wife is a cheater?

robert s	My answer is this I know it may not want to hear but according to my christian upbringing you should get rid of her. I mean it's pretty simple if you get right down to it. If she is going out on you through the mail or otherwise it is time for the both of you to move on. However if the both of you feel that the marriage can be salvaged(which I seriously doubt) try working out your troubles with a marriage counsellor.

casinodog	LEAVE HER SHE WILL NOT CHANGE. MINE DID THE SAME THING. NOW I HAVE THE BEST LADY IN THE WORLD.

le_le_06	I've only been married for 6 yrs. And truthfully she should have just been honest to begin with. There is no real reason for cheating. Maybe the only way ur gonna get to the bottom of this is some counceing. But I'd seriously consider a divorse. Ya dont really know how long shes been doing that or even more and who all with before u caught her. She cant love u too much to do those things to you like that. You shouldve have to woory about your mate being faithful. None of it is fair to you. Wise up and do whats right. In the end you'll know you've made the right decision

Clair dLune	You deserve better. She's trying to blame you for her actions which is absurd not to mention totally unfair. If you can forgive her, she's a lucky woman, but if you can't, you need to salvage your self-respect and get out and allow yourself to be in a position to meet friends and a potential new wife or life partner. God bless your heart! The Internet is the means for a lot of people who would never have cheated before to do so now... and sending nudie pictures of yourself to someone IS cheating.

Farm bred	This is tough. I know your first inclination is to drop her like a hot potato, but please proceed slowly. You married each other for "better or worse". This falls in the worse category for sure. Your marriage can be saved, but it is going to take a lot of work from both of you. If you allow divorce to be an option, it will probably end up being the final result. Decide together to work this out and don't even entertain the idea of separating. You have been hurt terribly, but over time you can learn to trust her again and you can get through this. I will be praying for you guys. I don't know you, but God does. He will know who I'm talking about.

kellermanintx	Maybe you should tell her that from now on you want her to see any man she wants and see what she does. You can help her get ready for her dates.

Frank	I think she only cheating u. Acc to her that u not paying her enough attention, then she have to send someone nude photos. It is absolutely ridiculous, you are a man you have to do thousands of jobs in a day to earn money for her and ur children then it may possible that for a instant u can't give her so much time, but then too she have to try to entertain u not to find some one else.

jennymustafa	Everyone deserves a second chance, so if she shows remorse, you should forgive her. Stop thinking that you show her your best attention. If she SAYS you DON'T, try to really show her how much you love her. Try to make it work. 23 years is a long time to be with someone. You have to find a way to renew things. Don't give up. A marriage that long is a beautiful thing. Very rare these days. Think really hard about the way things have been lately and try to think of ways to make it new.

Raj'sGenie	Her excuse is a poor one. Had she felt neglected she shouldve talked to you. And if it couldnt be worked out than maybe a seperaion,but cheating can never be justified. Im not in your marriage and cant say what went wrong but unless you were abusive or cheating yourself,then it isnt your fault at all,no matter what she claims,just her inability to keep her legs closed and body where it belongs,with her husband. Hard as it may be,move on.

n2bateyou2000	I wouldnt worry about it, if she is old enough to have been married for 23 years, then those naked pictures are going to scare the sh!t out of that guy anyway. Dont worry, you've already gotten all the good years anyhow.

Garnet	Well, how old is she? Her hormones are probably going crazy. It woudn't matter what you did, if that is the case. Make an appt, with a doctor, or consult the medical books for the "middle age crazies", and what they can do for some people. Just lay low, and go about your business, unless you want to lose her for good, don't make too big a deal out of it. Ask her what she wants that you haven't given her. It is both of you miscommunicating some way.

skawp	All of what she says is just a petty excuse to justify her actions. The cold fact is, she doesn't find you attractive any more. Some where down the line she made a decision and kept to it. Now the only thing you can do is let go and give her what she wants. It will be her in the long run that regrets every thing she has done. Don't waste your time racking your brain about it, it will only make it worse. Accept it, deal with it, move on with out it...

xlhdrider	She had some real issues. Nude pics a little to far. find out who he is send a friend to take care of him

nobodysangel2469	people cheat when they are not happy .. so shes more then likely telling you the truth about you not giving her enough attention.. but people who cheat are missing something in there life .. they don't do it just to do it .. but its up to you to see if you can make it work from here or to just go on your way .. good luck

basketcase88	I'm sorry, and I can't imagine how horribly you must be hurting. You guys need help, as in marriage counseling. Find a therapist you can both work with, or maybe even a minister at your church, if you attend one. Remember that an affair is a symptom of something more wrong within the relationship. Try to find out what's wrong (she's probably given you a hint--feeling ignored by you) and then fix it. If she says she's felt like you haven't paid her any attention, then start courting her again. Just like you did before you guys were married. Put her at the top of your priority list, not 4th or 5th. And be patient, you didn't get your marriage into this state overnight, it's not going to be fixed overnight either. Best of luck to you both.

....	well then you two either need to go to counceling or call it quits. I would suggest going to counceling first.

Got2seeit	send me the pictures and I will let you know if you should leave her or not

capecoddmh	Although what she did was upsetting at best. That doesnt mean she is cheating. Maybe she is just bored and acting out. I am not sure that nude pictures equals cheating. Maybe you should talk to her. Try not to be angry when you do. Explain how hurt you feel and ask her what is going on and how can you help her.

medic	what is the question. if it is that i think sending nude pics is cheating. yes i do. cheating is doing anything that you would not approve your spouse doing w someone else

aimeuk23	try to understand maybe not forgive right now but understand some times it's easy to get raped up in a world of feeling beautiful because some one on the internet tells us we are. She feel into the trap.

apples2oo4	Well do you two have any other problems??That is not any reason to cheat my husband is addicted to role playing games online and I or kids hardly see him but cheating I wouldn't even think of there is something else you are not saying.

harmonieclark	she was getting off on the taboo thrill....she needs to finish growing up just bc she felt she got bored...this is her way to make herself feel better..... tell her if shes so damn bored go look at women so that if shes gonna cheat u may benefit...lol

shepardman1	i think its time for a divorce.

Munya Says: DUH!	aha! The old "it's your fault you didnt pay enough attention to me" excuse...see how she turned this against you? Danng, that's harsh. Ok, if you want to try to save the marriage, try counselling---if she's already sending nudie pix then she may have already crossed the other line, who knows, not me. Whatever happens, it wasnt your fault. IT WASNT YOUR FAULT!

Dan K	as Borat would say, she cheat, i will crush her! jk man, just ask her all these questions, confront her about it

The FFX Blitz â„¢	ooooooooo, divorce man, just go on. or try to straighten things out.