my soon to be ex husband is contacting my cousin, whom he had an affair with, do I have the right to me mad?

Freddy2	Do you really need a man in your life you can't trust? You do need to let go,I know it's not easy but you must not get angry over who he has contact with! Let him have your cousin,he'll end up cheating on her like he has you,and then who will be the one who is crying and upset? Your cousin! Stop finding fault with yourself for what he has done! You will have a time of upset,and don't feel bad about talking it through with a good friend,someone who will listen.If they are a true friend they will always be there....don't rush into another relationship just yet,give yourself time to think of what you want out of life...make a fresh start somewhere and try to stop thinking about him or have any contact with him....you have to look forward and not backwards! It's over and he's not coming back,sounds harsh but thats how it is...you just have to face upto that fact and get on,don't get even get on...

Niente	You could get mad.......but, what good would that do to you. It will only raise your blood pressure and get your nervous system all tangled up. You have every right......I agree. For your own health.....just pick up the pieces.....put yourself together emotionally and get on with your life. Making yourself sick is not going to help....it is not going to hurt your ex........it is only going to hurt you. There is nothing wrong with you. He probably does not hate you either.......men are insecure.....about their masculinity...and need more than one woman to fill that insecurity. Little do they know......that it will never happen. Good Luck.

Phoenix21	what goes around comes around honey and boy is that a true saying! i wouldn't say that he hates u, he just doesn't know how to remain faithful, acting single is appealing to him, he doesn't want the constraints of marriage and the fact that its undercover also has that edge feeling. but girl, when u move on, don't hang ur head lift it up towards a future of ur own making, storms are in our lives to make us stronger!

shellshell	He's going to be your ex. Quit wasting time dwelling on what he's doing. Use that energy towards finding yourself some happiness. Let them have his cheating butt.

wendygirl1000	Your husband is weak and selfish. And shame on your cousin for being involved with your cousin! Even if your are separtated your cousin should back off!

beilau03	in my opinion you are way too good for him. this is sad but i think there are only a few reasons in which to end a marriage: 1. cheating 2. abuse and it seems that he has cheated, tried to work it out and he obviously isn't committed. you totally have the right to be mad you are still married and he made a promise to you and he has shot it to hell. its his fault and you shouldn't feel any of the blame. you also have a very good reason to be insecure about him talking to girls with whom he has cheated, he'd feel the same way if he was being faithful and you were the one who was sneaking around. get rid of him asap and start over new, know that its not your fault and recover from our insecurities and find an amazing man that will not only be faithful to you, but love you unconditionally for who you are.

Lucy	It's not that he hates you, he just loves her. Of course you have the right to be upset, but that won't change anything. You have the right to keep it moving.

mg	It isn't about having the right to be mad. Use your head and not your heart. Dump him for good and move on. He obviously doesn't love you, so why waste your time. The next person he gets involved with will suffer the same crap.

Hood Rich	get rid of him asap, also you do have a right to be upset with your "cousin" blood should never cross those lines. Now, as for him, he's a typically cheater, just charge it to the game and move on after whipping your cousin's @## for the disrespectfulness not once, but twice.

Brunette wife	If your getting divorced then you have no right to tell him who he can or cant see.

kittykatsback	You can be mad all you want. Try "acceptance" it feels much better on the inside. I mean c'mon you KNEW he did not love you to begin with. I mean really, your COUSIN???? Sheesh, trashy!!!! It is so sad women in your position STILL feel like you are in the wrong. Get those divorce papers going, get on with your life.

dddbbb	You have a right to be mad about anything you want. Problem is, it doesn't help you any. I still get mad about things my ex did 15 yrs ago, but mostly I let it go and move on, which is what you need to do to save your own sanity. He will do whatever he wants to and you need to move on to find your own happiness. Good luck.

snacks_babii	well i think yall shuld get a divorce and move on. Becuz he knowz that if he cheatz on you your just goin to forgive him. So just let him go,and if he trys to make things work then tell him it's over he shuld have thought of that before.

Mariah T	YES I WOULD BE PISSED!

Joyce W	Ya I would be

Souris	It sounds like you need to cut him and this no good cousin of yours out of your life. Tell him to stay away from your family, or else you'll make it VERY uncomfortable for him. But seriously, get rid of the cousin, too. She of all people should not have allowed this to happen with your husband. He's scum, but so is she.

The Casual Frankster	Don't be mad, move out of Mississippi.

89278	That's your cousin for one she shouldnt be doing that....she obviously has no morals...does her husband know....if not inform him...why would she do that...you're fam...beat her ***.try to get as much money and stuff out of him through the divorce that you can

jemmamomma	I wouldn't forgive either of them. He betrayed his vow to you and she's freakin family for God's sake! Get your divorce done and write them both off!

shortmama7j	Tell HER husband. THen kick his @$$ to the curb, once a cheater always a cheater!! You need o find someone worthy of you and who will love you for you!!

Nathan Explosion	Looks like he'll be laying pipe like a plumber in no time...if he hasn't started back with her yet...there's nothin' you can do about it, either.

AnswerDude	Your feelings are real and they are your feelings! Be mad be pissed off be anything you want!

dreamer	Since you're no longer together you don't have any right to tell him who he can and can't talk to and you shouldn't care anyways he sounds like a complete loser, let him do what he wants and don't let him know it bothers you.

bobby d	Yes, I'd be mad. Dump him and move on !

texas tornado	Yeah, you have a right to mad. He got away with it once & it hasn't stopped. It's time to get out of this "relationship" Good luck to you.