only 40% out of my x-hubby's income in the U.S send for my 2 kids knowing that it is inadequate. What do i do?

takers dreamcatcher	thats better than what i got.

sweetness	plead your case, step yo game up and do it yourself or tell him

Army Wife	Grow up and get a job!

NITA	that is a good amount of support you want to think about getting a better job your self....or bargin shopping always work buy what you need not what you want.

Garfield	40% is a pretty good haul. What is he supposed to live on. He has to support the kids, not you. Do what he's probably doing, work. You are 50% responsible financially for the children also.

uselessadvice	The child support is for the children, not for you. 40% sounds like a very generous amount. You have an equal duty of care to provide for you children. Is 40% of your income going to your kids?

Thomas K	get a job. that's part of divorce. if it's that bad, you can let him raise them.

babygirl_k2001	I'm all for men taking responsibility in "helping" to support their children. But if he is already giving you 40% of what he earns than you need to get off your butt and take responsibility for supporting those kids as well. What do you expect a free ride? If not maybe you should give the kids to him and then you wouldn't have to worry about 40% not being enough to support you. You could give him the 40% and then complain about having to live off the rest of your own income.

cecimad	40%, that's pretty good. But I know what you mean. In California I get it calculated by the percentage of time we each have the children. He has 45% and I have 55%. He makes good money as a CHP officer. He also has 2 other children that he has been paying child support since 1996. They get $940. per month and I get $890. a month for my 2. What pisses me off is that when I married and had kids I was a stay at home mom. Now I have to work to get by and who raises the kids? Not dad, not mom. When they become troubled teens and get into things they shouldn't be doing because there is no parent to raise them, these same people that are telling you to get off your *** and work will be complaining about why you weren't raising your kids. So do the best you can, get more if you can, but raise your kids right. And you stupid people shut up unles you can say you have expereinced the same and know what it's like.

gna	sounds like you want him to support you not the kids....that is just plain greedy and ungreatful...what a shame for a mother to be like that.mother of 3 speaking here.shame on you!you are practially screaming show me da money!!!!AGAIN WHAT A SHAME!

Rebornie	Generate your own income! Why rely on somebody else while you are the one whom own custody of the children!

mudder	You quit being a leach!! Christ lady, get a friggin job, help support the children you spread your legs to have! Thank God your ex got rid of your sorry, lazy, a**. Give the kids to him since you cant seem to make it with 40% of his income.

sweetlovinaries1978	Id be happy to get anything. A lot of women don't get the child support that they are supposed to be getting. Leave it be and be thankful :)

luna_mystic_07	40%?? and your still not happy? That only leaves him and his family 60% to live on. He's not SUPPORTING you entirely, you have to stand on your OWN two feet as well. He's just HELPING...get a job.

firemansgirl001	first of all your x doesnt have to pay all of his income to you. It is a persentage for the amount of kids. In ny it is 27%. How would u like to lose 40% of your income and have your x wine about it and try to get it increased. Get a job. Or better yet..do you have your ex's phone #...maybe he should file for custody and let you see how it feels.

crisnabor	i cannot just judge you by your question. First we have to assess how much is the income of your ex versus the needs of your children. If for example that your ex is earning only $1000 then it is about $400 he is sending to you therefore it is not really enough. The idea is get the fraction out from the income and against the actual expenses.Unless the kids are suffering from eating habit disorders where they dont eat nutritious food at all. The objective there is wether the mother is a bum or not so long she is aware that the needs of her kids are inadequate...therefore in your situation you are doing the right parental care to your kids and that's noble because if you work and have income, tendency is you will be pushed to hire a nanny therefore depriving your kids of a real care of a mother not to mention material or monetary matters, a real parenting is not measured by being responsible in having a job or no job at all but it is most measured by showing your kids your willingness to stay with them at all times cook their food, watch with them in front of the tv, answer their wierd questions, watch them while asleep, explain to them the solar system, cuddle & comfort them whenever they feel sad, supervise, guide & motivate them in every step of their way etc. 40% or even 100% of material support is not enough compared to your noble job now as a fulltime-non income mother to your children. I SALUTE YOU FOR THAT!!! and for your ex...he is kinda greedy father since he is aware that the support is not enough but play like a mute, blind & deaf to his responsibilities ,i pity him because he dont know the real essence of being a parent.

Shadow419	Jesus that's almost half of his income and that is not adequate? If you feel you need more money get a job or get another one and supplement. The key here is "support". If he had to give up any more than that he might as well have full custody of the children. Most states it is actually a whole lot lower of a percentage going to child support. He's not required by law to pay for your entire cost of living expense, he's just required to pay for SOME of the care of the children, now if you think the children need like oh 200 dollars worth of crap bought for them weekly then that is your doing not his.

Pamela	A man is not a financial plan - get a job to support yourself and your children

cbabyg	Gosh, how much do you think you should get? That's a pretty substantial amount of his income. I am a firm believer in a father paying his child support, but realize the man has to live too. To answer your question, you have to take him back to court to raise the child support order. In the state of Ga, you have to wait two years after the order was set. The Judge will consider the fathers living expenses and can even lower it if he thinks he is paying you to much right now. Be careful not to get to greedy, it may backfire on you. Good luck!

jim1357911	get a job

jo_cage	You should think God you get 40%. Your so luck your not in Texas. Is his income that low?

viju	i am helpless in this matter

Roman Esteban Due April 12	you are already getting 40% of the man's income, and you want to take more of it, what do you want him to live off of? Get off your lazy butt and be a real mother to those kids and get a job to support you and them....Yes a man should help pay for children, but he shouldn't be required to be the soul provider when they are not even in his custody.

dpawson	If that 40% was decreed by a judge, you should figure out how to adjust your lifestyle. If not, you should get a legal judgement. I would say that 40% of his income seems pretty reasonable. Suppose you guys were a couple. Suppose you didn't work at all. Assuming adults cost about the same, it would suggest something like 30% of the income goes to pay for each adult, and 20% for each kid. Especially since a good hunk of an adult's outgoing money is spent on housing/rent, you can be pretty sure that a kid would not normally cost 20% of a family's income to care for. Barring unusual medical expenses or something, of course. Now if you feel like there is some reason that you cannot pay for housing, and you actually think he should be paying more to help support you, that might be another matter, but is different from supporting the kids, and shouldn't be presented as such. I'm all for a parent taking responsibility for his/her children, but I'm left wondering why this guy would be sending half his income (or more) to you.

male85	r u tryin 2 live off of child support. ur gettin almost half of what he makes. what more do u want this is not even about the kids. u r juss actin like a money hungry *****

sleepless_in_manila	Dont rely on guys too much. You got to be independent on raising your kids and find a good work to make both ends meet.

tom4texas	40% for 2 kids is actually very high by most child support standards. I know here in Texas it 28% for 2 kids. The only alternative you have if this amount is inadequate is to get a job to supplement the need for additional income.

up_all_night420	You should feel lucky that you get 40%...most people get less.

npemtiv	Get a job. He has to "help" support your kids, but you must also put forth effort.

lola	Your kids must be spoiled rotten or you are spending some money. Is it you that wants the money? He has his bills and his girl (if he has one) and all his wants and needs. If you have a job, your kids are fine.