my husband wants to go to the strip club?

Alloy Boy	Go with him, then go home and screw him good.

Marilyn P	of course not, never lower your standards. it will only bring trouble, you are the only woman he should see that way.

monika	UM HELL NO! dont let him go.. those tramps in that club will be all over him.... the bit*hes are naked for crying out loud!

It's my nature	Go with him, I did and the girls were all over me. He doesn't want to go back.

sushi	if you're not ok with he should respect that and not go simply cause you deny cause you would for him... it's a part of a healthy marriage =)

blackgrifter	you can go with him or one night when he gets home do a strip show for him.

marypoppins	you have the right to feel how you want to feel. me, personally, i don't care. as long as it's not a habit or anything. to each his/her own.

Juggman	Go to lover's lane, get some kinky lingerie, dim the lights, crank up the music and give him a show. You'll need a pole though. Hope you have a canopy bed.

Brave01	You do have a right to object. Make a stance and discuss the situation honestly. Marriage is meant to work together.

Kennadee	I don't agree with that either, I totally agree with you 100% if you are not okay, with that, tell him. It's not okay for him to do that if it's not okay with you.

Ruby Red	Do you trust him?? If you do then let him go. It won't hurt anything. He can't touch these girls, he will just get horny and come home to you. Its really not a big deal. If you make too big of a deal about it he will just go behind your back.

Mrs. G	You can't MAKE yourself be comfortable with the idea. Have you considered going along with him to the club so that you can see that it's not all that bad? I've gone with my husband and have enjoyed myself very much.

Old Kid	He should respect your wishes about this. I really don't see why any guy wants to see a bunch of sleazy women dancing around nude. Hell, I still don't see why guys like women like Pamela Anderson. She is so GROSS! Tell him no and be firm. He has no reason to go to such places.

swimming positively	He sees a half naked female and cant wait for her to be completely naked. You two have different perspectives. However, in marriage there is what u call the power of the ultimatum. If you insist on going then you dont get me! Life is all about choices.

yadee yadaa	I went with my Hubby once and it was the biggest mistake I ever made. I have never been the jealous type but seeing his reactions first hand has really put a strain on our relationship. If you feel that your relationship is strong and you have good communication then ask him how he feels about you joining him. If not....then BEWARE!

dwgriffith101	Three things One - you should grow up a bit Two - Men are biologically polygamous and this is one way for him to get a cheap thrill without cheating Three - Part of the man's brain shuts down when they get married and this can help reactivate it at least for your bedroom.

Daddy's Girl	Tina, try going with him if your not being bossy. Don't go if your going to ruin his time. If he can't feel comfortable telling you then sooner or later he may go behind your back. Talk about a spending limit and when you should expect him home. Or go buy your own 6inch heels and garter belt and do your best Beyonce Bootylicious dance for your man!

MelMar	I understand your thoughts, but really it's harmless. I think you should share your concern with him, but the more you protest the more he is likely to rebel. My guy likes to go too. Our solution- I have actually gone WITH him! I get a kick out of it. The strippers usually approach ME ahead of him. I think the dancers bond with women better than the men who may be drooling allover them. I have actually had fun- and I know he isn't doing anything wrong!!

ensoman	The reality is some men like to go strip clubs and watch naked women. At least he is honest as he can go without telling you like many do. The strip joints are FULL at lunch and after work. How do I know I go there and enjoy it. Does my wife know - yes. Does she care -no as in the end it is just a naked body and there are more important things to get hung up on. If she went I have no issues either.

Weepy	Since when is it okay to tell any other person what to do? It may not be the "right" thing for him to do but as soon as you set limits on your spouse the real problems will begin. Be happy that he has enough guts to tell you what he wants to do instead of hiding it from you. It could be a heck of a lot worse than this......

â™¥â™¥CarmelDliteâ™¥â™¥	Lady stop tripping - and just go with him!! I'm neither fat and no where near non-attractive, but I go with my husband and we have a BALL!! Actually, when I went to the first one I was nervous as hell but after a couple of shots and laughs I loosened up and had a ball. The amazing part was I thought I was going to be the only woman up in there ...... NOT!! It was just as many ladies in there as there were men. So, you think its about the dancers - well I am here to tell you its not! Its just a really nice place to chill out at and the food is great!!! So, get with the program and tip a b*tch and don't forget to smack her on da azz....lol Have fun!

manda minx	omg i would hate it if my husband suddenly said i wana go to a strip club..tell him if he want to see that sort thing ..YOU do a private strip tease for him.... go on ..bet you both enjoy it... bet he wouldnt like it if you wanted to go to a strip club for women huh !!! .............. ........ go on surprise him if you got kids at home do like me take your hubby away dirty weekend/overnight somewhere and let loose !! its grreat.................. then he wouldnt want to go see other women at seedy strip clubs..he be too busy with you ..lol

KingAndrew	I think you should loosen up and go with him. It is not as you suspect and you will see a lot of couples in the clubs. Some of the women have more fun than the men. If you go, your husband will see you in a new light and will be excited to take you out in the parking lot and show you his desire. Good luck and have fun.

jazzrhythm	My way of saying NO (to my x-husband now) "That's fine with me and enjoy watching those naked female but you have to let me enjoy watching the Chippendale as well". Since then, everytime his friends invite him to come with them he always make excuses of not to go, and on his birthday I even insisted that he should go with his friends as my b-day gift to him but still he wouldn't go. Reverse psychology...that's all it takes for me...and hit his ego.

Not a prude	That's a big NO. My husband cannot go to any strip clubs. Luckily, he is mature enough (man enough) to agree that it's a phenomenally bad idea. He's been to clubs (as a younger, single guy) that touching is involved (though not technically allowed) Anyway, if your husband puts dollar bills in anyone panties or gets a lap dance that's inappropriate for a married man. Good luck. Too bad your guy even brought this up with you.

Sela	Do not let him go. Give him an ultimatum. If you are not comfortable with it and you let him go, you will never get over it. I think it is highly disrespectful. At least he is discussing it with you. My husband went without telling me until after the fact and while I still love him, I don't know if I will ever get over the hurt. A married man that lusts after another woman has committed adultery in his heart. If your husband goes and lusts after other women, the result will feel like he has actually cheated on you and he has! Do you want to deal with adultery in your marriage?

karmablondy	No it's not okay to let him spend the money For YOUR family on a stripper and not to lust after another woman.I would dance for him and if he wants to spend the money so bad, he can give you the money to dance for him.If you let him go, you're encouraging him to lust after other women and it can turn into an addiction. He may not think so,but my sister just got divorced after 18 years of marriage because that's what ended up happening to her marriage.What she thought was innocent turned into a major problem.