married 6 yrs. been w/ man for 10 yrs. he constantly cheats what should I do?

leandra_co2006	get rid of him of get even and cheat to. have you heard of what goes around comes around. Play some fun games to!!! :c)

sillysumpin	What do you want to do? Do you like feeling like second best? I had a husband I suspected of cheating, when I caught him once, (I needed proof) I left. I know it seems hard, with 2 kids and all. I have 2 as well, what do you think they will expect out of a relationship?

free_angel	Put him out. There is more to life than living daily with distrust and suspicion from a cheater. That's no way to live.

mrsdebra1966	forgive him & take everyone to church

blueflowerscs	he cheats cause he knows you will forgive him.. get ride of that dead beat .. you need some one that will be true to you . you are better than that .. can you spell DIVORCE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Lee	Leave him it is worse to stay in a marriage just for the kids then to leave the marriage and do it for yourself, your kids want to see you and dad happy with or without there parents together.

brezita	unless you condone him cheating...it is time to leave his ***. do you want your kids to model his behavior? or yours for allowing it to continue?

vassar7	man,,,obviously he doesnt value you very much--i would have to say confront him and see what happens..conseling might help..your destine to be un happy if you ignore it

silver01222000	For your own health reasons you should leave this situation Aids, Hepies, other STDS Ect. the saying goes Once a cheater always a cheater. You know Mr. Right is out there looking for you right now and every week you stay is a week he misses you . Do what is best of ryou and your kids . Good luck

connelly198133	Call an escort servive home oneday and u and her f ur husband in bed.I will tell u thats what keeps things going

shereecespieces	follow your heart.but words of advice please don't stay leave him.he doesn't even respect you and the kids.you can do better.good luck

silver_lover_lady	just get rid find a nice fella

thirteen	divorce.

jamiekm820	if you dont leave him, it will confuse your kids. so even if your not worried about yourself ( which you should be , you need self-respect), do it for the kids. women always think that they can change men but the reality of it is some are just not even worth the try, and even the ones that are, usually dont change. men are stubborn and he thinks that him cheatingon you makes him look like "the man". like he can get multiple women, look what he can do. dont let him win. take control. do it for you AND your kids.

Lauren	Your self-esteem is low and that's why you put up with it. I'm sure you love him, but you need to love yourself. I can see that you put up with it for your two kids, huge sacrifice. I don't know if I would recommend leaving, considering that you put up with it for your kids. It's just a question of happiness really. Should you pursue happiness? You deserve it, we all do. You don't deserve to catch a disease from him, that's for sure. Your kids will suffer, but that's life. They suffer with this situation regardless. Just be there for them and show them love and devotion; as long as you are always consistent, they should be fine.

SKITTLES	You need to take your kids and leave. IF he is constantly cheating he doesnt love you or respect you. You are going to end up with a disease if you stay with him. Get out now!!

average_guy_1271970	Give him the ole Lorena Bobbit treatment. Whack it off and throw it out a window. He won't cheat again. What a scum-ball. I've got a wife and 2 kids, and understand how tough it is, but he's a weak, selfish, piece of doo-doo.

ZCT	He is not going to change. Either accept that he needs to cheat or get out of the relationship.

explore & enjoy	If relationships are trust and non-betrayal, then you don't have a relationship. I'd move on. He's not going to change.

hey yo	get a divorce. but keep all the recording from the voicemail messages. then you can sue him for allimony and childsupport

txhypnotist	Here's a clue: DIVORCE HIS BUTT...

mom_of_4	I am going through the same thing with my man. We been married 8 years and together 9... got 4 kids... he cheated and I am always asking questions and checking up. The logical answer would be to leave him... but with so much involved and all the feelings of the long relationship that is not as easy as it sounds... We are trying counseling. Try that. If the behavior doesn't stop you have to ask yourself "Can I live with this?" If the answer is no then you have to ask yourself will the temporary yet more intense hurt of a divorce be better than a lifetime of constant hurt and wonder, is he cheating... is he going to give me an STD... is he going to just decided to up and leave me and the kids for one of these other bimbo's someday? In my opinion the temporary but more intense hurt of a divorce would be better... but like I said.. try counseling first! And do alot of praying about what you should do! Good luck! I know its hard.. I am going through the same! But you have to protect yourself and your kids! Don't be his pawn! I am still trying to tell myself that! It's hard.. but you don't deserve this! No woman does! And neither do your kids! Good luck hon!

blessedonengod	Never stay with someone who constantly cheats on you. Time for you to end the marriage. Her husband has a major problem. And he isn't respecting you at all. You need some- one who is going to love and take good care of you. Someone who is going to make you happy. So get a divorce.

connys1976	unless u r willing to accept that he cheats and live with it, I think its time for you to leave and start a live without him! From the sounds of it he doesnt want to or ever will change if he has been doing it for 10 years chances are pretty good he will do it for another 10 years. So asked yourself if u can live with that if not leave! You desverve better nobody deserves to be cheated on, and for the kids they deserve to grow up in a household with happy parents better 2 households with 2 happy parents then 1 wiht misserable once.

khanzadha	leave him

Dolly	Well, this is something that you must be very careful on, are you sure he is cheating? If he is, the marriage is over. I would not sleep with him because he may give you AIDS. It is hard to believe that a man would do this when he has children, but it wouldn't be the first time. Does he go out at night? Bars? Havew you both tried counceling? I hope things work for you and the children.