i want to get married,but ..............................................?

analisha2201	If she knows your financial status now and she wants to marry you, don't worry about it. You can't worry about the future, the future will take care of itself.

JustMy Opinion	Only you have control of your future and how it will be.

letterstoheather	have you told her that you are struggling financially right now? are you engaged? if so............. i'm going to tell you that, you have to get out all of your finances, bills and other things and sit down with her and explain what is going on...... i had a boyfriend who pretended he was financially set, and even pretended he was looking to buy another house... about 6 months later his utilities were being shut off, his house was going into foreclosure. mostly it was because he just doesn't bother to pay his bills and has NO integrity, but believe me when is say i didn't like the lies and surprises!!! i hated him for lying, and trying to "REEL ME IN" by pretending to be someone he wasn't!!! and the truth is, i told him ALL ABOUT ME.. and my life issues, etc. i gave him a choice, to take me or leave me with the truth. anyway, letting your girlfriend know exactly where you stand financially will give her a choice.... and it will make you look honest and sincere as well! you can also discuss your ambitions and whatever plans you may have for the future to improve things, or not. if she is going to be working, then, that might help out some? of course that is personal between the two of you. i think being up front and honest is the best thing you can do. if she loves you, and is accepting she will likely be willing to work together toward changes and a better financial future. finances and the way you expect to live day-to-day, future plans, are very critical and important to discuss before marriage, anyway.

Kakashilove<3	if you feel like you are ready you should take the next step. you cant live your life in fear with what ifs all the time... If you love each other you will work through every obstical that is put in your way. no one said it was going to be easy but it is worth it!

keral	you don,t want to do any thing

Hope I Can Help :-)	I can't exactly tell if you have financial problems now - or your just worried about the future. If you love her and she loves you then get married. Make sure you sit down and dicuss what you want in the future and don't comeplety overextend yourself. Don't tell you'll give her everything she wants- 1st becuase if at one point you can't she could get mad and 2nd it is not good to have eveything given to you, it nice when you earn things. Just work a plan togther - be equal partners - just beucase your the man doens't mean you have to be the sole provider. Good Luck P.S. when you sit down and talk about finances also talk about other future things - like homes, cars, kids, how you want to raise them.

tikababy	Love conquers all. If you love her and she loves you it will all work out. No one is perfect and things may or may not happen. But you shouldn't let the fear of what may happen stop you from being with the person that you love. That is why your vows include for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health. Just know that you are not the only person that has ever had these feelings and go for it. If she loves you she will help you get through it and when you do get through it the two of you will be that much stronger and closer for it.

thepenpal	You seem to love her alot seeing as how you want her life with you to be perfect in every way. Heres the thing: If she loves you as much as you love her than money won't make much of a difference.

BabeHart	Why do you expect there to be financial issues? If you are not currently financially sound, then get there...people shouldn't marry when money is in serious question anyway. Money doesn't make a relationship, but it is necessary to pay the bills and put food on the table. Get yourself squared way in that regard and THEN propose...or propose but let her know you two won't marry until your financial issues are dealt with. Long engagements are fine...at least she'll know your intent.

C	If you are afraid that hard money times will cause her to not love you, then do NOT get married. Half of the fun of being married is working through these times TOGETHER. You are going to become one. If she is that selfish that money (or lack of it) will drive her away, you don't want her. Remember the vow, "For richer OR for poorer" Good luck and God Bless!

Sufi	live together first, keeping finances separate

poujmak	dear when i got married we didnt have enough money but now we are comfortable and happier than the other families.money is necessary for life but isnt everything . u can earn money by working . imagine if u had lots of money and u lose them in one problem what would u do .will u get divorved for that???ofcourse not. love is more important i think .

ianmaddux	As long as she loves you for you, and you both agree to not live beyond your means. You should have no problems. And the answer is yes, if you want to marry her, marry her.

C.C.	How about you sit down and talk to her? Tell her what you just told us. If a guy, especially my future husband, told me this, man, i would love that dude till i die. There's nothing better than talking and understanding. It's better to find out now than when it's too late. Anyways if she is just interested in you for money, than she's not your gal. Another thing when you get married your making a promise to be 2gether thru hard n easy, thick n thin. It's just the way life is. Take care and good luck.

Thomas	If you're that insecure about your ability handle your financial, run around on your future wife, and provide a comfortable life style. Stop pondering about marriage. Misery will come into any relationship good or bad ones, there is no way to prevent Misery...that is the bottom line. first you must know how to handle your own money situation, know when and not to spend. And she should be online with you on that issues. What do you know about her spending habits? You have to be secure about yourself and what you're want in life. Marriage, two people must work together on a continue basis to make it work.

Leslie G	The fact that you are worried about in this way shows that you love her. This is a question that only you can answer. If you truly love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her then yes you should marry her, but if you have any doubts then you should wait. Every marriage has money problems at one point or another so don't let that be your reason. Good Luck!

Spring	It is a good thing to be concerned about the future. I would say talk to her about all of your concerns but go ahead and marry her.

thoufic r	Hey man.. It's good that you think of the girl before you.. The best thing to do now, what i suggest is... You and the girl you wanna marry sit together (if you want) and discuss about the future.. This will help you get rid of those problem and misunderstanding you might have to face it in the future.. Marriage is something which is very important in every persons life.. Get yourself financially stable first and than think of getting married.. Somehow, whether we like it or not; Money decides most of the thing in everyone's life.. So plan carefully and wisely.. Good luck for your future!!! Regards FiC!!!

liddabet	I don't know on what you are basing your fear. Are you uneducated and unable to hold a job? A drunk? A druggie? What are you making now and how long have you held the job? Does she know EVERYTHING about your financial situation? If so - then it is HER decision about whether to marry you or not. Maybe money is not important to her - or she plans to be the breadwinner. As long as you are HONEST and communicate with her very clearly - it will be HER choice about whether to live with you or not - and only she can decide what is happiness and what is misery. Hope it works out!

mom of 3	money is not everything, so if the 2 of you truly love each other and want to be together forever then yes get married. marriage isnt all hugs and kisses there are alot of other issues involved, and communication is a very good starter so the 2 of you should talk with one another and find out if this is what you both want. good luck

cookiemonster75	if you love her, you marry her... when you're really ready. no one can really tell if you'll have financial problems in the future. it's just a part of life. you stumble, you fall, and you get back up on your feet. you have to take the risk. regardless, if you two really love each other, there's no problems that you wouldn't be able to solve. yea, there'll be arguments here and there, but isn't that a part of being in a relationship? you fix things. you help each other out. thats why when you get married you say "in richness and in poorness, in sickness and in health, till death do us part" right? goodluck. hope you make the right decision.

Babygirl000	marry her if your really love her..but also talk to her about your fears and concerns if shes any real woman it wont matter to her she'll love you for who you are and what you make her .not what you can give her...love isnt about what you get out of a relationship financially its about how it makes you feel emotionally..I for one feel inlove with my current hubby and when we first met he had NOTHING not even his own car to get around....but I liked him for who he was not what he could give me and after sticking though it and getting though hard times he ia now a doctor and loves me more for sticking with him though everything..best of luck!!

AudreyMarlene	You have a committed relationship without marriage for now. Work on providing more financial security and building your relationship and when the time is right you will know it. Why the rush? Sometimes doubts are your intuition speaking to you. Trust it!

mich	financial problems will cause serious fights. remember, money is the number 1 cause for divorce. its great that u love your girlfriend, but the finances have to be straight or she will resent you. what will happen when you have a baby. that puts a lot of stress on the marriage if u dont have the money to buy or do certain things. maybe you should just get engaged for now. dont rush into something if your not financially ready.

hollister_chick	just get married wen yer ready. its ok

Kasja	If she loves you then it wouldn't matter. Everyone has money problems at one point in there life. Money doesn't buy love or happiness, remember that. You can be married and living in a shack and your wife still love you. My husband and I have had money problems from day one, he has frequently been out of a job so i am the one supporting us but i still love him with all my heart. It does not make me love him any less. Of course, i get stressed and frustrated but it has never made me change the way i feel about him! So just relax, quite thinking about all the what if's and take chances, you need a little risk in your life!

hot_tamale962	how old are you? are you educated are you employed? does she want to work? life is about taking chances and making the right choices. you are on your own good luck

jezbnme	wait until you have your finances in order. you will both be happier.

bhackle2	dont worry about money issues. If you truly love her and she you then it wont matter.

tcc_00676	1st get job have her work too..for afew yrs don't have kids . life is full of surprises you just can't be a chicken...take a deep breath and on ward...