my husband left and the baby will not stop crying?

cope_acetic	Tell the baby that "daddy died & went to hell with the demons". No more pics...no more talk about daddy, he has gone to be with his loved ones.

dinikahundalani	the best thing to do is butter him up like be like if u stop crying i will give u a gift!!

sweet p	a big hug to you and one for you to give to the baby the baby doesnt understand and showing pictures only reinforces this in a negative way live your life like he doesnt exist-yet go to family court and get child support and then see if he will be a dad to her, if he returns have counseling as part of the deal for him to come back -two months of it or sooner if the counselor says ok for him to return and help for today and forever and to late for yesterday-the lesson of a life time=and a drop of advice in frienship turned to true love= first you get married and you dont need a condom and the rest of the things will fit into place instead of disgrace "In marriage the bed is undefiled, but all the others will be judged." Hebrews 13 and some help from above true love spoken from heaven Revelation 1:1 chapter 1 verse 1 & 3:19&20 "I love you and ask you to turn to me from sin, even one past lie. Behold I stand at your heart door and knock, if you ask me in I will com in and be your friend and you mine." Jesus so I prayed, "Im sorry for my sins, come into my heart and be my friend, thanks for loving me enough to die to forgive me, amen." Now life is grand Have a nice day and remember there is a way-prayin for you in that way

Robert	Please elaborate - is he "Gone" as in permanently or "Gone" as in a trip?

Lynda	Are you grieving too? Babies are sensitive. Get together with other mothers of small children - maybe a playgroup.

philosophy	Try to keep him busy doing other things or don't show him any more pictures. If you keep him occupied he'll be less bothered.

Heather T	if he's not coming back, don't keep showing the pictures, if he is, tell the baby he loves them and will be home soon

Dr. Phil	Take his or her mind of of him. showing him or her pictures is like going: HAHA LOOK WHO YOU CANT BE WITH!. buy your kid a new toy or take him or her on a day trip or something. try to make life move on.

Avillie	Try getting his mind off the father, showing him pictures is just reminding him of something he can't have. I would take him to the park, swimming, to a zoo, anything to get his mind off it. Hopefully, after a while, he'll forget. One day, he will understand, but for now, I would avoid it.

acceptanceofterms99	Wear a condom next time.

Adam B	rock it

thetechnitiondude	If your husband left for good maybe you cried and your baby cried because you did. Cross your t's and dot your i's and he might come back. What can I say?

Counting Crows	Give him Barney. Barney is like a God. I wish I was Barney...

B.Ellison	give the baby some visits with his dad.

JustAskin	Do something to take his mind off of daddy. Play a game, sing a song, feed him, something different. Then, subscribe to a parenting magazine, or join a group for new mothers. Do something to make your self a better mother.

Blue Jean	Children of this age suffer from separation anxiety and feel nervous or frightened when one (or both) parents are not around. You don't say whether your husband has left temporarily or permanently. Stop showing the photos until the child has calmed down.

amoroushotmama	Stop showing the pictures. You are ripping the wound open over and over again. Children have a way of surviving in spite of their parents. It will be fine, just give it a chance to heal. Try to find a play group for the baby and a supprt group for you. That will help. Good luck.

JUSTME	I would stop showing him pictures if it is making him cry... It will die down eventually.

Gabriela	try vistiing the dad

foxandthehound	Your husband left for good? I would say that the child is feeling your vibes. I don't think showing him pics is helping.

superrix83	I'm not sure what you mean by "left." At any rate, I would stop showing her pictures and try to get rid of anything that may directly remind her of him. Try to keep him occupied with other activities that are fun with mommy, like doing your hair, running around outside in sprinklers or a hose, playing ball... I'll also take my daughters to the dollar store for fun... that way I know I won't get guilt tripped into buying anything expensive. If daddy's coming back soon, maybe let him wear an old tshirt of his or a hat he would wear... my oldest (three years) likes to do this when he goes to work for the day. Good luck! And please don't listen to ANY comments that you're a bad mother; you're not. You obviously care about your son and that is why you're asking for help.

return to sender	you got me .

mafiosu	At 18 months the child should stop crying for daddy if you stop showing him photos. Unless he was the primary caregiver the boy should be use to not seeing him constantly. Could it be you are upset and it is upsetting your son?

Tia T	That's right, ouch! The darker side of having kids is the ugly facts of human natures. Not all nature traits in human are beautiful, what you have is a spoil scene where an inexperienced parent trying to do good in a wrong way by encouraging kids to unappreciated the kind and love available to him (sooooo much, he can't even to throw away .... very sad and ver very common ...) What you describe here is a beginning development of ignoring what's available and demanding endlessly to show off his power and authority. This is not fair, nor a good thing to continue. It is completely wrong to treat a infant as an adult in terms of politeness, civility. They will not learn kindness and politeness by being the receiver, never, just the opposite. Contrast, and reverse psychology should be used if parent wants to imprint special behavior configurations to the young mind. In most cases, this behavior configuration was done by parents through accident. In another word, they did not know what they did that will cause early imprints to happen. Some kids are lucky, got imprinted to the right and others simply developed into people like GWB, Chaney and all the other conservative republicans. The utilmate nastiest human trashes.

megan	Try not showing the baby the pictures and see what happens. You need to understand your child is going to be upset, your child loves his or her father. Just be patient and strong for you and your child.

Scorpius59	Isn't it amazing how you are the one listening to a crying baby ? Instead of showing stupid pictures, OCCUPY the child, and yourself with something constructive.

camille462	sorry to say your doing more worse don't let him see the pics or anything else take him out play with em more the you did before this best thing for you to do is keep him or hers mine off of take em to the park or there favorite place toy r us daddy will go out the picture so fast even if it just one simple toy just to be in toys r us with them an there getting something the love it an daddy go right out i do it with my son he hasn't asked for day yet an where going on three yrs

Crystal G	DUH its doing more harm. it only reminds him that he is gone. he the daddy left for good and not coming back. GodBless.