my husband wants to split up because he says he doesnt love me anymore, how do i get him to stay with me?

Avatar	You can't. The first sign of getting old is that your husband loses interest in you. Now deal with it instead of being such a whiny ***** about it.

just divorced	you dont it hurts yes but you will both be miserable if he stays and does not want to. Let him go there is someone there for you somewhere that will love and stay in love with you. It hurts i know love does and it is the worst pain any soul can feel. But time believe it or not does heal. Let him go hell maybe he just needs some time alone to figure out what he wants and maybe it will be you after all and if it is not than better to find out now.

jb	Let him stick it in your behind!!!

fesspoint	I don't know. I'm sorry. Sometimes it's hopeless. Sometimes you can try to relight the fire romantically. This is one time my gut says that you need to move on. In fact, this time, hanging on could cause all kinds of drama, expense and tears, besides the ones you've probably already spilt.

Country Boy	Hmmm, If he says he doesn't love you anymore then chances are he has already made other plans. Unless it was just said out of rage. I he has already made or intends to make other plans and you convince him to stay.....all you are doing is creating a future that will be miserable for you and your daughter.

Violet Pearl	Find out why he doesn't love you anymore. Ask him what changed and instead of defending yourself, listen to him and make changes to correct what went wrong. Try counseling. Try reading "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" so you know how to treat a man. Obviously there's a problem- you can't expect anyone to stay unless the problem is truthfully acknowledged and you both agree to work it out. Tell him his baby girl needs him in the home.

confusedpatricia	You cant make someone stay who does not want to be with you, did he marry you out of love or for the sake of the child? You can not force him to stay out of a sense of obligation. your best bet is give your self time to grieve, then end it peacefully with a child custody agreement in tact. Tell him how you feel but also LISTEN to how he feels and why, you dont have to agree with him but he has feelings too.

shaqmc21	I understand where you are coming from, i went through a similar situation. I was not married but my boyfriend broke up with me when I was pregnant with our daughter. But you have to think, why would you want to be with someone that says they do not love you. You can find someone who will love you and treat you like the queen you are. My boyfriend broke up with me when I was 4 months pregnant. Our daughter is now 8 months and last week he told me that he wanted to try and work it out. Yes I will try because I do love him and I want us to be a family but I did have to let him go before. If it is real love it will be. My bf had to go out and see for his self that there is no oh er female that is going to love him like I do. In your case let him go, even if he doesn't come back, that means that is not the person that God intends for you to be with. When I use to cry to my bf's mom see told me to let go and let God. I did eventually and now he is back trying to work things out.!! I hope I wasn't babbling and this helps you out!

kiran123	honey! i am sorry to hear. However, Talk to him why he wants to split with u? It is not that he dont love u. There must be strong reason? Dont give up until u want to split with him.Good luck!

Rob B 69	why doesn't he love you anymore? and if he doesn't why do you want to stick around? I wish people would step up and except responsibility. I feel for you and wish you the best.

inlovewow	okay, you can't make someone stay with you or love you. If he doesn't love you, then you can't change his mind. Sorry hon. Let him go. You can't force him. BUT you can suggest therapy for the two of you. You guys need to talk it out and figure out why you can't stay together. Have him make a list of all the things that he doesn't like about you. Go over them with him and talk about them.

princes	sitt with him and ask him what does he want

Jennifer M	i don't know you should talk to him and tell him that he can't stop loving a person like that you been with him for along time....... and you have a child so you should just talk to him about it

QueenBee	This is really not much to go on with out knowing all the facts, but I certainly wouldn't stay with a man who didn't love me, no matter how much I loved him, things will only get worse, you could get counciling but only if you both agreed, if not for the both of you for you childs sake, whether the two of you make it together or not. He may have met some else already.

Georgia Girl	sit down with him.....apparently his needs are not being met....ask him what he would change and could you have a second chance to fix it

Adam K	I hate to be the devils advocate here but when a person does not love u then u should let go and let them leave. There is proven way to make your husband stay with u. Divorce is never easy and it almost always is hard. But look at the upside to things in a divorce 95% of the time the judge favours the wife.

onelonevoice	You should find a boyfriend. If your husband sees that you are attractive to other men, he will want you for himself.

Ratt Shitt	Why would you want someone who does not love you anymore? Not to be mean at all but I went thru the same thing (with my wife) and i whish i would have just let her go i'm so much happier without her now

Scooter Girl	Sweetie, I am so sorry for you right now. The problem is if you try and force him to stay he will only come to resent you and it will not be a healthy environment for your child. You could try asking him to go to couples counseling with you or try and get him to talk to a pastor or trusted family member. But that is no guarantee that he will still want to stay married. But it might give you a few more answers as to why he doesn't love you any longer.

flashpro	If he says he doesn't love you anymore...it's probably best to let go. You can't MAKE some one love you. If your dead set on it then, you may have to act as his servant, but I believe it would be a huge mistake to try to stay. I did that for my kids in the past and I was miserable and just made everyone else miserable. It's not a good idea to stay together. You wouldn't want your child to grow up in a loveless marriage/ home? You will hurt them more by staying.

~MB~	Open the Cage... Ever see a bird in a cage, that want's out? He will flutter around and pick at the bars. Obviously he feels trapped in the relationship. Open the cage and all the sudden he doesn't know whether to leave the security of it; into uncertanty or stay where he's safe. When a lover wants to leave and you clench on they feel even more smothered. Give him some room.... sure he may go, but then he actually has a choice to stay. Quit being an open book, let him try to figure out what's going through your head for once. Instead of you constantly trying to get him to open up. I have been in that situation before, and would do anything to save my family. It's not all up to you though, and trust me, everything will be ok.

Tanya	From personal experience, once a person's mind is made up that they want out of a relationship, pretty much nothing will change it. I notices a comment where someone said get pregnant again but if you already have a child together and that is not going to keep him do you really think bring another child into the picture is going to make him stay? You seek counseling for yourself and you prepare to live your life for your child and not the man who no longer loves you.

rachael.millymoohead	poor u hey do you really love him? hes not worth it, sounds horible!! if he doesnt love you theres no point in going on so maybe its best this way good luck =)

alterego4maddawg	there has to be something he is hiding. this is the hard part, so sit down...is he having an affair??? thats a big reason why people fall out of love, they find someone else. my best advice? keep talking to him. maybe some time will help. good luck

tgdjm	sweety, he's being nice about this? good. rule one you don't need anyone around that doesn't want you. take him to the cleaners. for the next 18 years. go find Mr. Right, have fun doing it. be true to your self. good luck

Demon Doll	If he doesn't love you anymore, there is really nothing you can do. You can't force him to stay with you. If I were you, I'd let him go. You could find somebody better, who will love you the way you deserve to be loved.

jt	Communication is the key. Ask why he feels this way, and see if there is anything you can do to help him through whatever it is he is feeling/needing. Also, share your concerns, feelings & needs. And try to do it in a calm and mature manner. Get some counceling. When kids are involved, you need to try every outlet you can before you give up.