my wife cheated on me and now she is unsure of our marriage, What do i do?

Ms Cool	Take the kids and leave. Why stay where you aren't wanted? It will only demoralize you and affect the children.

rosh	both the parteners are responsible in this case, you have to solve the problem my talking to her. you can survive without her and your kids can survive without you both but try to make things smooth.

Dancer	Talk to her about this. It may not be easy, but it's what she needs. Make sure the kids are gone, and make her dinner..don't take her out..cook yourself!! Try hard--make it really nice and romantic. She probably forgot why she married you By the way, PLEASE answer my most recent questions. Thank you SO much.

glacier	freeze all the bank accounts ant split

cnkbrum	i wouldnt trust her anymore

dukalink6000	Get counseling and be prepared that you may have to divorce

cuttie20022000	what kind of man are you!!!!!!! She obviously moved on. YOu need to move on too. Shes not worth it. And why would her kids want to be with her anyways. It seems that she chooses her man than her kids if she seems to throw them to you.

jodie	Give her a ham sandwich and a road map.

SimplyCrazy	divorce that ho

Mike C	drop her, take the kids, collect child support from her and move on. You don't need that sh!t

D-man	Drop her like a bad habit.

intelligentbooklady	take you children and go. she has moved on and you need to move on, too. you need to tell her your plans and then leave her. she is not the wife and mother you thought she was.

Rita	I hope you can work it out for the sake of the kids. She does not seem to love you though. If you do not divorce her she might divorce you especially since she seems to want to be with the other man. She does not value the beautiful kids you two have and does not value you, you could be the best but if her heart is set on someone else she'll just resent you if you don't let her go.

vanessa	have you lost all your self respect?

strangekiller007	just ****** leave her its not advisible to force some one to love. just think wats ur weekness for this cause. . one day or the other she will realize

Country Boy Can Survive	smack that ho

grenneyez	ok what exactly is the question . have you asked your self why she cheated cuz people dont cheat for no reason

llizzie	never trust her again

Christopher Boston	You should talk directly to her. Ask her why she doesn't love you anymore. Try to communicate honestly with her and find out why she is not happy.

jsprplc2006	She's the one unsure of your marriage?!? If she cheated on you, she should be begging for you to take her back. Since she was unfaithful, you can legally divorce her, and she will recieve no settlement. Nothing. If she's still communicating with the person whom she had an affair with, you should run for the hills. She obviously doesn't respect you. She promised to love, honor, and obey. She's just broken all three.

â„¢Spacemanâ„¢	get a new woman and throw this tart out.

bydand2000	My man, I think it is time to take the kids over to the boyfriends house and say here kids take a look at the man that mommy is losing daddy over. Yes we will no longer be a family because this guy doesn' care enough about you to let us be a family. Now mommy and him have to go do whatever it is they do. Then take your kids and see what Italy looks like this time of the year.

Curious	Yeah, you could do that. But then there is another option which works sometimes. Take the evening to take her out and sit her down, maybe over dinnier and talk things through. Explain to her your almost real feelings (don't want to go all out as yet). Try to see where she sits on the fence of your marriage. Find out what more she needs and then make your decision after that. And another thing...If it looks like the convo's going nowhere with her just do like he said and "Drop her like a bad habit" "Love is only good when it hurts"

flugelberry	It depends whether you love her or not. For the sake of the children be patient, maybe she will come to her senses. If she does will you forgive her? If you cannot forgive her then your home will be a battleground. The home should be a refuge. These are the things you must decide.

santa s	well the best thing is to obey, do what she says, go and take care of the kids, because they are Innocent, and live her since she didn't want you any more , but i want to tell you something if she is being cheating you she is going to cheat the other man too, and even if she stays with you , she is going to cheat again, she is a cheater.

SketchyDrafty	Well divorce is the only option, but even if she did cheat on you, you have children together so she is still entitled to half of everything (including your super to date), and as sinister as this may sound you should start building evidence for charter assignation, IE does she drink heavily, use drugs, gamble, is abusive to the children or an unfit parent in any way. At least to give yourself a chance of full custody of your children and in turn retain the family home until they are all over 16. Because in this day and age the mother always has more rights than the father when it comes to custody of the children. Retain a good lawyer and start preparing now, even if you do cut off all her funds she can still retain a good lawyer as alot of them will take a percentage out of the settlement rather than an ongoing fee. Don't let your emotions get the better of you, your children need a stable environment even if it is with only one parent, the last thing you want to have happen is you end up living in a one bedroom flat, while you wife shacks up with this other guy in your home and you pay 70% of your income in child support and only see you kids every other weekend......I'm sorry for your situation

wyanehaltcher	SHE CHEATED ON YOU! thats not kool you should dump her before she dumps you and takes eveything you own and find a new wife....choose wisely.