my fiance wants to "mentor" a nieghbor girl of 15 years old!?

maureen s	well i am asumming your fiance is an adult and with a 15 year old girl, he can go to jail for that. he sounds like a twisted pervert and should be reported. him with a 15 year old girl is disgusting report him and kick him to the curb and find someone better than him, it would not be to hard, believe me if you marry this guy you are going to be real sorry. take care and keep us updated but believe me he is bad news and you do not know what else he is up to.

remerone	this is not a good sign. you must take psychotherapy into consederation. it is normal for men to feel affection for females that are much younger than they are, but if it gets out of control, it can get him in trouble. do you have children? maybe he feels towards her as a duaghter of his own. still, you cannot be sure. investigate immediately.

fiirefly	well let me just tell you ... your not insecure because if it was done all behind your back that means he was planning on something with this girl... now if he would have told you from the get go then your being insecure.. But thatâ€™s not the issue... no matter what he chooses I think u should leave him because he is probably going to do it again in the future. You donâ€™t need that.

Dixie	Yes,you are right..It doesn't matter what he's intentions are...It doesn't even look good. What about the girls parents? Have you talked to them? I would....Get a grip on it now girl....

bluejay84	I think your right especially if her parents don't know.If that's the case then they definitely need to be notified.

MamiZorro2	OMG! GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP! He sounds like a straight up pedophile. You are NOT wrong, and insecurity shouldn't have anything to do with it. The well-being of this naiive little 15 year old girl, SHOULD have EVERYTHING to do with it! Please, please, please-talk to this girl's parents, and if needed, get the law involved. This isn't cool. Get out, like, yesterday!

Storm	The thing I have a problem with, is that it was all done without your knowledge. It was done without seeking your involvement or advice, and suddenly he springs this on you. If he was genuine would he not have included you right from the start? And what about this child's parents, do they have any idea what is going on at all? If not, they damn well should. Perhaps you should try telling him you'll come to the concert as well, and ask that both of you talk to this girl and her parents, then stand back and see what his reaction is.

Kquestion	Ok obviously a giant red flag has gone up in your head. This is not normal..it's not like he's related to her. What do her parents think about it? Already this is an innapropraite relationship and you need to stop this before it goes way too far. If he did this behind your back, then obviously he knows that you wouldn't approve...good luck!!

Cherry	I find it a bit odd that he wouldn't share this experience with you. Why did he go behind your back? That just doesn't seem right to me. I'd definitely try to find out more about it, especially his intentions.

smellyfoot â„¢	Interesting. Does the girl have a dad? If she doesn't have a positive male role model in her life, then it may be an innocent father / daughter relationship - and you should be proud of him for playing the father role to someone who needs it. It shows he has character. If she has her own daddy, then there may be cause for concern. Maybe talk to her mom about it, see what she thinks about the situation.

Ms Brown Eyez	I think because all of this is done behind your back, there seems to be a really big problem here. Someone needs to quickly notify her parents about what is going on. You seriously need to consider marrying a man like this. "Red Lights" are flashing really bright, you need to pay attention.

hey buddy!	Well I think that you were not wrong. If it was going on behind your back and he didnt have the decency to tell it to your face then there is something wrong. Do a little of your own private investigation. snoop through his email and figure out whats really going on.

Belinda O	Hmmm...sounds a lil sneaky to me. Get more information about this mentorship before you jump to any conclusions.

kthegirl	this is so sick and disgusting,, they have nothing in common, he is manipulative, and needs freaking help, I have 2 daughters and that makes me so mad, this is wrong wrong wrong

Handy R	Him mentoring a girl is not strange but actually a very good thing. But what's worrying is why he is hiding it. Has he introduced her to you? What if you suggest you both mentor her? I think the hiding part is much more worrisome.

starryeyed	Get the cops on this and make sure it's not oddball activity. If he confronts you, just make a snide comment that you hav no idea why he couldn't find a boy to mentor. What the hell does he know about this kind of thing? And just leave him. Period. Who cares if you're insecure or paranoid. We live in a paranoid world BECAUSE there are so many sick things going on. Go on, take care of yourself, and try to protect her, too!

Jacqie	I agree its very wrong. Men are weird sometimes. ( I didnt say that) I believe it is wrong. That might not be the only thing going on behind your back. Make sure you talk to him and tell him how you feel. If you feel you need to call it off. I would. If you feel you cant trust him. I would walk away.

M S	He's old enough to be her grandfather! And it sure doesn't seem right to me. How long have you known him? Could just be a mid life crisis, but has overtones of pedophile. I'd dump him.

chris 2k	He's a perv.

Dani	the old lecher needs to stay away from that kid or he could find himself behind bars. You are not insecure, but he has a wheel loose.

Barefoot Betty	your "fiance" is a sick, dirty old man. you need to see this as it really is. he's making a joke out of you & you all's "relationship". my intent is not to sound mean, just straightforward. good luck.

~i love my boys~	what the hell is a 52yr old man talking to a 15 yr old lil girl..? thats wrong, u need to tell him to get his **** right & find out what he wants....dont get into a marriage like this...its better to find things out now then when ur married......good luck hun & god bless u

Julie S	Follow your instincts. You've got them for a reason.

AtiaoftheJulii	This sounds highly-suspective... I'm not saying your fiance is a pedophile but he should find someone else to "mentor" her. It doesn't look proper.. P.S. If he keeps secrets now, just imagine what kind of secrets he will keep AFTER you are married... Run my friend..

skcs11	you are right

lady26	need more details.. is he in a mentoring program? what kinda deal is it.. it sounds like you have the impression he is moelsting her or something?? mabye you should report him to her parents.

bsy	get rid of him and let the child parents know he was planning

Just_gone	You are exactly right! Let him go!!!