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why do kids feel like their parents divorce is their fault?
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why do kids feel like their parents divorce is their fault?

I am a 14 year old whose parents are divorcing, is it my fault? Will they get back together if I try?







DarkVader
Nothing is impossible, there maybe ways for you to get your parents together...but you must doing it in proper way and it surely not your fault too...try to make your point heard like talk to them about their responsibilities on marriage, toward you and also family.

If you have tried your best and things still not work out? maybe it is time for you to move on, it is not too hard if life without complete family as there is lot children are worst than you that may not even know who their parents are.

The most important things is how you take cares of yourself, live a more meaningful life so your parents may respect you one day and may also learn their lesson from you and your future life...hope you happy one day :)


James D
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I understand how hard it must be for you that your parents are divorcing, but you mustn't think for a moment it is because of you. I know your parents both love you, but are no longer able to stay together as husband and wife. This is a problem with their relationship, and they are the ones responsible for what has happened.

I know you don't want them to split up, but just like you aren't responsible for it, you probably can't keep them from doing it. I doubt this was a hasty decision. Many married couples spend a long time thinking this over before doing it.

More than anything else, I am sure they are concerned about you--that you won't feel responsible, that you'll know that nothing has changed with how much they both love you. If you haven't already, I think you should talk with both of them, individually if you have to, so you can hear it from them. They may feel they need to keep it from you, but you should tell them how you feel.

Divorce is hard on everyone--I think especially for the children. Try and remember it's not your fault, and try not to blame your parents for doing this.


brit_09
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You can't make your parents get back together.It isn't your fault your parents are getting divorced. They are getting divorced because they don't love each other anymore. They both still love you,they just don't love each other. whatever you do,don't blame your self for your parents problems. Their problems have nothing to do with you.


Technology Expert
It's not your fault. The divorce is between your parents, so anything you do will have no effect.

Read the source page. Part of it says:

Kids Can't Cause Divorce!
There are many reasons why people divorce. Maybe they've grown apart. Maybe the love they once had for each other has changed. Maybe they fight and just can't agree about things. Every couple has their own reasons for divorce. Whatever the reasons are, one thing is for sure: Kids don't cause divorce.

Still, many children of divorced parents believe they are the reason their mom and dad got divorced. They think that if only they had behaved better, gotten better grades, or helped more around the house, the divorce wouldn't have happened. But this isn't true. Divorce is between moms and dads only!

Even if you once heard your parents argue about you, or your friend next door thinks his parents broke up because he got in trouble at school, these things don't cause a husband and wife to end their marriage. You may feel you're to blame for your parents' divorce, but you are not the cause. And the fact that your parents decide not to stay married is not your fault.

Kids Can't Fix Divorce!
Just like the divorce is not the kid's fault, getting parents back together is not up to the kid, either. And most likely, this doesn't happen, although plenty of kids wish for it and even try things they think might work. Acting like an angel at home all the time (who can do that?) and getting straight As at school (another hard thing to do) may make your mom and dad happy with you, but it doesn't mean they'll get back together.

The opposite is also true. Getting in trouble so your mom and dad will have to get together to talk about these problems is not going to make the divorce go away, either. So, just be yourself and try to talk to your parents about any feelings you have.







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