what do you do if you suspect your husband of cheating ? I already know he is text messaging some girl.?

heart	Time to move on,if this is going on there is more then texting going on.If he loves you he wouldnt be texting her he would you.Dont let him get by with kind words,lift up them shoulders carry your head high and start getting ready to live the life you always dreamed of ,even if its going to be hard,hard will only make you stronger and show your kids taht there mother had strength .What you show your kids today will be a big impact on how they will deal and handle things in life.Would you want your little girl to be going threw this?Well what you would tell her somday you should tell yourself.He tells you that you should not be looking at his phone,well thats when it would see the river,let her text the fish.or text her back telling her he has STD.God speed

Fatboy	if he doesn't have anything to hide what is he so afraid of?

pooh	if it bother you talk to him if you trust him to do the right thing stop checking his messages give him his private space since you know about her ask him to put a stop to it before it goes to far and he shouldnt do anything to damage the family because this really distrub you if he keeps on the next step give him enough rope to hang him self and then leave you will have done all you can

CLICKER12US	if you suspect him of cheating and have caught him by the text messages, leave his sorry butt. your just going to hurt yourself more and more if you stay in that situation. he's already getting defensive about the phone. what's next you know.

teresa d	find her # call her and ask whats up or when she texts him again hopefully u have the phone act like him text her back or just get his phone and text her let her think its him and if hes not doing anything he shouldnt care that u look at the phone

answerb4midnight	Get a trusted adult to mediate a conversation between the two of you. Your marriage is worth trying both of your best to work this through. Prepare questions, statements on paper first so when you ask if doesn't come out too emotional/dramatic. You need answers. Sounds like he needs counseling. But, first, he is in denial and in a position of defensiveness. If you believe your love is strong enough to weather this storm....than make every effort to do your part in loving him brave enough to draw boundaries, get help, be patient and eventually..you may need to forgive.

bridetobebrandie	Talk to him, but you already have proof that he's up to something. Don't be dumb and suprised when you find him screwing her. It always starts out small, with talking and texting and it will get worse if you give him the chance. You need to ask him what is really going on and tell him that you're pissed. It needs to stop and if it doesn't the wife and family he so "dearly" loves will be gone. All this mooshy-gusshy talk about how you feel stuff to a guy doesn't get the point across. Be straightforword and upfront. Don't let him do this to you because if it bothers you, it's important. Good luck girl!

jessy	YoU know its the same thing always in life you cant control anyone! So forget the phone and get a life outside of him cause you may be alone anytime ,Theres no way to tell just cause he says he loves you its forever! Easy come easy go! Just love who your with at the moment for as long as it lasts!

cutie	ask him and if you don't believe him find out for your self why waste your time with someone who doesn't really want to be with you. i say call the girl girl and ask her why she's texting your husband come straight out with it and ask her. tell her she should be ashamed of her self messing around with a married man. then leave his ***

Dustin D	don't let them know that you know and just be on the look out for ways to bust them in the act..... Then you can blow both of thier heads off with a shotgun then chop them into tiny little pices and feed them to pirahnas

simplyenigmatic25	He shouldn't mind you checking his phone because he shouldn't have anything to hide. You ned to talk to him about whats going on - you need to be honest with eachother. Tell him that you know about the text messages and want an explanation for it. You are his wife and you have a right to ask him that. Just talk to him and tell him you are concerned about your marriage and you need him to be honest with you about how he's feeling.

braziliaannbabe	don't be on his foot 24/7,, do some sneeking around and hopefully yu will find the truth... good luck!!!

Nessa	doesn't mean anything with text messages; they could just be friends. but if it gets too far like late phone calls or anything like that, then you should get suspicious.

Simplystunning	Go to counseling. Learn to trust your husband or leave the relationship. These games that you both play can't be tolerated forever. Get over yourself and quit checking his phone- wouldnt you feel stupid if you go off on some girl and find out there was nothing going on? Yeah, you would. Paging Dr. Phil!!!!!!!!!!

fp_pp2004	ask him about this girl, who is she? how did he meet her? etc

spudric13	Talk to him. If that doesn't work, hire a PI or get a divorce. It's probably already headed there anyway. Whatever you do, don't cheat back. You will have more control in the divorce procedings.

max m	Take his phone and text the gitl and ask her to call your house. When she calls try to talk to her.

Angels girl	Take his phone while he is sleeping and text her with a simple "hi, can you talk" See what happens. Worked for me. Mine was cheating.

heavensent41770	ummmm gee--- maybe ask him.. if he denies it, follow him, text the girl yourself and talk to her. Then maybe start lookin at his phone bill or whatever.

Rob K	What is he texting the girl? If it is just innocent conversation, it isn't a big deal. If it is more than that, you need to make sure you are right about him messing around before you make that accusation.

greek302	take the phone and trace the caller ID to somone in the city then find out who they are, and if there is cheating going on get really pissed off and tell him you are taking the kids and the house and everything and scare him like that.

itsmeee2006	Trust is crucial. If you can't trust him you have no relationship. You don't want to live your life wondering what he's doing and who he's doing it with.

Grand Macaw	Drop his phone "accidentally" in the TOILET!!! =)

rockysimon2005	just ask him and if he denys then just see what he is doing.

angeloffaith777	seperate...and when you find out he IS...then divorce him. you deserve better, babe.

elhombrevasco	He shouldn't be talking to any girls, he is probably already cheating on you.

nikki_mh02	leave his *** and find someone who will be faithful

arya_littlefinger	Try honesty, and ask him. Don't to the stupid behind the back snooping stuff, it's immature.

MrSmarT	i say stalk him