married 10 yrs and hubby went to a strip club...?

sips	he hasnt done anything wrong. its completely human and natural to look, as long as its just looking and not touching. my partner and i have a rule,you can look but you cant touch. anyone who says they dont look are liars.

holly	If you have a problem with what he did, then it's an issue. Talk to him about how his actions made you feel, and remember that when you're talking to your spouse about an issue to start sentences with "i feel" rather than "you did..." or "you made me feel..".

Rob	are you for real?? my you have lived a sheltered life........

oneiloilojeepney	Because he was open and asked you first and it was a special occasion, I would not be concerned. If it were a special occasion for a good friend of mine I would want to go. I would not evan ask my wife now beacuse 5 years ago while on vacation in the Philippines I wandered into one by accident. Outside the sign said "disco" and I just wanted a couple beers berore going to bed. My wife threw a fit for 3 days.

SeLaVi23	Not overreacting...you don't like it, he should respect that and not go. No questions!!!!!!

it stinks in here!	well it all depends if u are hurting for money but a special occasion once in ten years i wouldn't worry over. i understand your concern about feeling insecure. let it pass unless he starts to make a habit of it.

Peggy G	Let's say you have reasons to be concerned. You will have your answer if he starts to hang out at the strip club.

grace	It used to bother me that my ex would occasionally go with his buddies, until I went once with my girlfriends after a long night of drinking. When I was there I was uber grossed out by the strippers and wasn't bothered anymore. They are typically not very attractive, are just there to make money and don't care about the guys watching them dance. I can see how you are bothered, but I don't think it's worth getting upset about. And men hate when women act insecure, be confident. I'm sure you are beautiful and he married you for a reason =)

BIG BOPPER	I don't think you are overreacting------I used to go to nude clubs weekly BEFORE I met & married my wife 21 years ago. --I know I am dating myself but BEFORE I met my wife I also dated a NYC Go-Go Dancer--After I met my wife; she told me: " I don't care where you whet your appetite; as long as you know where to come home for dinner "-----When I met my wife; I discovered that NOBODY has ever rocked my world the way that she has & my wife MORE than satisfied my every need & desire. Regardless of the fact that I love & respect my wife; I stopped going to any Nude Clubs after our first date. My wife ( who was then my girlfriend ) knew that I had previously gone to Nude Clubs & she told me that I could still go if I wanted to ?.........However I also discovered that I no longer wanted to because there was nothing that I could see or do at an Adult Club that would ever surpass what I can see or do with my wife in the Bedroom.--21 Years later I still feel the same way.

I do 26.2	Why don't you give him a lap dance?

Tired Trucker	why don't you give him a lap dance if that's what he wants? You have to pet the dog once in a while if you want him to stay on the porch.

Why?	I would feel the same way. If it bothers you just tell him. Ask him to respect your wishes and not go again. Make sure that he knows exactly how it makes you feel...insecure...unwanted...or whatever you're feeling exactly. He should understand :) Good luck.

Rosie_0801	Calmly ask him how it was when he comes home. I'll bet you he didn't enjoy it nearly as much as he made out to his friends. Things like this just underline how happy they are to have a wife to come home to. If there was reason to worry, he would have hidden it, not asked your permission. If he says he enjoyed it, tell him you want a demo of the moves the girls made ;) That should shake him up! If he's brave enough to do it, you should both get a giggle.

!Y?	...drop the weight and take up pole and lap dancing and get a job at a strip joint, and enjoy yourself.

thegirl	I think that you would be all right and then he asked you so he is not hiding anything from you. Just when he gets home ask him how is night went and that is it. But if it does become routine then maybe you should ask more questions. And if you have been married 10 years it should not matter to your husband how much weight you have gained, he should love you for you and that is it

MS Williams	What do you mean he has never cheated on you? You have to be smarter than that. Participating in lap dancing is cheating. It just happen to be with your knowledge. Why didn't you tell us how you found out he had participated in it? And happy married men do not go for the trash. Open your eyes. You have been snowed under.

Kaaran	This is so normal for guys don't get panic he wont leave you..lol..

Greenguy	Once in 10 years, give me a break get something real to be worried about.

Melissa	ok, let me ask you this, if you were as thin as you wanted to be, would you be asking this question, if he has not given you any reason to not trust him, I dont think 1 time in 10 years is bad, plus tonight when he comes home, if I were you, I would give him a good reason to come home, you know what I mean. I dont know how comfortable I would be with him having lap dances though,

Peachfish Whiskerbiscuit	Only Once in 10 years??!! You lucky girl!!