best interest? If you answered the latter, you clearly need to learn a thing or two about letting go. It's in her best interest to do what she wants. All you can do is quietly support her in any way you can- you can't force her to do anything without alienating her anyway. Stop stressing and do whatever it takes to make her happy. Offer to go out and do something when she has some free time, and overall don't be an arbiter of what she should or should not do.

Elizabeth	I understand that you want her to magically come back to the family like that, but it isn't that easy, she has to want it for herself, she has to want to wake up and say I want to stop all of this nonsense and go be with my family, and even if she has decided she is better off on her own she has to want to decide to be better off with family, it is more of something in her choice, but I suggest you gather your family and try to talk sense into her and show her how she is hurting your family by not being there.

panda bear	As sad as this is, she is an adult and will do what she wants.