why is he like this ?

Andi	Don't take this the wrong way but, GET OVER HIM AND MOVE ON. Lets see, if you guys have been together 5 years, then he was 22 when you were 15. Thats called statutory rape honey. There's the problem. You are a baby, he is an adult (age wise, and as far as legal things go). And if you say he changed 4 months after dating, WHY DIDN'T YOU END IT THEN? It was early enough to do so, so don't say he's immature, cause you are on the same level. AND WHAT STATE DO YOU LIVE IN? Cause if you were pregnant 4 years ago, that makes you 16, and he was 23. And NO doctor will allow a 16 year old get an abortion without parent consent. Look, obviously you like the abuse, otherwise you would have shaped up or shipped out by now. So if all this is true, my advice to you is to GET THE HELL OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP. "First time, shame on you. Second time, SHAME ON ME." Keep repeating that to yourself until you believe it.

michie	you are right he is immatrue. first, he is controlling you. second, he knows you have no friends, no family-he gets off on that. he know you;ll never leave because of that. you are being abused both mentally and emotionally and if he it has not already it will become more physical then just throwing things. have the police ever been involved? you really need to get out of this relationship FAST. pack your bags and go to shelter even if for just one for night or even a coworker. get help somehow. you work, put some money aside and just run, pleae.

DEFINATELY BLESSED	Honey, you better make plans to get out on your own...even if you have to go to a woman's shelter. This man is controlling and displays all the signs of being MANIC/BI-POLAR. It usually peaks at age 29 and they are known for suicidal tendacies. IT IS A MENTAL DISORDER. Seriously, look it up:: http://www.electroboy.com/bipolar-disorder.shtml I CANNOT STRESS STRONG ENOUGH THAT YOU DESERVE A LIFE AND IT WILL NOT BE WITH HIM.

im whats up!	you are only 20 years old and you are being mentally and emotionally abused you need to get away from this man it sound like he has some serious anger issues ....you don't deserve this there are plenty of men that will love you the way you deserve to be loved and put those butterflies in your stomach again ....move on

moose	sounds to me like he's bipolar. or must of had issues with his own mother, that's why he like to mistreat woman. My question is why on earth would you want to be with someone like that unless you yourself have issues and like to be psychologically abused.. There are lot of good guys out there.. I say you dump him.. but of course you won't and we all know that... no matter what he tells you he won't change... and you probably will never leave him so you should just cope with it best you can and hope he doesn't start to physically abuse you. p.s.. if your paying half rent I'm sure you can find someone who can rent their room out to you, thats cheaper than apartment rent.

Dave	He want's smacking get rid of him,i'm sure you could get a lot better than a idiot like that.Take care.xx

Pakhi	Why the hell you still hanging out with this creep??? Just dump him for hevens sake. Even if you people get married you can never be happy with that monster. One who can hurt his own baby can do anything. I think he is a physicopath. So my suggestion is dump that guy and even better get some guys to beat him so hard that he can never think of behaving with a girl like this. But 1st of all get that garbage dumped

Mommy To Be for First Time!!	I dont know much about you are the sitiutaion but I do no that u or no woman deserves to be treated that way .. I understand you have no where to go but to make you take the life of ur own child now that selfish not childish. is there no batterd womans centers you can go to to get help? All Im saying is if you thing its bad no just wait till you get married. Because hes gonna see it as hes got papers on you and ur his. just be smart in what you do dont let ur self get hurt or ive seen in some cases killed. Please get help before its to late

Q&A	LEAVE NOW. TODAY.

Mindlessfun	Your boyfriend sounds like my wife... leave... he is immature and needs professional help.

David J	I know why he treats you bad. YOU LET HIM!!! quit whining, take action now, tell him how is to act, if he doesn't straighten up ....... leave. No threats just pack up and move on down the road, never speak with him again. A thin gal at 5'2" won't have a problem getting a good man. Good Luck

SHARIKA F	why r u staying when he treats u like this u deserve much better then that as a women if he instills fear in u its time to go what r u waitng for u need to take care of urself and get out before it gets worse then it is right now ur presious and need to be treated like the queen that u r so do urself a favor and run as fast as u can 5 yrs is a long time but abuse will last forever u dont need it sweetie good luck with the situation and i hope u deside to do whats best for u

one of the tallents now	You've got yourself an abusive boyfriend. Chances are that he is insecure, and that something happened in the first months of your relationship to trigger something that tramatized him before. Now he is going to strong arm you, so that he is control of the situation. Whatever the trigger was, you are a constant reminder of what went wrong, and he is constantly always going to bring you down. You need to find a way out, and leave. Don't look back. If he convinced you to have an abortion, he is going to convince you to do a lot of other things you don't want to do. If you truly believe that he is dangerous, you need to get out while you still have your life. Abuse is abuse, and it isn't going to get better no matter what you tell yourself. GOOD LUCK!

amyskye@sbcglobal.net	Yah, you really have to move on. Although relationships are hard work, they are also supposed to be fun and loving and make you happy. Your situation doesn't sound like that at all.

thisisme	the dude has issues as you should know and so do you for putting up with this. He will never change unless he gets professional help. I think you may need it as well for dealing with him It seems like you guys come from broken or abusive homes, maybe even drugs are involved. Please get away from him and get help.

Michael H	Run , don't walk. And at 88 pounds on 5'2" frame, you sound hot in the shape department. This guy will abuse you forever.

chicago floater	make like a banana and split make like a tree and leaf his sorry butt

Peanut Butter	Sounds like he is crazy and you are too for putting up with this abuse. Get out of this so called relationship soon. Do it for yourself. You deserve much better than what you have described. He will continue to verbally/physically abuse you as long as you let him. So take charge of your life and get out of this. Life is too short to be miserable. Best wishes to you.

Here's your change	People will treat us the way we allow them to. And for you to be with this knucklehead for 5 years kind of makes you out as a knucklehead too. Want to stop the abuse? Leave. Change your phone number. Move if you have to. Have a restraining order put against him so he won't be able to harass you at work or out in public. When you decide to grow a spine, you'll find the ball has always been in your court.

twinkle	And you'r with him because......?!

Candy517	As bad as this guy is... you teach people how to treat you. It's only going to get worse if you don't drop the zero. He only does these things because he knows you will put up with it. I've been with my man for 12 years and he's never threatened me, hit me, cursed at me or even called me out of my name. He knows that even after all this time, I will leave his a$$ with the quickness if he doesn't show me that much respect. I inturn treat him like I want to be treated.

gingers.ginger	well because you make a good whipping post .. are you nuts ... pick what little self estem you have up off the ground and move on ... your boyfriend sounds like he's so low... he'd have to look up to see a snake

Troy C	...and you stayed with this monster for another 4 years and 8 months and counting?! You must be a glutton for punishment!

uranus2mars	you have been with him too long, girl he is abusing you terribly if he is threatening you, you need to get away from him...NOW...and don't look back it only gets worse!

Marianne T	Get out of this relationship. How could you possibly stay with such a controlling person that would demand you get an abortion and thought you are fat at 88 pounds. Pack your bags and get out while you have the chance. Things will not get better, only worse. Hopefully, he will let you leave. With someone this controlling, he may be the one to decide if and when you leave, not you. Good luck and learn from this big mistake.

â™¥Brittanyâ™¥	it's time for you two to go your seperate ways...