my husband smokes?

San Diego Art Nut	Smoking is a strong addiction. People may know that it is not good for them or the ones around them and still can not resist the urge to light up. I know because I was once like that. More than being just bad for the kids, he has to know that it is bad for himself. And yet he continues to do it. That's ADDICTION. If he cannot quit ask him to use the nicotine gum when around the kids. It delivers the same amount of nicotine as a cigarette if not more. And he is not poisoning their lungs. If he cannot do that much maybe it is time to get the kids away from him for their sake.

Questionable	There is a fan like device that clean the air and it cost over a $1000. He should grow up and be willing to go out into the fresh air.

BitterSweet	Tell him to smoke outside or you'll call social services on him.

LifeisGoood	Reason with him, show him evidence that second-hand smoking will "kill" you and his own kids! Ask for help from organizations. If he doesn't want to quit, you can ask him to smoke outside (no smoking inside). If he still doesn't change anything in the very end, I would move away from him if I am you, the health of my kids (and myself) is way more precious to me.

Cathy	Tell him go to the bathroom & put the fan on OR go out side

Gayisha	he should be more respectful of this....it is so unsafe , 2nd hand smoke. and I am a smoker but respect others while I do my nasty habit.

Hawai'i	Tell him to 1. not smoke in the car 2. not smoke in the house 3. if the kids are outside tell them to go in to smoke outside 4. change his clothes or at the very least wash his hands right after. We have these rules here and its almost smoke free, my husband is very addicted too. But he never smokes around our son.

nAyEstEr	talk to him about it..and if that doesnt work go to counseling..or threatn that your going to leave him

Tralalalala	My parents smoke but me and my parent (mom) used to live with my moms friend when I was five and they would smoke in the house around us but I think we were fine you could ay like hey sweetie could you smoke around outside just I dont think its good for the kids or if your afraid to fight just move the kids to their rooms to lay or make pu an exuse you want a snak or sumthin like that you Its all good trust me...

Ashley A	tell him not to ask the kids to talk to him and get THEM to tell him they don't like it. He may listen more if it comes from the kids

j.p.	Tell him that you are going to set up a convient place outside for him to smoke.Set out a chair,small table and an ashtray.Do it with a nice but detumined tone.Just say honey, here is a place for you to smoke that is away from me and the kids.Try it,should work.If that doesn't work tell him that it'll also make it easier to keep the house clean because the smoke gets in everything and turns the walls,curtains and everthing yellow.

honey dipp	put matches in his cigarettes.

kimykimy12	tell him to choose between him sleeping the same bed (if he smokes out side) as you or sleeping on the couch with his cigarettes.

jettlyn	Tell him to quit smoking near the kids. Make him smoke only outside!!

anna m	tell him u dont like hoim smoking near the kids

[ x y z ]	tell him not to smoke near the kids and explain why if you cant talk to him why are you married to him?

funkymunky1119	you should tell him that he must stop for the following reasons: 1) It is setting a bad example for the kids. if thety see their father smoking, they'll assume that's it's okay for them too! and it's not! 2) If he leaves a cigarette out, the kid may pick it up and burn himself or start smoking 3) Not only he is harming his body, he is also harming the kids. you get a lot of the smokey air that he breathes or coughs up too! tell him that he must stop, not only for his own health but also for the kids!

kendra m	How long has he done this? Maybe have a talk with him and tell him it really bothers you and the kids and ask if he could at least do it away from the kids! Get a little stern with him! :)

H. Dizzle ;)	Just tell him to do it outside. Unless its weed then tell him to do it in the bathroom with the air vent on.

Andee	Maybe you should ask him to go outside when he does it because you don't think it's good for the kids.

sophiabohia	Aww that stinks, have you talked to him about how it makes you feel?

Jay	Get off your damn high horse woman, i'm sure he smoked when you met him and before you had kids....if it was a problem you should have brought that up before you had kids and come to a solution. I personally think the whole second hand smoke thing is a bunch of bull, go read the actual reports, they don't say any of the things you see on tv or read in the papers. In my house, my kids know that to give dad (me) guff about smoking is an automatic punishment offense, the last time my daughter came home from school and gave me guff, I grounded her for a month and didn't let her watch tv, see her friends or anything like that, just school, homework, dinner, room.....Kids learn real quick to mind there own business about my smoking, but thats just me. Frankly, you waited to long to say you had a problem with it, so it seems like your problem not his.

honest guy	This is a touchy area, talk to him about going outside when he smokes, so that you and the kids and yourself are not effected by the second hand smoke. The reasion I say this is touchy is he may not by into all the evidence that second hand smoke is bad for you. I for one believe that second hand smoke is bad for you, however, I am also the child of a smoker that smoked around me for years without any side effects. And there are many people like me. How you could come to him is by saying that the reasurch showes it's bad and that even though it may or may not be true, ask him if he want's to take that chance with his children. Second, children tend to imulate there parents, so point out to him that unless he wants his kid's to grow up to be smokers, don't show them the smoking.

Aint No Bugs On Me	Tell him that you love but he's harming you and his and your children's health so he should really quit. Say it with love but firm, so he won't think you're being an ***

GramstoFour	Ask him nicely to stop smoking altogether. If he want do that, then make the children stay in their rooms while he smokes. Lay folders around the house about the dangers of smoking. If you still love him, you will have to think of something creative to do without getting him mad. Hope everything works out for you. Grams

Esther D	oh! that's hideous! that's child abuse. how long are you going to let the abuse continue?

di12381	Ask him to go outside or go to an open window. If that doesnt work, somehow drag him to your peditrician and ask the doctor to show how his smoking is affecting your children. Or if that doesnt work, kick him to the couch.

Pete	This seems like something you might have wanted to discuss before having the kids or marrying your husband, whichever came last. It's not healthy to smoke around children, and it isn't good for them to learn the habit. However, presumably you both knew this going into it?

city girl	tell em to take it outside or his clothes are gonna be outside

christopher o	Tell your kids dont copy there dad smoking when they grow up and cover there mouths if it smells bad.