if i were to find a girls number in my husband's phone, what must i do, suppose they are having an affair?

rajan l	Just ask him about this very calmly and if there is a real affair then you take your own decision taking into consideration about family, children, society, your love for him etc. Since you are the best person to decide future actions.

januarygirl78	Well there could be a million other reasons for a girl's number to be in his phone besides an affair. If you think he is having an affair than talk to him about it and don't snoop because if he isn't having an affair and he catches you snooping....well that can lead to a bunch of other problems. You should be able to tell if he is telling the truth in the way that he answers the question. Good Luck!

Mr. Taco	It COULD be an affair. But not necessarily. It could be a co-worker he calls for work-related stuff. Could be a doctor. A cousin. The girl who made the present he bought you for your birthday. Who knows? Do you have another reason to think he is cheating on you? Is she in his "five?" Has he been talking to her a lot? Why did you look at his phone? Were you suspicous? If you have other reasons to think he is having an affair, then maybe that is the girl. Otherwise, you may be being paranoid. Ask him who she is and see if he stutters or stumbles in his speech or gets really defensive. If he does, you probably have a cheater on your hands. Or you COULD call the girl and ask her! If he IS having an affair, she might not even know he is married! Time to start asking some questions.

mamadana	why do people in relationships walk these fences!!! If you are married or in a serious relationship DO NOT put yourself in a position that could turn into an affair, or "accident", they "it just happened" doesn't fly. Confront your husband and save the trust!

su	first ask ur hubby

bad_brad	i have lots of girls phone numbers in my phone but i haven't had an affair with any of them...i just keep the number incase i should ever need to call them for things...but none are to call for dates or anything. if you can confront him about things you find don't be snooping for things....a good relationship is built on trust and being open with one another....loosen up.

Kaja	doesn't mean a dang thing ask him, how he responds will let you know why way to lean

sarah	just ask him it might be just a friend. dont worry too much. just ask him. if you find too many girls' numbers then i think your husband has issues.

NONAME	dont confront him, he'll think you've been looking at his phone (which you have been) and that your giving him no privacy, and to be fair your probably over reacting, if he starts acting suspicious THEN ask him, but until he comes home with a mysterious hicky three hours later than usual with his shirt back-to-front then just forget about it

free_angel	Suppose they were and suppose you found out and shoved his phone up his *** sideways.

Elaine P...is for Poetry	Maybe it's the saleswoman who is going to send you flowers. What are you doing looking through your husband's phone? A marriage based on this kind of sneaking around is in trouble. And I suspect that you're the cause of it.

The West Coast Avenger	If you have an open honest relationship with him, ask him what it is. If his answer is reasonable, and you trust him, let it go.

diva_500	You could always call the number and say: "Hi. I found this number on my phone and didn't know who it was. Do you know me (your name) or my husband (his name)?" If she didn't know he was married, she might be shocked and back off. If she hangs up suddenly, there might be something going on... Either way, you might want to ask your husband.

â™¥Chamillitary AmberleÃ©â™¥	Ask him who that is...Or maybe you could hire a private investigator...

tender loving dyke	No I wouldn't assume anything. If you want to know who she is ask your husband. If call the number and its innocent your gonna make yourself stupid. You can also google the number to see what kind of info comes up.

gogo	I would ask him about it nicely without attacking just to see what his reaction is.

Nate the Great	Of Course not...That would be psycho!! Just bring it up easy, and dont be overbearing!

as i	before jumbing into a conclusion beleive ur husband

dhustle	well talk to him bout it unless you were just snooping through his phone..but you should talk to him bout it dont go staright to ecusing though

Uncle John	Why are you browsing around in your husband's phone? Do you trust him or not? There are a whole lot reasons he could have a girl's number in his phone, none of which has anything to do with infidelity. Why do you ask the question in the first place? I don't know anything about your husband, but I am starting to think that YOU have a problem.

the_reverend2u2	Before you loose your mind and go crazy with BAD thoughts. I would simply ask.. hunny whos __________ and why is her # in your phone. if he says oh that so and so my new boss or whatever i would let it lye, if he gets all bent.. chances are there is something he is hiding..

ndnqt1966	Ask him why he has a girl's number in his phone. Don't just assume it is an affair. Might be something completely innocent...but then again it might not be...JUST ASK!

Vanilla	Not necessarily! It might be someone from work... or a family member, or some insignificant person. Best thing to do is ask.... or... be sneaky and call the number, but he might not like that. :P

whateva	yes, you should assume the cat is creepin'.

firstythirsty	Probably not. Surely your husband knows you well enough to know you might be snooping through his things, so if he was having an affair he would be careful about not leaving evidence around. Just talk to the guy about it. The woman is probably a coworker or something.

dave d	Castrate him!

Forever Pink	ummm..maybe talk to him about it!

~Hannah~	then you don't do it! What the heck of a question is that?!?!?!??!?

j b	Confront your husband. God Bless.

mlscherr	Just ask him.