what will you do if you find your husband noticing someone else?

is it normal if he notice her in your and her husband's presence. even her husband knows that my husband is noticing and trying to gain her attention. should i feel insulted in this case. her husband felt a bit possessive and proud too as his wife is more attractive. if i started to hate my husband for making me feel unwanted, am i wrong. i expect that i should be the most beautiful and attractive woman for him, whom he appreciate more than anyone else. if he appreciate others in general thats ok for me, but showing his heartbeats going up, i cant tolerate and i cant love him anymore. i dont understand why. am i wrong to expect his attention for myself only.

Javi	looking and acting are two things...cmon lady u telling me you enver saw another attractive man in your life...GET REAL

Praying for A Blessing!!!!!!	No you are not wrong. You are suppose to be the most beautiful person in the world to him and your attention should be the only one that he tries gaining. I mean men notice other women but their wife should not be disrespected at anyway. Tell him how you feel and let him know that his actions are inappropriate.

jestersrule128_86	Wandering eyes happen. Sit your husband down in a calm setting. Light some candles in the evening and turn off the television. Sit on the couch together and present the issue something to the affect of "I need to ask you something that has me concerned. I don't want you to be upset, I just don't understand and maybe you can give me some clarity". By making that or something like it your opening statement, you are stating that you are allowing open and honest discussion on the issue and that you may have misinterpreted something. He will give you some kind of acknowledgment. Continue on with "I feel that I am not attractive to you around certain people. I am not sure if this is something I should feel concerned about or if I am doing something wrong or perhaps there is something that we should discuss". Listen to his response. Stay CALM. I then would state something like "I have noticed you admiring [insert name]. Should I be concerned about this? Is there something she wears or does that you enjoy? Would you like me to do those things? If you are attracted to her, is there a way I could present myself in the same light?" These questions are not specifically accusatory and they keep the conversation open. Just try to keep from making him feel accused or needing to become defensive. Always provide options and show him that you have noticed these things and would like to do something for him instead of being upset with him. You want to work with the issue rather than fight it. If he informs you that there isn't anything you can do, reevaluate your marriage. You are providing options, an open conversation that is non-accusatory, and are willing to make changes to keep you both happy and in love. I hope that helps and I hope things get better.

Kendra	I would divorce him. Actually, I wouldn't get married in the first place because this is how men are.

jude	when u marry your suppose to be the most important person in his life and when your not it is going to effect the marriage and the way u feel about him. maybe u should avoid this person and try not going around them.

thenn a	I am really sorry for you in such a situation. Your question is reasonable and clearly explains you how much love you have had with your husband. I would insist you to speak up with your husband and let him know that you are not happy about him. Also, ask him a sorry if your findings were wrong.

free_angel	He's married not blind. Just like you are. People are visual. Looking is one thing, touching is another.

Racer	What he is doing is very disrespectful. You need to sit him down and tell him this. Sure a man can notice an attractive woman, but to "notice" her this much is crossing the line.

angela	no u r nt wrong. Talk 2 him regarding it. U also take efforts 2 look good so that other also notices u

â™¥B@BY~GURLâ™¥	I WOULD PRAISE GOD AND HOPE THAT SHE WOULD TAKE HIM OFF MY HANDS