my wife and I sleep in separate beds.....what do you think?

mable3691214	If you are still having marital relations there is no problem. If not i would suggest doing something drastic quickly before the marriage ends.

sexygirl	once everything else is alright then there is no need to worry

Pippi	If you have problems outside of that, maybe, but if that's the only reason, then no. My grandparents have been sleeping in separate beds for over 30 years... they're still going strong!

leonard m	look for your own house soon

Txgirl23	I think that's old fashioned. She says because of her lack of sleep with you in the bed. I think there may be more to the story and yes it will cause problems.

TY	as long as she still gives it up to you I don't see a problem

mamabear	Go to a doctor. Sleeping in separate beds will only hurt a marriage.

floridaman39us	My wife doesn't like my snoring.

â™¥	no...she probably feels groggy in the morning when she sleeps with you. I sleep in the same bed as my boyfriend and when he starts snoring i kick him out of the bed. And i sleep a million times better, but i dont love him any less.

oldknowitall	Well, if you were getting bounced around all night and not getting any sleep, you would sleep elsewhere too. It is just self preservation taking place. You don't have anything to worry about unless you neglect to visit her in her bed occasionally or invite her to spend time in yours. I have the same problem at home and my hubby runs the tv all night. It doesn't bother him, but I can't abide it. No worries, we still get action.

foxfamily238	Sleeping together is a vital part of sharing your life together. When you married, it was not for the good and easy times "only". Firstly, there is always a red flag when hearing that one partner desires to sleep apart for any reason. Usually, if it's not restlessness, it's snoring. If it's not snoring, it's climate. And so on. Those are surface reasons, and if you can dig deeper, you may find that there are unresolved issues and hurts that have never been addressed. If by chance, it is the rare truth that it is ONLY because of tossing and turning, there are plenty of medications, either OTC or Perscription to help alleviate that as the central issue. I have a feeling that it is not the main issue, however. If your partner will not admit anything even after you have conquered the tossing and turning, that is your final confirmation that the both of you absolutely need to see a Marriage Counselor. http://www.splashdesignworks.com

Aloha	I liked the answers that said you should see a doctor about a sleep study for your restless sleeping. In the meantime, why not invest (for your peace of relationship) in a temperpedic bed and make it a king size? I know they are $$, but divorce is usually more, if that is what you fear.

Lady L	Yes! There is more to this story than that. You should really sit her down and talk to her about what the REAL problem is because that is crazy.

lovebug386	Try a memory foam mattress. If the problem really is that you toss and turn too much, those mattresses pretty much cancel out any movement. If that's not the problem, then it sounds like your relationship might be over... Sorry!

Visualize Whirled Peas	Rob and Laura Petre

blue moon lady	no, I don't think that you have anything to worry about as long as nothing else has changed in your marraige that it should be ok...there are tons of other married people who sleep in seperate beds...so your not alone.

thebigB	Nothin wrong in my book...some married couple like sharing and some not so much...this is your marriage...whatever you feel is the right way to go.

BabeHart	You need to ask her that question, not us. Keep the intimacy going and communication open...I can see why a restless sleeper or loud snorer would cause couples to go to separate beds for rest.

Sally G	So if you don't sleep in the same bed, your marriage is going down the drain?....jeez...get real. People need their sleep to function during the day. Sleep is to refresh your body. Many, many, many people are not compatible sleepers. Their solution is to get twin beds...or even sleep in separate rooms. And their marriage does not suffer...in fact, they are much happier because they are sharp and well rested during the day. The only way your relationship is going to suffer is if your wife decides to smother you with her pillow because she has not slept in 5 nights because of your tossing and turning.

laffytaffy	i dont think so. as long as everything else is fine with your relationship....then no...no big deal about who sleeps where. my husband snores big time. sometimes at night...after we have our "moment" together in our bed, he will go and sleep in the guest bedroom so his snoring wont bother me.

Maalru3	No, some people just are lighter sleepers than others. If she doesn't get good sleep, that is when you will have something to worry about. Just make sure you 2 get plenty of cuddle time in and romance. Also maybe before you go to be, go snuggle and tell her you love her. Many couples are like this, its not always like the tv shows, cuddeling sleeping with a smile and spooning. Seriously, it comes down to getting rest and snoring, tossing and turning, etc... can affect that. Good luck, it will be ok.

Troy W	You have nothing to worry about. The lady wants her sleep, that means she needs to sleep alone. If you guys love each other, you are mindful of each others feelings and you communicate, you will be fine

Get that corn outta my face	yes

s.o.s.	Ya'll need to do something about that. That's not health and it could lead to a problem in your relationship!

gypsy g	hmmmm...when you can't sleep together kind of hinders any of the spontaneity that people are always b!tching is missing from their relationships.