my best friend is seeing a married man what should i say?

â™¥crzygrlâ™¥	nothing you can do but be there for her emotionally when he dumps her best of luck

Zalec	You're friend asked for advice, so being a friend and all, you should be honest.

TIM S	ya, tell his wife, lets see if he begs to stay or takes the chance to be with your friend.

S. Sanders	That is is morally and ethically wrong!! How could she do that to a married woman?!?! How selfish and stupid of her!!

Neal B	A man that leaves his wife will also leave you someday.

Alec RIP Michael Jackson	Mind ya Bidness!!! (I spelled it all messed up to show the severity of the situation, I mean it, MIND YOUR BUSINESS!!)

MARK K	This man will not divorce his wife,he is only telling her what she wants to hear and he is getting what he wants from her. She needs to stop seeing this two time loser.

Stina49	you should do the right thing and be a honest good freind, and u dont want the married man's wife to get hurt right? and what if ur friend ends up getting hurt? jus think it through ya know?

srhargraves	Relationships like that never work out. Just be patient. Eventually he will leave her and she will get hurt. All married men say what he is telling her. She is just a fling for him and she is on the road to a huge heart break....guaranteed!!!

Jill	Tell her you don't approve anyway, he is just using her...He has no intentions of leaving his wife , she will just get hurt and will feel like a turd help her by being her friend and tell her this is just wrong don't get involved with him or his wife that's not what I mean,

The Original GarnetGlitter	Warn her..he will not leave his wife for her..he's too old to deal with a messy divorce and won't want to give up or devide anything he's aquired during that marriage... ...sad to say she's a 'booty call' or a trophy mistress because of her age.....just tell her you'll be there to pick up the pieces when she realises she's being used.....good luck.

KarenC	Even if she were already pregnant by him it would not be too late to stop seeing him. This is a no win situation. She will always comes in second, and third if he has kids. She needs to get on with her life without him before any more of her life is wasted on him.

Abbie	Any thing but u gotta put her on the write track! my dad cheated on my mom and my childhood was screwd up big time. Like i have a suicidle brother. Please try and stop your bff if he has kids or has been married a long time. She might not like it but you will be proventing hurt for the wife and kids. tell her " think about his family and wife" your terring them apart

Rona!	as a good friend let her know what she is gettin herself into. -a man that might be after a young new girl to mess with -he might do the same thing to your friend as he is doing to his wife -tell her you support her decisions but hope she make the right one -pray for her -and if they do get to far tell her to get a secret stash bank account

Stephanie M	say what ever ya feel is right bring her to proper senses & convince her that the old man is just fooling around & will only mess up her life if the old man's wife will finally know about your friend's relationship with him, the wife may sue your friend & may end up in jail. Our lady neighbor was jailed for that & got pregnant by the fooling husband, now serving her jail terms pregant. let your friend read all the advises here posted by your question & tell us the outcome after wards let us save your friend now coz' she's lost

Dani	Well first of all. how old is she? I know this is hard for her. But if she loves him, and he loves her, and he wants a divorse to see her. and he makes her happy then you should let them be. Just let them go. It might be a mistake but it is her life. So unless you think it's wrong. tell her. maybe she'll understand. But for now, just let them be.

lalalalalala	hiya! it sounds like he is with her for something new and fun. it's not to say he doesn't care but he already told her he can't divorce so long-term its not going to happen for them. she might get hurt but i think maybe she knows that but isnt strong enough to leave him. all you can do is be open and honest even if she ignores u u know u tried. the age is not necessarily a huge factor, it depends more on love and understanding, etc. good luck to you i hope u get good advice. peace

cureus	BEEN there!! Guilt to live with forever. Tell her to RUN away as fast as she can for HER own good! He will make her promises that HE don't even know he can't keep because his mind is so clouded with lust. He's only thinking of HIMSELF right now. TRUST ME. You will be hurt by him and his baggage for a long, long time. Do NOT waste your life. The odds are probably stacked against this working forever. Think about it!!

Holly P	I would support her and remain her friend... she'll need you after he's done using her. Of course, he may just want to continue to use her and never get a divorce. She is being very foolish and doesn't think much of herself, nor does she treat marriage and others with respect. If you are close enough, I would tell her the truth. Be prepared that she may not want to be your friend anymore. But the truth should be told if that is the type of relationship you have.

TotalRecipeHound	Tell her that she needs to know that he will never leave his wife and she should consider that. If she wants to continue because she is having fun or getting something out of it, that is her affair, but at least you've reminded her that this is a relationship that goes nowhere. Even Donald Trump doesn't marry most of his mistresses.

Elle H	Obviously she feels something is wrong or else she wouldn't be asking for advice. If you are her friend, tell her how you honestly feel. She is not in a good relationship and when it ends, she will need a friend that won't say I told you so. Pray for her and the guy's wife because when (and I don't mean if) she finds out, she may come gunning for your friend.

alpha & omega	"...he wants a divorce but can't do it at this time " This is a lie to keep her in his pants. "time spent with her is better than his wife " another lie supported by the emotion of an illegal relationship. What you can tell her is to be careful and please, remind her that it is bad to build your happiness over someone Else's sorrows. Life has its way to do justice and down the road, your friend will cry.

The Man in the Yellow Hat	If she is your friend, you owe it to her to tell her she is nuts. Here is why: -Chances are the guy will never leave his wife. -If he leaves the wife, his finances be in rough shape because of legal expenses, child support and and the distribution of property. Not a fun situation for you friend. -If this guy has kids at home, she will have a hand in wrecking their lives. -Because she is dating this guy, she is "off the market" for better opportunities for romance and possible marriage. **When your friend is 45, the guy will be around 65. His "tool" will not work and she will be very dissatisfied. What do you mean by "gone too far?" This situation is very easy to undo.

WisdomSpeaks	How has it gotten too far? It is never to far to do the right thing. You want to know what to say to her. Well, I'm sure you friend knows that she is wrong just as the married man she is dealing with. So, what could you possibly tell her. Men have been cheating for years, promising to leave their wives for flings for years, and someone always end up getting hurt from the situation, but it is rarely ever the man. If you want to tell your friend anything, encourage her to do the right thing. If he is cheating on his wife, she is no good to him whether he gets a divorce or not. It's true that if he'll disrespect his wife enough to cheat on her with your friend, there is no way he can truly value your friend.

OH-EM-GEE!!	Just tell her your honest opinion. You're her best friend, and she came to you for advice, so this is your chance to speak up! Tell her that you think he's too old for her, and that she may just end up getting hurt. If he doesn't want to divorce his wife right now, there's obviously a reason for that. His marriage might still have a chance to be fixed, and she shouldn't be standing in the way of that. Especially if this guy and his wife have children together. If I were her, I wouldn't want any part of that. She's "the other woman", and could potentially break up a family. Ask her if she really wants that on her concience. That's probably what I'd say. Just let her know that you think it's wrong, but that you are her best friend and she can always come to you for advice.

Jenny C	You can tell her that statistics show that what he is saying to her is exactly what all men who are cheating on their wives say who have no intention of ever divorcing them. She is wasting her time and she is causing hurt to the wife who may be trying to work things out with her husband and it only makes it harder for her to do this with her in the picture. If he cheats with his wife he will also cheat on her. That is simply what statistics prove. Does she want to be the mistress forever, or perhaps married to him and then have him cheat? Those are the most likely options in these situations. Since she has asked for your advice, tell her she should tell him that when he is divorced (or shows proof that he has at least filed) she will see him again and not until then. And then she should stick to that and make an effort to move on.