is marriage worth it?

winner2007	No don't marry her you will only resent her in years to come and by which time you'll have a couple of kids in tow and feel the need to stay in a loveless marriage!!!!!!!

Private P	If you are not totally sure you want to, do not get married. It is very important, not a trivial matter. You two should go to pre-marital counseling, that will open both of your eyes. Be sure of your common goals, that you agree before getting married. Best of luck.

bee	if you love her and are POSITIVE that she is the one. even then... wait for your education. marriage can be difficult when u are trying to do school work

KitKat	I don't want to be the one to decide whether you get married or not, but if I were you I'd get my education first, and then get married.

Tennessee	If not ready to marry then I wouldn't but you can always have a long engagement. That way you can finish school and get a job. I wouldn't get pressured into something that your not sure about or ready for. I've been married for 23 years and from experience- it's allot of work that you both will have to really work on.

Amanda L	I think that if you feel ready for marriage and you feel right with who you are with, marriage is well worth it. However, if pursuing education is something that you think needs to come first, then go along with that. There is nothing wrong with wanting to make a good life for yourself (and future wife) before committing and possibly, struggling early in your guys' marriage. :) Good luck with everything.

tamara	That really depends on the couple. if you truely love each other then it would be worth it, but if you are rushing into it just because you think that is what she wants, your making a mistake. maybe you should talk to her, she may not even realize your anxieties. she may agree to wait to talk about it without a lot of prompting.

Laurennxx	if you're questioning whether or not you want to get married, than your clearly not ready. tell her that you're just not ready yet, and once you are you'll know you want to for sure.

littletricky	If you aren't ready, than don't. I was totally ready for it, it happened and than I found out how much I really wasn't ready. It is a lifetime commitment you are making. You have to wake up every day next to this person for the rest of your life. Hopefully, that will be a long time. I don't think 10 months is long enough to date someone. You sound young if you are still in school. Dont let her pressure you. A lot of girls, without realizing it, want to get married to have the whole big wedding experience.

Switch	You already have doubts...its too soon.

sweety	Marriage is way over-rated. Only humans practise marrigae. Marriage spells doom to freedom, fun and creativity.

Mistress Nykki	If you're not ready to get married, then it won't work. Two people need to make a mutual aggreement before they get married, talking about how they are going to handle money situations that may come up, general house rules, and basically what you both do and don't agree on. She shouldn't be persuading you if you're clearly not ready. Explain to her that just because you don't want to get married right this instant doesn't mean that you don't care about her. If this is still unacceptable to her, suggest a prolonged engagement untill you finish school. Most of all though, you need to TALK and communicate, a marriage won't make it if you do not communicate openly. I have been with my husband 2 1/2 years and we just got married June 1st. Good Luck!

justme	Wait

J C	Ultimately it's up to you. The thing is you really need to do what your gut tells you. I've been married 3 times and that is the one thing I have really figured out. Good luck!

Adri<3	It depends are you guys in love. If you are then go for it. But in my opinion I would wait but I am not you guys. Some people meet, get married in a week. GOOD LUCK :)

Cupcakes Moosey!	it is worth it if you are with the right person, somebody who you can tell anything too...

claire	ha ha huni your funny if you really want to marry her here is some really good tips FINISH YOUR EDUCATION,KEEP GOING OUT WITH HER FOR ABOUT ANOTHER YEAR OR TWO and the reason i said finish you education first is because she might leave u or you might leave her if you dont take care of the baby and school job wife AND a Baby wow t much but it dont matter wat i think it matters what you think but i hope i changed your mind and if i didn't watch the Maury show every day at 9:00am or at 11:00am then you ill find out that its hard to take care of you and your wife and your job and school and even a baby if y'all want one!!!

Brooke M	NO!!!! Finish your education first!! Women come and go an education is forever!!!!

gabluesmanxlt	HELL, no!

~life sucks~	If you have any doubts, dont do it. You both need to be 110% sure this is what you want before getting into this huge of a commitment. You dont need to be married to still love her and want to be with her. I think you are thinking rather responsibly about this. There is nothing wrong with what you want to do before getting married and if she can't see this, then i think she may be a little selfish or insecure. Make her see that by you finishing your education and getting a job will benefit both of you in the long run. My guess is you might just be one of those guys who wants to be the provider to his family and you realize you can't do that while still a student. And that, my friend, is not a bad thing, in fact, very noble and responsible, if you ask me.

mammato4boys	It's only worth it if you find someone you are compatible with.

wc2ketey	No!!! Get your education. Give it time. Don't rush into it. If it was meant to be, it will happen when you feel the time is right. And make sure she doesn't get pregnant!!!

summer-night-dream	It's early to get married.You should finish your education and get a job like you said and at the same time you can get to know your girlfriend better.

StormyC	Tell her exactly what you typed here. Don't be pressured into this decision because it will effect the rest of your life and affect your career choices.

lovelyinkedlady0613	No! and dont let anyone parents, girlfriends, friends, religion push you in to a marriage. I married the first time at the age of 20 and was divorced by the time i was 22. It was a marriage my frist husband and i pushed our selves into. Dumb thing to do. Finish your education, get a job, make a life for your self know you can support a family and care for them finantually! once you have that set in life then by all means find your wife and marry her. And you'll enjoy so much more the binds of marriage then you would if you married now. And as for the gf run like hell in the opisite direction from her.

jjjjjjjjj	No, you should wait until you've finished your education. If marriage is meant for you and her then it will survive the wait.

?	Do only what YOU feel comfortable with doing. If you aren't sure now you may regret it later. You should both want to be married.

Bean	Marriage is worth it if you are ready and able to make the commitment. If you love her and want it to last, wait until you are ready.

Rob B	Get into a place where you could live on your own before you consider marriage. You have to be a complete person before you can be a spouse.

mickey n	NO! You have do finish school then get a job and enjoy what you have done by getting said job. I say guy's should not merry until they are 30 or older. Live a little before setteling down. If she doesn't like it too bad. Believe me a wife and kids changes everything!