my husband just looked at me and said...???? men help please!?

fallen_angel	sorry he said that to you...men dont think before they talk sometimes... Talk to him about how that kind of thing makes you feel... hope things get better

oobaby	i think you misunderstood him....maybe he just meant that you may not be doing the best and you may not feel so great about yourself...but together you made something beautiful...congrats on that by the way! or maybe it was one of those things where he meant to say something but it sounded completely different? im not sure but dont let it get to you you know he thinks your beautiful and loves you! you dont need anything else! God bless!

bundygil	You're being paranoid. Like most women, you're reading things into his statement that aren't there due to your lack of self esteem. He was being ecstatic about your baby, not passing judgment on your attractiveness,

B K	i think you might be looking a little bit too much into it. he probably didnt mean anything by what he said... i hope.

Me2	Maybe he was referring to the family's financial situation when he said, 'worth a $*& " ?

Beaneer Man	what did you say!!

kc.intlin	one day he is going to say this baby is a replica of her mom

Emmanuel M	Men are egoistic some times

Mrs HarleyBrat	don't take it so personally - your going thru your after PG weight and hormones - men go thru stuff too - give him the benefit of the doubt - maybe something has him down (like your weight has you so stressed out) he loves you - looks isn't what its' all about - relax -

available_innkeeper	im sure he didnt mean for you to take that to heart. if you really wanna feel better (post partum depression-----YES) you need to not be so serious. good luck. men will say some dumb stuff sometimes just handle it cause you will do the same thing soon enough and if you are cool about it when he does, he will be cool about it when you do it.

ndnqt1966	It seems that he put himself down as well with that idiotic comment......Maybe he had a brain fart when he opened is mouth this morning....

Joe	It may have been in jest.. or it may have been a reflection of how he feels about himself. I do not think it was directed towards you. Your husband may be feeling inadequate, but being a tough guy, he may also not talk about his feelings. I'd bet he has some inner self doubts or feelings of inadequacy.

Alex P	He's a "Macho Man" at first he's nice tells you re beautiful then few years later *** get the ** out of my face

TV Nerd	I think he was just making a joke, sweetie! It's not about you being fat or anything. He was just putting your baby above BOTH of you. Try to let it go.

BabeHart	He simply wasn't thinking...don't let it get to you. Some people open-mouth and make comments and it never crosses their mind that what they said might hurt someone else's feelings...I'd bet you anything that's not what was intended, and you're choosing to get upset over it for no reason. Keep up the good work with regard to getting fit again...and don't let a silly, thoughtless comment that was meant to be a compliment to your child, cause you to feel bad about yourself.

This_is_how_i_dissappear	because no matter how u might feel their are fellas out there who love you for who u are,no matter how much u change

karl g	no, dont take it to heart, he may mean; we might not have the perfect life, but we have a beautiful little family unit! thats my interpretation, it takes time for your bits to get back to normal, eg hormonal cant be done over night, just try not to be too sensitve,

Sammael	It was probably not meant the way you think it was. Talk to him instead of us.

Zack	I'm not sure why, but tell him how you feel about him insulting you. If he is a nice person, he'll apologize.

wtf mate	I don't think that comment was a reflection on your guys' APPEARANCE, so much as who you were as people. And he didn't mean it offensively, he was probably just remarking (in an unorthodox way) how remarkable it was that you two HAD a baby together. But you should talk to him about it if you're feeling upset. And don't let ANYONE make you feel bad about baby weight- this is one of the few times in life where you have license to be over your usual weight and not feel blameworthy about it.

â™¥ \|\| â™ªâ™« Br0wn EyÇd G!rl â™«â™ª \|\| â™¥	I don't think he was saying that to you personally. He just meant that your baby girl meant a lot to him and she was beautiful. Maybe you were hoping that he would compliment you too. Don't take it to the heart. Once you lose your baby weight, your self-esteem will go up too. :) hug

izzy_1612	i think your reading far too much into it,sounds like its a man way of saying what a beatiful baby you have

Its Me	Men speak without thinking. Blow it off. I am sure he didn't mean much about it. I know he still thinks you are beautiful.

<3	what does that have to do with you losing weight? he didnt insult you about that. he probably didnt mean anything by it to hurt your feelings. maybe your just a little sensitive at the moment.

Stephanie	Don't let it get to you, it sounds like he just made a misunderstood, backwards compliment. It doesn't sound like he was trying to be hurtful.

KJ	bit sensitive, aren't you? you're making your husband walking on egg shells.

Brittany	like all men he didnt mean what he said! he was just complimenting on how beautiful the baby was and said it the wrong way.

Sophia	I don't know but it seems he might have issues with himself

Maurice B	Because he is not aware that post-partum women sometimes kill their men in their sleep.

tony c	IM SURE HE STILL LOVES YOU. COME ON.. YOU HAVE PROBABLY SAID SOMETHING ONCE AND NOT KNOWN ITS AFFECTED SOMEONE ELSE.

â™¦justmeâ™¦	I don't think he meant anything against you personally. My husband and I have made similar comments about ourselves when our children were new. He didn't pick very good words, but basically meant, that even though your lives aren't perfect, you made a perfect baby. He's proud of the child you two produced. he wasn't commenting on you or your weight. It was just a general statement. Sometimes when we just look at our children we are awe struck, and it makes us realize how small we are in this world, and how amazing it is to have created a "perfect" little person.