how to stay faithful to my husband?

alex v	Don't have an affair, your husband will find out, beat you up really badly and you will believe (wrongly) you deserved it. Foster good strong platonic relationships outside your marriage and insist that your husband get help for his aggression. If you do love your husband as you say you do help him be a better person, don't let him continue along this destructive path. Please please please take responsibility for your own welfare and get help for both of you so you can live without fear and violence in your life.

emt_me911	If you have to ask that, then maybe you shouldn't be married. If your husband is abusive (believe me, it never gets better), then you need to start taking the steps to end the marriage. You may love your husband and he probably loves you, but having an affair because you are unhappy or afraid will not make things better. In fact, it might trigger a violent episode at home. You don't love a spouse "most of the time". Either you love them or you don't. Obviously, you have no respect for marriage vows. No reason is good enough for an affair. Get into counseling or end the marriage. In the meantime, stay faithful. EMT

Gianna's Mommy	And you think that by cheating he's going to be nicer??? umm i don't think so... i would suggest some counseling and if that doesn't help then consider something else

Lisa J	It is never, never okay for a man to hit a woman. How can you love someone who is ABUSING you? You are lucky that you don't have kids with him. You have a job. Leave him. Date the guy at work once you are divorced and settled into a new place.

the smoken man	take the new guy if you like actually like him, but your husband doesnt deserve you if he hits you, no matter how hard. Get rid of your husband. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.

dwave	if you really love your husband stand up for yourself so he'll stop, if he doesnt stop itll only get worse. good thing you dont have kids with him. are you middle eastern?

â™¥ â™¥HONESTY RULESâ™¥â™¥	He's a wimpy hitter........and that makes it okay? F*ck whoever you want, he broke his vow to love and PROTECT so go break the one that's even more fun to break! Get a divorce JEEEZZZZ

IJToomer	First, I understand you love your hubby - however, hitting is never ok, so to say that he hits you, but not badly, doesn't compute. Second, having an affair isn't going to help you at all - it will make things worse. Third, you need to forget about having an affair and concentrate on getting away from your hubby, or helping him make things better for the two of you. Know that things are only going to get worse - hitting never gets better and typically the abuser doesn't just stop.

Meg H	If my husband was hitting me I would have an affair too. You need to get away from your husband fast! It will only get worse!

Bernedette	Dont have an affair. Either say "Do I want to be with him or do I want to be without him?" Then find someone.

belle300dame	Get a divorce, you sound like your not sure you want to be married anyway. Don't go rebounding to this guy at work. You may just wind up hurting him. Get your shi*t together before you attempt a relationship. Next time your husband hits you, Call the police....

Damarr G	u shouldn't let him touch you like that. i would threaten to leave if he hit me again. but as for the affair....they never have good endings. keep that in mind. but make your own decision. ask yourself "is it worth it"

Oni V	Wow, i mean if you've known your husband for like nearly 10 years, would u wanna risk all that for a fling =S i think, if you didnt like your husband or werent in love with him anymore, than you should be able to tell him that u dnt love him anymore and get with the guy at work but i mean as you said, you love him most of the time....hmmm you might regret the affair and end up without a husband, think carefully!.

Shizam	If you're having thoughts of someone else, you either need marriage counseling or you need to leave the marriage. Your husband needs to participate fully, because it's clear he has anger issues.

whitetiger731421	You should never cheat on your husband. If you think he hits now, how do you think he will be if he finds out you have been cheating. You need to sit down with him and address his problem and ask that he seeks help for it. Do not take any excuses as it is wrong for him to EVER hit you. Give him a timeframe to get his act together or you are out of there. That way he will know you are serious. You can have your friend at work for moral support but do not cross that line until you are free to do so.

E D	Get out before you make things worse and have a child with this guy. Don't defend or rationalize his behavior, there is never a time when abuse is ok. Don't get involved with someone else right away either, clearly you aren't at a place emotionally where you need to be dragging the other guy into your life.

Cindy W	leave him first, violent is not good and will not get better. then have your fling.

DANNIE	leave him and then decide but not for awhile you need to get closer on one relationship before starting another and i never cheat two wrongs do not make it right

Val	This makes me mad just reading it. I know that you love him, but no one deserves that treatment. No one. If i were you, I would leave him. It sounds like you want to cheat because you are not happy with the one you have. You need to make a decision right there: Are you wanting to try to fix the relationship or are you wanting to end the relationship? Having an affair will just make you temporarily happy. It won't solve it. Either divorce or take the time and effort to work out the issues you guys have, don't go into this half life of being sneaky and resenting yourself. I highly reccomend seeking marrage counseling.

Ricky	Cheat on the abuser every pump from the other man will free you. Honest Rules gave you a great answer i agree with her,

napqueen	don't. get a divorce & hook up w/the new guy. if he hits you now, it'll just get worse as time goes on.

floridaman39us	Do not stay with him if he hits you. NO ONE deserves to be hit in a marriage. Leave him today.

HangingChad	Get counseling. Don't have any kids until it's resolved.

RawRRâ„¢	TALKK to him! [[=

Marisa	hitting is not an option tell him to either go to counceling or it's over it doesn't matter if you love him its just going to get worse and worse

drifter	Save yourself from this relationship. He's hitting you and it doesn't matter how hard he's still doing it and that is not a safe place to be in. A husband should NEVER hit his wife. Edit: If you really want to save your relationship tell him to stop hitting you and threaten him with a divorce. Maybe go and see a christian counseler. It would help. Good luck hun Edit again: If you do want to divorce him then divorce him first so you could skip the affair part. That'll just cause more issues.

Fine Like Wine in 09	what problem will be solved by you having an affair if your husband is the problem you need to deal with him