i am inlove with a married man for 4 months now and i am not sure if he loves me or if he is useing me for ?

D L	If you've given him everything he's asked for in terms of love and pleasure, like it sounds you have, then he's probably just getting comfortable that you'll stick around for a while--So he doesn't feel like he has to try as hard. I've seen this in my relationships--not with married women, but just women in general. After a time of courting and trying to get in bed with a girl, once it's done, then I try less hard because I figure she's "mine". Then, she starts feeling neglected and leaves. I think women appreciate men staying thoughtful throughout a whole relationship, while guys try hard until the relationship feels solid and then stop trying so hard. I think it's a natural guy thing. Personally, I think you shouldn't be with a married man. It'll just lead to trouble down the road. Find yourself somebody single.

J92009	He's probably found someone else to use. He is a cheater why in the world would you want a man like that. Your not special my dear if he cheats on his wife you think he's going to be faithful to you. Learn to respect yourself and find a man who isn't married.

donna d	he will never leave his wife for you.if he is getting careless then he is about to end it with you.your a home wrecker you get what you deserve you think a married man is going to leave his family for you lol.your not the first and you wont be the last.

Billy S	I must say you are NOT IN LOVE. you are in confusion with this man. Ask yourself, where do you see yourselves in 5 years?

S!LL!3G00B3RTTC	leave him alone for the reason that he is married.

Shy1	Simple, stay away until he actually shows you concrete divorce papers. You don't mow on somebody else's lawn.

jk1967	well since u are a homewrecker why do u care he probably is sleeping around with someone else i hope u are using protection

Tony d:-)	If he is cheating on his wife now, chances are he will cheat on you in the future. Think about what it is like for his wife, what you are doing to his wife. Always wait until they are divorced.

B-Rookey	Sorry Judy - he's just using you to fill a void. Get rid of him and find a single man that will really show you what love is. Good luck!

say it all...	He's married! You are just a part-time piece of a$s...he'll never leave his wife for you. Have some self-respect! Dump him and get a new (single!) boyfriend.

BOB N	Just enjoy the ride. He ain't gonna leave his wife for you unless he is truly unhappily married. How can YOU really know this? You need to do some homework...(aka sneaking around).

Kitty	Thats sad that youre actually taking part in this. Imagine the poor woman hes married to. You need to end the relationship. Especially if he has kids too. Find someone single and dont ruin someone's marriage.

Incredible	he's married. hence, he has committed "forever" to someone else. unless he divorces. leave him alone home wrecker. i think hes tired of u. and i think you only love him for the gifts lol

Ã±Ã¥ÃÃ¥	He doesn't love you, sorry

!!Brileys mommy!!	Home wrecker. Joking come on now, be a woman.. leave him alone and find a single man :) how would you feel if you were that mans wife?

choice_4_men	Using you? Clearly you have a mutual relationship with this man. He is using you for what he wants and you are using him for what you want. Next question?

Chuck	You can't shower somebody with gifts ALL the time. he's just settling in.

*A T**	the home wrecker has out stayed her welcome

kay	He just wants you for your bat wings

Pandora	you should not be involved with a married man. He is using you.

chelliebean	keep in mind if th is loser cheats on his wife with you, he will no doubt cheat on you..give me a break...just because he gives you gifts doesn't mean he cares about you..you sound pretty shallow..

visvardis	shame on you find a boyfriend thats single move on

justme	He knows you're sticking around no matter what, so he doesn't need to leave his wife. He buys you gifts and tells you sweet things so he keeps you holding on to the hope that he might leave her and be with you. Not gonna happen, or it already would've. In fact, it's very rare that a marital affair results in the married person leaving their spouse. You're a phase, a break from the monotony, a booty call. Don't give him the option of using you like that.

Dave87gn	he's using you judy!

Really Billy	Help you? Shouldn't we be helping this idiot's poor wife?

Betta breeder	I think he's found another lover.