what to do if you found out your husbands computer password and got a surprise in what you found?

ally'smom	i'ld need more info on what i had found.

~lattemom~	Whatever you do don't let him know that you know the "surprise" right away. If it was me I would keep it to myself for a few days and check back on the computer again. If you find out he's cheating for example than you need to say something like "I know I shouldn't have done this, but I got your password and found this out-can you tell me what's going on?" It's better to know than not to know.

mia k	Wow. Okay well first I'd print a few of those "things" out and then confront him on them. But this will be tough. Relationships are built on trust and he should not have been hiding anything from you in the first place, so don't let him make you feel any guilt for that. Do it gently, men hate to be punished like a child. That and it's just not a mature way to handle anything.

three6ty	you mean like a surprise trip to the carribbean for your anniversary? Sweet deal. You are one lucky wife.

missmelissa5286	Well it depends on the basis of getting the password and what surprise you found. Did you snoop to find the password or did you stumbled accross his password list? What surprise did you find? illegal activities? An affair? or did you find a special present setup for you? If you found anything illegal (child pron, locations of dead bodies, drug trafficking stuff) you need to turn it over to the police. Other than that, you really had no business looking to begin with.

Indiana Jones	What was the surprise?

tastyflow	All he will do is change the password. He can always say that they were just playing around.You know the syndrome (It wasn't me and why were you spying on me)

Neka	was the fact that you had to have a password not a suprise enough? no matter what you are going to be suprised by what you find. either it's totally innocent and you wonder why the heck is he hiding that or you find out that he is really hiding something.

aruna k	if it is sweet suprise well and good,or else it depends upon u and ur husband whatever it is dicuss and then decide

Layne	I'd keep ot to myself and find out more stuff. The more you know the easier it is to get what you want in the divorce.

vickie	oooh... I been there. Just dont go yellin and screaming. Just ask him if there is anything that you should know about. If he says no then just be like... I KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON. Naturally he will play clueless... but just let him know that your not an idiot.

Lynnae_1969	You need to clarify what the surprise was....I mean was it that he's got an awesome gift ordered for you or is he screwing around on you???

mark j	that's what you get for being NOSIE stop snooping on your hubby.

Jenny74	How did you find it out? I found out my ex-husbands because he gave it to me and I got a "Surprise" too. It was not a good surpise. Talk and work it out if you can. Divorce is ugly and it hurts really bad.

Frank L	If you go looking for trouble,m you are going to find it. I think you should have just asked your husband about anything you wanted to snoop around to find out, but since you came this far, its time to confront him and then make a decision after he has the chance to explain

planetnoelle	what was the surprise? Why did you feel you had to look into his computer? to answer you question, I would confront him.

rozie_wy2006	Confront him. If he gets pissed at you immediately then he probably has something to hide. If he does not immediately gets defensive and pissed at you then he probably doesn't have much to hide.

penny c	what did you find would help the ansswering process of this question.

dave n	Stop sneaking around and looking into his computer. SURPRISE

wizjp	your bad I guess.

Cess	yell at him. I found that my husband was flirting with around 400 girls and had a date planned wth one of them!! for sure made me re-think things

jen_808	Confront him. If he is hiding something from you, you deserve to know about it.

elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom	what was the surprise?

jimmy Efron	ask himabout it duh