is it wrong to cheat on husband if he doesnt care for you anymore?

Sunshine	NO !!!!!!!

Devil's Advocate	Yes, it would be wrong to cheat on him. No one deserves an unfaithful spouse. If you are truly unhappy in the marriage and you have tried to save it through counselling, etc, then file for divorce first and move on. If you cheat on him, it won't be only your husband that finds out. People will call you an untrustworthy, lying wh**e and any reputation you have built for yourself will be nearly impossible to regain. They will only feel sorry for him (especially since he is sick) and your affair will hound you for the rest of your life. I'm sorry, but people are very judgmental even when they don't have all the facts. You're in a tough situation. Good luck.

stingrayman007	go get you some. if he's labeled you as nothing more thn a caregiver and has moved out of your bed. i think he's already made his point. i have been cheated on by a spouse and it hurt alot. but because of his lack of interest i say go out nd get the affection you want need and deserve..

FBI(female body inspector)	yes it is divorce him then your free to do what you want

RSJ	Sorry- it's still wrong.

crazyworld	is it wrong..... yes....... but sorry he brought it upon himself. If he feels like you are only his caretaker..... then you know what... you do what you have to do. He can not make you suffer and expect for you not to find someone else. if there is no love between the two of you i would tell him that its time for you to move on and tell him to find another caretaker.... maybe one who gets paid to take care of him. Just be happy and take care of yourself.... two lonely people = one ugly murder

Dane Train	are you seriously considering cheating on your ailing husband? forget the moral issue for a moment; it is against the law for you to cheat on your husband. you'll lose your money and personal assets if caught. don't do it.

ndnqt1966	In the legal sense it is committing adultery and that is wrong....I have to ask if his health problems are due to years of smoking? If so...then he really never respected himself nor you by not taking care of himself. If my husband were to tell me that I was only his caretaker and nothing else....I don't know that I could stay with a man that has no concern for my feelings and my needs to feel loved and the need for affection....I think it is WRONG for him to treat you the way that he is.....but that is my opinion!

Lillie	I THINK THAT IF HE TELLS YOU ALL DIZ ** THAT U SHOULD DEFINALY HAVE A AFFAR ** HIM HE MOVED OUT OF THE BED SO LEAVE HIM LOVE M3M3

Dimitar A	Yes it is wrong. If he does not care, he should not be your husband. I suggest, divorse him then find some affection. Good Luck

vdiana_1221	"in sickness and in health...." I don't know if your vows consisted of this part, but if you still love him, take care of him...he still needs you, but he may not realize or appreciate it....it sounds like he may be depressed.

Miss Brown	Only you can answer how you'll feel if you do cheat. You're the one that has to live with the decision and it's repercussions. If it's worth it to you and you can live with it, then do it. I understand you're coming from a really difficult place, so best wishes to you.

two	One question is whether you care for him - and I don't mean as his caretaker. Do you love him ? And are you sure that he doesn't care for you anymore ? It is a possibility that his debilitating illness have so taken over his life that he can't think - much less - do anything about anything else. If you love him (remember those marriage vows ? "In sickness and in health" ?) ...if you love him, then this is the "in sickness" part. If, on the other hand, you don't love him anymore and you don't want to spend the rest of his life as an unpaid nurse, then it is time to leave. Yes, it is wrong to cheat on him when you are still married to him, but it is not wrong to determine that you need more in your life than you have. Just take the long view on this - if you are going to leave him, then leave him and start your life anew. Don't got out and "get affectionate" with someone just for the heck of it and don't do that at all until you are divorced and on your own again.

God Bless America	Sounds like he is a little selfish. Yes, it is wrong to cheat on him. Remember the line" through sickness and in health, til death do us part"? Talk to him about the situation and see if he can understand how you feel. He's probably mad at the whole world right now at being diagnosed with all those illnesses. Ask him if he wants a divorce, because your still active and need to move on in life. God bless you and him and good luck in whatever you do.

BabeHart	It's never okay to cheat. Why not divorce and be free to do as you desire? You could still maintain a relationship with your current husband, and help as needed or as you feel you should...but then you could also live your (romantic) life as you desire without any strings or bad karma.

redpeach_mi	there are several things going on here that need to be addressed. it might not be that he doesn't want to or like to make love to you, so much as he might not be able to due to his disease. second, i'm not sure if his emotions are really anger towards you, so much as they might be that he is angry because of his disease. sit him down and tell him that you are tired of just being his caretaker and that you want to be his wife, you deserve to be his wife. ask him to go to counseling with you. if he doesn't want to, then maybe it's time that you left.

elgil	I understand your feelings. But I don't think you should go behind his back. First, end the relationship. If you want to have an open relationship, it won't be fair for you Men don't have a problem with that, but you, as a woman, won't get the feelings you are looking for. And remember, YOU have the right to be happy. I wish the best for you.

mona	If your husband is having servere medical troubles then this is a way to deal with the hurt. Many people push away love ones so that they don't have to suffer with them, but really we all suffer. Cut you husband so slack. Ask you husband if he wants to end the marriage and find some one else to care for him. Let his answer guide you to where you should go. I think that you both need to talk to some one before a terrible mistake is made. I don't think that you should have to suffer. I wish you all the luck.

shelly_cute	if you dont love your husband, i think it is ok... but... if you love him, you'll regret it.

lashenica j	Sometimes, when a person is sick and it is apparent that they are not going to get better, they start to loose interest in things in life. i don not that he truly means those things, I believe that he is ashamed of himself. He is unable to do the things he used to do. He can not give you what you want so he separates himself from you as a way of not facing it head on. I beleive that you should cut your ties. I know he is sick and all but as you said you still have needs. It would better to leave him and move on to someone else rather than cheat on him and have to face that ridicule as well. I know you love him and I know that somewhere deep inside beyond the illness he has love for you as well, but sometimes we have to love from a distance. That is really your only option here, he may say he doesn't care and that you can sleep with ten men a day, bring into the house and live happily ever after but it will kill him quicker. This is really a tough call, but cheating is never good no matter what, even if the person is literally pushing you into it. Hope this helps, i will be praying you.

cutie ;)	no why don't u just divorce him if u dn't feel a vibe anymore it's okay 2 if he dosen't care about and hey he did say that u where only his "caretaker" nothing more so i guesse ur aloud! good luck!!!!!!! but ur still married so it would be wrong get divorced first ;) talk to ur husband a bit find ur true luva!!!!!! ;)

Anthony C	well unfortunately the situation doesnt benefit you, and cheating is cheating no matter the situation. i suggest a divorce first, but by all means everybody needs love, and if he has no intentions of giving that to you, then find it and be happy.

Lola	He may be saying these things becasue he's embarassed that he can't do them anymore, because of hil illnesses. He may be trying to push you away so you can emotionally "heal" before he dies, so he doesn't feel like he's leaving you a mess. Cheating is wrong, if its that bad, talk to him about it, and seek a separation.

Blossomo	Yes, it is wrong to cheat. Why are you staying with this loveless, selfish man?

SDS	Well if its all HIS fault...Maybe you could take some of the blame miss perfect!!!

Steph	cheating on your husband is not the answer,dont stay with him because you feel sorry for him,there are people who can care for him,get out and get yourself a life and someone who can keep you happy xx