should an ex-wife bring along her boyfriend when dropping the kids off with dad (ex-husband)?

ashley l	yeah she shouldnt rub it in his face that she has aready moved on if he full hasnt yet

Semaj S	YES it is wrong. She's rubbing in his face.

tohelpyouandyou	Look I have to say a four hr drive, is o.k. for if she has car trouble..or something. Better he is along for the ride....other from that say 1 hr ...then no he should stay at home, for sure!

know_it_all_NOT	The only issue is how are the kids with the new boyfriend? Sorry, but the ex-hubby has nothing to say unless there is a problem where the kids are concerned.

Dfirefox	what difference does it make,,they are divorced..get over it..move on

d_magical_s_sweetness	Yeah, it is a bit disrespectful but not really wrong either... they are divorced.

jude	its ok to bring boyfriend since she has a 4 hr drive, unless boyfriend was the reason they broke up.

gabound75	There's nothing wrong with that. Plus, that's an 8-hour round trip. She needs someone to help her drive or simply keep her company. At least the new boyfriend stays in the car and doesn't walk up to the door and everything, making it even more weird. Again, it's not right down the street. I say her safety is more important than the ex-husband's broken heart at this point.

Common Sense	That is very callous and tasteless...

xtratabasco	she can probably do whatever she wants and if she wants pain then she will do just that.

hellokid	i guess..

eldoradodave	Tacky on her part but there is nothing in the ettiquette book about it

woah	whenever my dad would drop me back off at my moms, and his GF was with him, she would always wait in the car...but she start even coming with us until they were engaged, and she still waited in the car so yea, its not classy.

.	WOW! That is very disrespectful. I haven't known anyone to do something like that. it is kinda cold hearted.

Kenz	no, if its 4hours- i think she needs someone to talk to. and the ex-husband should understand and be able to move on (expecially if it was mutual) but then, if he has any problems and feels uncomfortable then he just doesn't has to look. when my father used to pick me up at my mothers he'd bring his girlfriend along and my mother just didn't make eyecontact and didn't worry about anything. good luck!

Ms Pollyanna	No what she does with her personal life is her business. He just should find his own companion then he wouldnâ€™t care less about hers.

Gillian	Maybe the ex-wife feels more comfortable having the bf along for the hand-off.

goldlust74	if it upsets you then tell her

cheoli	I think it would be disrespectful if the boyfriend was acting out or giving the ex a hard time, but it being a four hour drive and he sits in the car not. If this was a mulual break-u[ then why is the ex having a hardtime. Try working together to help the kids.

jewels	There is 'NOTHING' wrong with her to bring her boyfriend along, and 'no' it is not being disrespectful toward her X. If the devorce was a mutual thing then I don't understand why the X is taking things so hard, unless it's because his kids are so far away from him. But that should have nothing to do with the topic of 'who' travels with his X-wife. The x-wife and her boyfriend are a couple now, and her boyfriend may not like the idea of her having to drive a 4hr drive by herself. I'd do the same thing too. I think the real issue here is (with the X-husband) that he is jealous of his X's boyfriend, and probably resents him.

niceperson44	No, they are divorced and she is allowed to have a new boyfriend. How is it disrespectful? They are not a couple anymore.

Connie	If it was a mutual break up, then I shouldn't think so. I'm a bit more concerned for the kids, who should be having the mum a bit more to themselves, since everything is still the "transition period". If the ex husband is finding it disrespectful, then he should talk about it civilly with his ex wife.

missy	i think its wrong of her to do that...shes just doing that to make the father jealous... its disrespectful

Tracy	meet at the police station instead. The kids have to get used to him, you have to make up your own mind, maybe drop him off at a restaurant before she comes Do you want him to come in? You decide not us, we are not you.

mom_single_sexy	its a long drive for her, she has a live in boyfriend now and they are divorced, I would say its alright for her to bring him. I mean, you yourself say it was a mutual breakup and she has obviously moved on so, I dont see the problem with it. Dont get me wrong I can see where this would be awkward for the ex husband but, like you said the boyfriend just sits in the car so, its not like he's there causing trouble and since it is such a drive im sure she does it more so that she has company on the way back home.

lynn c	I don't think it is disrespectful. If the divorce was mutual, then there is no reason to be offended. Besides, it's a long drive. This is a nice chance for them to spend time just chatting on the way home. Maybe you should meet him since he is a big part of the kids lives now. My brother, his ex wife and their new spouses are all friends. It makes is easier on the kids and the rest of the family. We all spend holidays together -- including my brother's ex wife's new husbands ex wife! The modern extended family. We have a blast.

animegirl160	it depends if you are still close to the ex-wife than it is fine. The new boyfriend probaly waits in the car because he is a little embaresed to be and his girlfriends ex-husband's house. If the husband is a little jelous (maybe she has a new boyfriend and he doesn't) perhaps the two ex-husband and ex-wife should talk about it. Express their feelings and well (they can say what ever the feel there not together any more). (if this was you i'm sorry)

.::.Diosa.::.	It should not make a difference. But this woman is a b*tch for introducing her children to her new F buddy. People are sick these days.

kskwwjd	It is psychologically damaging for the children to be exposed to the "live in" boyfriend. That, is the problem. Simply bringing the boyfriend along on the drive to the Dad's house isn't the problem. This couple definintely needs counseling, for the children's sake.

mike j	No its not disrespectful, my father would bring his wife with him to pick us up. He will get over it. I think that its good for the kids to see everyone getting along.

Eve	Why not? I mean I don't agree with it...but some people change mates like they change their underwear...and it means nothing to them. I knew a couple did the same thing. I thought it was disgusting how quickly she put on a new guy...I mean within a few months. She had obviously been seeing him while married. But hey, right or wrong it's their business. You know how you feel about it, but you expect others to have the same standards that you do. Believe me it can be a hard pill to swallow sometimes watching what some people do but you can't do much about it. Commitment means nothing to some people...it's all about gratification for the moment and some parents couldn't care less what impact it has on the children...it was never about them...they're just a bi-product and things to be shared and caught in the crossfire...so just learn from the stupid examples and mistakes parents like that make and vow not to do them yourself! :~)