love my husband but not in love with him,what to do?

janicajayne	Realize that there isn't a difference and that real love doesn't make your heart flutter, your pulse speed up. It's being content knowing that this will be your partner for the rest of your life and enjoying what you have.

ReEnA	Real love is nothing like what you see in movies. Real love is being content with the other, accepting the whole person as he is, no questions asked. "Love, when it's a decision, makes it solid, makes it a commitment, makes it more lasting and more real. You can feel that you can be in love 20 million times in a day, but when you decide to be in love, you can only decide to be in love w/ one."

banjaxed	we have a support group for that its called EVERYBODY and we meet at THE BAR

lion_hawk7	Every marriage goes though peaks and valleys of love and romantic feelings. Id say just ride it out and try to look at the things you love about him and not the things you dont. maybe a change of perspective before you hurt his feelings in a way that may be ireversable

angelbabie083	My advise is to start dating again, date your husband. I know it won't be as simple as that, but it is a place to start. What made you fall in love with him in the first place? Ask him why he fell in love with you. Hopefully, you can stir some things up.

Jeff A	I think you may be under the impression that all the excitement you felt when you first met would continue. Love changes with time. Excitement is replaced with familiarity, trust, feelings of comfort around each other, etc. These are normal changes.

Ryan G	What do you mean you love him but your not "in" love with him...oh wait I think I get it... Ok first of all I would like you to know that whatever people write should be suggestions for you... don't base you decision on what we write but on what you feel... ok try counseling, maybe your marriage is missing that extra spice it had at first... if you have children, fight through hell and high water to stay together, unless he's a bad dude (abusive, etc.) your children, if you have any, need a father around... try to work things out... there are too many divorces in this world as it is... talk to him, tell him how you feel... maybe you need a short seperation so that you get a chance to miss him but just try to leave divorce as a very last resource... God bless you with this and good luck...

Mrs.G-unit	I think its natural to fall in and out of infatuation with someone. But I think love is choice. Love isn't those gooshy feelings where you feel like you can't be without someone. That is infatuation and it will always always fade. Love is a choice in the sense that when you always keep their best interest in your mind. In a choice to not hurt someone intentionally , a choice to communicate with them, and a choice to know that if your not what they need or they are not what you need to let them go. But first dear, remember when you were in love with him and try to rekindle that.

JANARVIHARAN	You cannot travel in two horses at a time. Either believe him completely or get out of the business. After all, understanding of family orientation starts by forgivings...

â€ Evonneâ€	Stick it out. Marriage is sacred. You made your bed...

K	Tell him. Otherwise, what's the point? Good luck.

malorie j	Well tell him how you feel.

Matthew R	marriage councling!

sweetie	If u r truly not in love with him u should tell him cause u will just him if hes truly in love with u.

â™¥â™ªâ™«â™¥â™«â™ªâ™¥	I guess you have 2 choices. Divorce or just stay with him. But personally (as much as I am against divorces), there's no point in staying with someone you're not in love with...

kttphoenix	Then you don't get love or marriage, and you may never have. You can try counseling, butif your using that tired old line, just get out.

i'm back again	i have heard that saying enough and it means nothing

Iknownothing	Break up with him. But for god sake don't tell him you don't love him. That hurts like hell and it may never go away. To say you don't love him is a cop out on your part. To say it is to hurt him and for you to say it you really want to hurt him, get it? Once that starts the hurtful words will flow and you may say you never loved him. Be very careful.

dearborne	It's common. Try harder. Talk about how to rekindle. Or go to counseling. It's worth the extra effort.

bssd12000	Accept it. It happens. After a while of being married for some people it happens sooner for others later, after a while, the intense "in love " feeling goes away and is replaced by genuine caring, unselfish love. It is a natural way of things. I have to say though it is not one that I like. I liked the "in love" feeling more but am getting used to the just loving aspect.

sweet pea	If you are married, you committed to spend your life together, for better or worse, so give it some time & effort. Marriage sometimes goes thru these stages, but if you still love him, that's a good thing. Hang in there. Providing you're not completely miserable & living in an abusive or unhealthy situation, it will get better! Have some dates, some alone time, reconnect & remember why you fell in love with & married this person. It's worth a try! Good luck to ya, hun!

SuziQ211	Sometimes being "in love" comes & goes...so if you do love your husband, then I say that's a good thing. Hang in there! Try some new things to spice up your love life & bring passion back.

Tiffany	Why did you marry him in the first place?

mc52132000	Can you be a bit more specific such as why do you feel this way what are you lacking in your marriage and do you think it can be overcome? Then start from there before you take big steps. Talk with him clearly!! do not put stuff out there and he needs to read between the lines how about counseling or speaking with a pastor? Think things through clearly you are still in love with him but what is wrong you may need to seek counseling alone to see why you feel this way.

zclifton2	Join the group of married people who find themselves not in love with anyone!

Slartibartfast	Let's get this straight. You love your husband - but you're not in love with him? We'll have to work on this one. How long have we got?

arkleseizure	Stop making pointless linguistic differences, for starters...