my husband grabbed my arms and pushed me up agains a wall.?

Inay	gee... you should support your husband...honey he is so stressed and you are actually adding some of it... money is just money..... your man is more important than money....talk to him... he needs you now more than ever.... love is giving and taking....he have given you enough maybe its time for you to sacrifice a little for him.... when man is so depressed and worry much... sometimes they cannot control their feelings.... support him in any way... emotionally... help him remove this stress... he needs your support honey... don't leave him like this....talk to him and caress him... let him know you really care... if he is angry let him... just be quiet and understand and listen how he is taking this...and from this you will understand him

blue	what would jesus do

dameon	sounds as is money is the problem here ! do you work ? butcher

southerngirl	My god your dramatic.

Compressorstall	The number one cause of divorce is money problems.

Wayne F	Nothing is perfect hang in there

angel and the devil	just talk to him and don't leave because you had a bust up it happens. if he gets voilent trowards you divorce him.

laceylanexxx	id kick his butt out once is two times enough! yall need angermanagment or counseling i guess. But if he cant control his anger what if its worst next time?

Ms. GTO	Follow your instincts, honey. If he can get angry enough to lay his hands on you ONE TIME, he can do it again.

Girl On Fire	Leave him. I would write him a note, save money up, leave ur marriage ring on the note and leave while he is at work. Stay with ur mom or bff. os u know u are safe.

Soul T	Go stay with family or friends for a few days let him rethink his actions....if you feel violated call the police no one has the right to put their hands on another...

mab5096	I hate to say it but I agree with your mother. Sounds like you both were out of control. Leaving won't solve your problems. Simmer down, take a breather from each other, then talk to him!

Incipient_planck	Ok... but that isn't all that bad and if this is the first time, then he deserves a chance to redeem himself... Let me say this: he had no right but this is something that can be overcome...

reddevilbloodymary	I agree with your Mom. You crossed boundaries too....pushing things off the dresser is like a toddler throwing a tantrum. (believe me, I get really frustrated too sometimes)

omega.thirteen	they always escalate it. next time he'll slap. in 6 months, he'll be kicking the sh*t out of you. LEAVE NOW. YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED.

Pain_of_Unhappiness2	My best recommendations. Seek marriage conseling AND hangout or party out with several other married couples. Lately I have been hanging out with other married couples and this is improving our rocky marriage at times.

Mr. Dee	Mom may be right this time. But make it very clear that it will not be a second time. I don't care how mad or stressed he is. But you have to control your self as well.

Molly B	You both need to get control. Financial, work and family issues can be stressful, but you need to handle it much more constructively. Give it time, work through it.

pv_grl	i think that he truly was sorry. im not sure if its something that is worth ending it for. hang in there. everyone has issues. i wasnt too clear on weather he hit you or not, it just sounds like he grabbed you hard. i think you two can work it out.

Cham	Both of you need to learn how to handle your anger. You also need to learn how to keep your family out of your personal affairs. If he is that apologetic for grabbing you, I'm sure that he is sincere, and he means well.

as is	If you love him you need to work it out and do not tell your mom all of your troubles she will just be upset and you are an adult and need to take care of your personal business you will probley work this out and your mom will be mad forever

lovehealer	Speaking as a couples therapist, your relationship is under great stress right now due to financial and employment worries which can easily lead to extremes of behavior. Why was he suspended from work? Nonetheless, any physical aggression is a dangerous red flag for me. If you feel unsafe in the future, I hope you remove yourself from the situation. Try this great guide: Abusive Relationships: What To Do When Relationships Turn Violent http://www.hearts-and-kisses.com/abusive-relationships.html

Alrozz	It takes a responsible person to keep their life straight and perspective financially. If you allow your finances to drop to lower levels that crush your pocket book and bills become late...your playing with fire and no relationship survives the burn. The fighting will only make you insensitive and withdrawn that leads to divorce.

blondie	You have to do what is right for you. You need to talk to him. My ex had grabbed me but never left a mark and only one time did he raise his fist to me. I though went toe to toe and never backed down. He never did hit me even though I told him to go ahead. Then again he knew if he did his buddies and mine would kick his butt. You need to figure out if he has a history of hitting women if he does then you deserve better then that.

xrayman 7	sounds like the pressure got to both of you. remember how ever bad the money thing gets,and i know what I'm talking about,the only thing you to have is each other. never forget that. its you and your husband against all of them. we have been married 22 years in Aug. and we have had our share of BIG money problems but like i said its us,not me, not her, but US against them. good luck.

pigseatapples	Tell him that if he ever hits you again that you will call the police. That will ensure that he will never do it again if he knows you mean business. When you get angry you need to take a break too. You need to agree that when you are that angry that you will never hit the other and give each other the space you or he needs. People can learn to control their actions. A little fear goes a long ways.

wow	stop and think about it. now you are upset it sounds bad on both sides you are just angry and hurt at the moment your behavior was also out of stress if after a day and some talking you still want to leave then I suspect you have other reasons as well maybe his temper got the best of him and he caught himself isn't that what happen to you he does it again get out

babygreeneyes1976	ok no man or woman has the right to leave a mark on anyone. It may have been stress or whatever but that does not give him any reason to leave marks on you. When the trust is gone there is no relationship/marriage. This is your chioce but I would make him get anger managment counselling, if you decide to stay. If it happens again I would definitely get out and not look back. I would try your best to talk to him first before you make any decisions.

Nora C	Did you provoke him in any way? What happened before he man-handled you? Ok, so you both had a fight, most married couples fight and then make up because they still love each other. You have reason to fear him now, seeing how aggressive he can be when angered. Were you disappointed that he got suspended from work? Give him some support, if you do not have kids, you could get a job. Help him out, don't bring him down when he is out. Happy anniversary to you in advance.

Sandra T	It has been my personal experience that if a man does it once, he will do it again. You need to run while you can. If he is willing to go into counseling or anger management therapy, that would be one thing. I would let him live alone while he does it though. Your Mom is right to a certain extent. You were both angry and pushed the boundaries, but have you asked your Mom is she has been hit or bruised by your Dad? That may be something to ask her about as well. She may not want to tell you everything.