how long would you stay in an abusive marriage before you couldn't take it anymore?

twinkle2twinkle	60seconds long enough time to knock the shitt out of.

Nutmuffin	Nobody has the right to lay their hands on you. There is nothing on the marriage license that says that because you are marrying this person that you have to endure a lifetime of being abused by them. A marriage is supposed to be a commitment for two people who love each other and make each other happy. The first time he would even think of laying his hands on me I would be out of there. My grandmother, my mother, my sister, and a few of my friends endured an abusive boyfriend/husband and it breaks my heart to see or hear of a woman being put through that anguish. You need to get out now before things really get bad. The longer you let him beat on you, the worse the beatings will become. My mom's ex used to tell her that no other man would ever want her so even though he beat on her, she wouldn't leave him because he had that drilled into her head. It's not true. Not all men treat women like that. The ones who do are scum. I wish you the best of luck.

dear_vern	Just long enough to write this question. It will get worse, and one day you may not be able to write this question. Run !!

dee	well, i dont believe we should stay in there at all. but, i have been in a marriage for the last eighteen years and it has been on and off abuse. i thought i could save him or change him. and, i use to be scared of him. not anymore he started with me fighting and throwing stuff and i stood up and starting acting just as nuts as him and he now is afraid to start for i might start acting like a raving loon. all i can tell you is you dont deserve to be treated like crap. you are someone and you are a person who deserves respect. and if he is abusive to you whos to say he wont be that way with your children in the long run. you better handle this before something goes wrong bad that you cannot fix. dee

precious	i think it's time for you to get out now. one time is too many. a real man doesn't hit a woman so it's time for you to go and find a real man honey!!! even if you have to go get an order of protection against him. your too good for that. i hope everything works out for you in the end. please leave now before it's too late ok.

Kerbear	only you know the answer to this. you will know when you are ready to leave. its when not if. it will take you by surprise and you will eventually walk with your head held high. you will turn away and never look back. make sure you have lots of support around you and when you are begged to return you remember all the hard times and the reasons behind you leaving. things wont ever change. i did it for 9 years.

connie p	I was raised in a non abusive home, however, I found myself in several abusive relationships. The only things I can tell you is to get out QUICKLY!!! It will never change or get any better! You are just wasting your life and being miserable! NO ONE DESERVES TO BE ABUSED IN ANY AWAY SHAPE OR FORM! You have to believe in your self enough to leave! Before one day you wake up and your very old and discover you waisted your whole life! It's not easy to do but you have to do it. You owe it to yourself!!

SNAKEDOG	GET THE HELL OUT NOW!!!!!!! I would not let a man put his hands on me. I would back door him before he back doors me!!!!!!!

Dee M	get out fast! it will never get any better, I stayed in a abusive marriage way to long thinking I was doing the best thing for my kids, it only made it harder on them.

Cheri >^.^<	I wouldn't stay in an abusive marriage at all. Ever see the movie "Enough" with JLo or "Sleeping with the Enemy" with Julia Roberts. There is your inspiration to go!

myhoneylips2002	First of all, I would not choose to be in one. I love myself way too much for that! If that were the case, he would be six feet under..

teriwilburn	Not one red hot second. Kick his A S S to the curb

kystarlyte_kystarlight	After 2 abusive marriages...not one minute!!! My new hubby is very sweet, but he knows where I stand on that issue. He disrespects me...it's ON!

Tsunami	i stayed in it 14 years. its just you don't see it that way at first. i know this first hand. plus you are beaten down so much you think its your fault at first then you grow abit and find out one day its not you its him. then when you finally wake up the only way to make it is hate him and take the kids and get a life. well i started that but guess what the parents were involved and they felt they didn't know all the stuff and helped him with me and i went back for two more kids and then divorce. it was horrible but life. i mean you say it can be easy toleave but its not you have ot have a good mind set then you can and when you are ready then you can leave.

flgalinms	stay in an abusive marriage, are you kidding me? I grew up watching so much stuff it would make your head spin. the roughest thing I ever saw, I was four. I watched my stepfather drag my mother out of the house by the hair of the head, strip her naked in the front yard and put a gun to her head. needless to say, I've told every man I have ever dated that if they ever raised a hand to me, I would blow their brains out. (for the record, I don't own a gun, but no one has ever hit me!) as for the verbal, it's a little harder to say. is something said out of love (as in, that dress makes you look fat, and they don't want you to embarrass yourself) or is it said for spite? but I don't take kindly to verbal abuse, and I have divorced a husband over such...

Emily G	I wouldn't stay in it at all. If my husband ever hit me I would be out the door the same day.

archbishop_eugene	My dear lady; NO ONE is worth staying in an abusive relationship..Get out NOW! Go to your local clergy, or State Family services for help. Know that my prayers are with you.

Julia	If i was being physically abused I would get out right now!! If it was emotional I would try marriage counseling and after that if nothing changed I would then decide to leave. Take care.

Gone	i wouldn't stay with anyone who is abusive. i would loose my love for that person right away. if your in one get out. there's someone out there that will appreciate u. good luck.

guitar freak 101	GET OUT OF IT NOW!!!!! You deserve sp much better and really should get out now!!!!!!!God has such a wonderful plain for you so get out of that relationship and start over!! I will be praying for you.So be brave girl !!! Remember God is alawys with you even when you feel like he's not!!

aunt_webby	why stay in an abusive marriage ? get out and start a new life before its too late !

akaasa	Get out from it ASAP! you should have seen oprah show, they talked about this subject before, and even oprah suggested if you feel a bit threathen, that voice within you is actually a very good sign and you should know it better. Do not wait until you're half dead to get out, or probably it'll be too late..

jewel	Leave as soon as possible.

Twizzle	for me... I'd be out right away... I grew up in an abusive home, I have dealt with all the crap that goes with that, am very sure of myself now (where before I used to think the abuse was my fault)and won't let abuse in my life again from someone who is supposed to be close to me.

tips2	meet someone just right for you

baryons	Never stay in an abusive marriage, don't just "take it".

jrd	I would say that if the marriage is abusive, your spouse can't really LOVE YOU! They should want you to be happy and enjoy life, not live in fear!

Rhinogal	I did it for five years. Was with him for 11, from the time I was 17 through 28. Kicking him to the curb was the best thing I ever did for myself!!! Hooray for freedom!!!

olderbutwiser	Not one second...the FIRST time he was abusive to me, I would be out of there. Life is too short to be abused!!