what you think of having a child from your girlfriend with out marring her ..?

Rica 82	I think women who have a child from a guy who does not want them or the child, then they should respect that decision instead of trying to lock down the guy forever. Those women who do that, end up screwed, no man and a child. I'm a strong believer of having a child after marriage, but many people do the opposite.

Sleek	I think it is very tacky and unfortunate, but increasingly the norm. 52% of households in this country with children are lead by only one parent. It is sad that people don't commit to one another and that before having relations. I was a single mom but I still have traditional values.

whereRyou?	I see your point, but I also see people abusing each other and dragging the kids through the mud in their rotten relationships. If they can't get along, I wish they'd move along and give the kid a fighting chance at some kind of normalacy. If the couple is in love and planning to be together, then they should go to pre-marital counseling. Then they'd have some skills to make their marriage actually work, and raise the kid together, married. That would be ideal. I agree with you that two good parents is the best situation. When one or both parents stink, I wish they would just adopt the kid(s) to good people and go on birth control until they either grow up or get married. Probably not a popular opinion, but its mine. So...whether the two are together or not, I wish they'd step up for the kids and act like grown-ups. Sometimes I feel like the Jerry Springer Nation.

imablondieru2	well i think if you love that person and really are serious about the relationship i say go for it but getting married would be a good idea thats just my opinion no ringy no dingy

Tyson	Marriage is a religious act. If you're not religious, marriage probably doesn't pertain to your lifestyle.

Shlane	i tihnk it's ridiculous...why have the kid and not marry? just marry and finih the danm thing...what i cant stand is when they get married 2-3 years after the kid is born...what a waste. you already knocked her up...why not just do it...i for one do not beleiv ein marriage but if i'm knocked up, marry me and be done with it

applecheeks	Who needs to get married. It's a piece of paper. Men are only needed to get pregnant...after that there really is no use for them. Well occassionally maybe they can babysit so the mother can have a night out with her girlfriends or maybe they can pop out to the shops to pick up some groceries. Other than that they just get in the way.

teulonbranchlibrary	Its the way of the world and we have to try to accept that type of thinking.

Joe Cool	I think having a child out of wedlock is thinking of the parents not the child.

msqtech	not a good idea doesnt give the custodial parent enough security or the child a good chance of having two nurturing parents for life Good Luck and God Bless!!

floridaman39us	Marmaduke, I think it is important for the couple to be married before they have kids. I may be old fashioned, but it has to be this way. Kids want to feel secure in a safe home environment.

AHHHH IT'S THAT CRAZY *!	All i have to say is... ... if u really like her u should ask her 2 marry u. As 4 next time... ...use a condom or bithcontrol!!!

DiVenanzoâ„¢	Honestly, I do not believe in marriage & never have. If you really care for someone enough to have started a family with them and you are serious about being there for the girl you love and your kid(s) then why should a piece of paper or a ceremony have to show you that? It shouldn't. I don't think marriage is something you think you should be doing just because you have a family now. As long as you take care of your responsibilites, dedicate yourself to your girlfriend and your kid(s) and to you.. that equals happiness.. than a marriage is irrelevant and unnecessary.

Wifa 4 Lifa	I think it's fine as long as both parents are responsible for the child.

columbo	my immediate question is do you want to get married? I find it admiral in this day and age that you are thinking this through before just doing it, that's how so many relationships break up, people don't think ahead like you and hence another child without a mother or a father. how does your partner feel about marriage? talk to her and see if you can jointly reach a conclusion,. you don't have to be married for the relationship to work or for it to be serious, but you do have to be committed to one another.

Sami	dirty company

Violet Pearl	I think it is absolutely disgusting. I hate Tom Cruise and all those celebrities who get their gal-pals knocked up and don't marry them. It's just disgusting.

agropelter	Always is hard to come by. I think if you really care and they really care thats a start. Maybe I could bring an extra mom too into the equation. It seems to me caring and being good people is the most important thing, wherever it goes or doesn't.

xxangelgal06xx	It is completley fine to have kids withour being married and if anyone tells you anything just look at bradd pitt and anjelina Jolie. Brad said he wouldnt be marrying her..and theyre fine!!

zoe	Not a good idea. Think of the child. If you aren't sure you want to marry this girl, then chances are you won't stay together, and the child will be without an intack family.

rollerbabe	I think you get married to show a commitment to the other person. It is a way to say You are all I will ever need. The kids do benifit if your relationship works out. If you do not feel it do not do it.

just browsin	I really truly believe in marriage, and it seems awful selfish to live together as a family without making it official. So many people want to get married and have a family, but can't. Yet, we can judge them as unholy. Our biggest problem is that family commitment is just disappearing.

Rhinobucket	I see the same in marriages,it's irrelevant.

elliemae	i lived with my bf for 2 1/2 years before we decided to get married. we do not have any children, but 1 miscarriage. just because a couple has a child and they are not married does not always mean that the father will not be around...

Clints_wench	Sometimes it just happens by accident, but no sense marrying her if you don't love her, just marrying her because she is pregnant is stupid...

JBR	I hope you never get married or have kids. You're an idiot.

fireball226	its a mistake but not too late for them to still marry

dukalink6000	Some people feel that marriage is just a piece of paper and the love they have for one another is sufficient

Putt	OK with me!

_chooly_	I think it is very 21st century hip!