my wife will not cook or clean and i cater to her every need?

lpogue2005	Have a talk with her and tell her that you are tired of doing everything? If she still doesnt lift a finger, tell her that there are some major issues you two have to work out and then maybe talk with a marriage counselor. Maybe then it will make her do something around the house.

Juble	Can you say 'Cuckold'?

Just_Curious	As long as you continue to do those things she is not going to complain. Try giving her a taste of her own medicine. WOW, I should have married you.

haitianwriter	Boo if come to me i promise i will cater to you.

silver	Stop doing so much for her and ASK her for help.Maybe she thinks you like to do all this. If you feel over burdened then you have to talk to her about it.

awommack	tell here cook for you make dinner for you

holy	u are the one who started it so u are the one to break it how can u allow her to use u like this everywoman want's to cook for her man which planet is she coming from if she need a nanny she must hire one u , u are his husband not her nanny. if she gets fat its ur problem cause u do everythind for her all she dose is to eat and sleep believe me she going to be big and u will cry again

nena	Coming from me I think you should talk to her. If you both work I think you guys should devide the labor in the houses especially the cooking part! I go to school from 9-2 than work from 4-9 Once I get home I'm tired and don't really want to do anything but my huspand is also tired from work. So depending on what I'm going to cook he usually helps out. He'll bathe my son, clean up a little. In the morning he dresses my son, while I get ready for school. On my days off we both help each other with the chores we go half & half on laundry, dishes, cookin etc. It used to always be me but we talked about the unfairness. I think you're spoiling your wife and she is taking you for granted. But if you don't work than keep up what your doing.

jb	Get a new wife!!!

PRECIANA	YOUR WIFE NEED TO STOP BEING PAMPERED IF SHE CAN NOT DO HER PART. LET HER KNOW THAT SHE NEEDS TO HELP OUT. HOW CAN YOU KEEP UP YOUR STRENGTH TO CATER TO HER IF SHE IS NOT GOING TO HELP YOU. THIS IS WHERE A LOT OF MARRIAGES FAIL BECAUSE ONE IS NOT DOING THEIR PART.

Maitreyi	If you both work, quit doing everything, she is using you. If she has a full time job and you play professional poker once a week to contribute, even if it requires that you practice online for 11 hours a day, keep on doing everything. You both shold seriously contribute the the operation of the household or eventually it will cause so much resentment that you will not be able to work through it. Tell her your exhausted, and how you feel with out calling her names, and hopefully you can work it out.

mahr	poor you, i don't know what ou have to do i suggest speaking to her, you're not the only one i've heard of other women like that, if it makes you feel better

eastern_mountain_outdoors	Don't do ANYTHING for her and see what happens...or...just leave her now cause she's not ganna change.

Oh Boy!!	stop doing it!!!!!!!

Heidi	This seems like a completely unfair situation. Household responsibilities need to be SHARED, especially if both spouses are working. If you aren't working, maybe she doesn't think it's fair to have to do the housework, but you need to talk to her about chipping in a little. If she's doing this because she's a feminist, then she needs to understand that she agreed to marry you, and with marriage comes certain responsibilities. Don't stop being the kind, generous man that you are, but she definitely needs to be more helpful.

riverofmydreams	make a honey do list.. with hopes that she can read.. feed yourself before you come home.. and when you do come home, lay on the couch like most men do.. lmao.. your a gem 4 sure..

thissite_sucksthebigone	get help you idiot

luvlisteningtomusic	Sounds like my life only I am the wife. I work a full time job. I do not make my husband breakfast only because he is not a breakfast eater and he gets up really early in the morning. I make dinner and even serve it to him. I clean up the dishes and I make his lunch at night. I think the more you do for a person the less they do for you. I tried letting things go but nothing worked. I am going to check out other answers so maybe I can get helped as well.

scotty	we see who wears the pants in your family

blonde mom70	First of all I think she sounds selfish! I love doing things for my husband! have you tried talking to her and telling her how unhappy you are with her behavior and Laziness?Unfortunately this is what can happen when you get married too quickly.I think you might have married the wrong woman. But if you really love her tell her that marriage is a partnership and so far yours is one sided, so she needs to step up and take on some of the responsibility's around the house and it's really unfair to leave all the work for you to do.Also thank you for fighting for our country! Even though i want this war to end NOW! I think men like you are our HEROES! For that alone your wife should be waiting on you, LOL!!! I hope you can work things out! You sound like a man many women would love to call their Husband.

coleman_debby	honey if while your doing all this you work as well then you need to stop! sit her down and let her know that this is marriage and it takes two to make it work. tell her you love her and you think she loves you too and just the way your trying to help in order to make her happy she should do the same for you. If she doesn't change leave her. I really hate when people take there spouses for granted!

Kay	I suggest you draw it to her attention on how you feel about her her behavior, and if possible share the house hold chores, train her how to be desciplined him she's not.

Boomer T	You must like being the house wife (role swap) or else you can/would start being a slob like her. (that might wake her up) OR try talking to/with her.. Get her attention first...or get out of the deal (it's called d-i-v-o-r-c-e)...Or except the way it is and live with it,,, Remember ultimately it is your decision GOOD LUCK to you

Ruthless	STOP DOING STUFF FOR HER AND LET HER DO IT HERSELF DONT GIVE IN.............GET A BACK BONE

grumpys	Tell your wife to do some of the stuff because it's not a healthy marriage if this happen. Well, unless your wife gets the family income and you are the home husband?

Nicole B	I cater to my man like a king i even do his toe nails w/o him asking b/c he appreciate it and also HE wont do it. Im very good to my man even though he dont do as much 4 me he tries and she should to at least sho some appreciation .

Isis	Stop catering to her.

miz piz	If you don't enjoy doning extra things for her then STOP! Sounds like you need to do some things for yourself. But one question---are you employed?