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wife lying and hiding things from me - what's up?
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wife lying and hiding things from me - what's up?

especially RE computer usage and what she does on it/with it







joan_of_freakin_arc
those who have nothing to hide hide nothing, she is probably cheating, meeting others on line. she doesn't want u to know about it, as she probably isn't ready to leave u yet. no one wants to admit wrong, and be accountable for cheating so they hide it.


live life
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I done this to my Husband,answer he really didn't float my boat intellectually and our Marriage was breaking down I didn't do ON-line dating or anything, just anything to release myself from our never ending boredom,plus it's my personal stuff who i talk too and what I'm saying it's, like listening in on a conversation that has nothing to do with you.


uk_white_female
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Just say to her that you feel she is hiding something and that its putting you through alot of stress thinking that she is. Ask her why. Remember though, she could be buying stuff for your birthday, anniversary etc. If you still suspect something and you can do without the comp, just get rid of it. If she screams blue murder over it then I would say your worriers may be correct. If she can accept it going then maybe she's not. Either way - act upon it.


anis118030
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smells fishy


hollidayfun@sbcglobal.net
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she has someone else


D N
Have a nice, good chat with her (a general chat - Not about hiding things). If she is really hiding, you might figure out what might be bothering her. If you are only worrying, even that will become clear when you chat. It is better to trust her, unless you have clear signal.


TinTin
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Unfortunately she's mating online. She's found that one man that is courting her and making her feel special. i don't suggest spying on her as you're gonna get hurt in the end, sometimes what you don't know can't hurt you so confront her and ask her what's going on between both of you cause you feel she is no longer connected with you fully. Hopefully she'll come out and be truthful with you about what's going on but dont install software on the computer to find out what is being said because that is an invasion of her privacy and if you decide to go that route, next it'll be her going out and cheating thus ending your marriage. Be careful cause you might be the one that's hurt in the end.


dozydo
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I often switch off when my husband looks over my shoulder! sometimes I am speaking to one of my daughters or grandchildren about their personal problems. these are NOT my secrets. Also, we have separate bank accounts, his is private, so is mine! we accept that we have different interests and friends as well as joined. but it sounds to me as if you dont allow ,or dont like, your wife to have a life of her own! I have been married for 43 years, and my husband is my best pal, but we still have our own space


HeLovesYou!
OH! LET ME GUESS! YOUR THE BAD GUY FOR EVEN SUSPECTING ANYTHING! OR DO YOU HAVE TRUST ISSUES TO START WITH WHICH CAUSES HER TO RESENT YOUR QUESTIONING IN THE FIRST PLACE. WHATEVER THE CASE, IF YOU CAN JUST HAVE AN OPEN AND HONEST TALK. YOU KNOW IT IS SOMETIMES OUR OWN GUILT THAT LEADS US TO BELIEVE THAT OTHERS ARE ALWAYS HIDING THINGS FROM US. CHECK YOURSELF.


janine
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Talk to her,be nice you are to mad !!


luckystar
it sound like she cheating , but you need to ask her point blank what going on. but that what it really sound like.


jenny
How are things otherwise ? Is this your only problem or just the beginning ? If this is the only problem then I would say don't worry. My fiance and I have our own computers and neither of us know what the other does. I use mine for work, chats, surfing etc. I have no clue what he uses his for but we trust one another so there is no reason to question it. Have you asked her what she is doing or who she is talking to on line ? Your question is kind of vague so it's hard to say whats going on. But it could be any number of things... good luck.


BLACKNSASSY
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TAKE THE COMPUTER AWAY FROM HER IF SHE WANTS TO ACT LIKE THAT.... LET HER KNOW HOW U FEEL AND LET HER KNOW THAT THIS COULD BREAK UP WHAT U TWO HAVE TOGETHER AND THAT IS NOT WHAT U WANT.....


St.Jeb
She is cheating on you more than likely...


zether
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wife is hiding her afair and lying about having an afair? hmmmmmm, i think i smell an affair going on quickly boy blunder, to the fatmobile, we must solve this case before the joker, i mean the adulterer can get away


Soulfulgrl
In defense of your wife. I don't like my hubby looking what I do on the PC. I would like SOME privacy. It's not like I am out running around! Sometimes we ask question on ANSWERS that we don't what you to know about. Personal self-discovery stuff. Don't take it personal. But on the other hand if your gut is telling you something else..trust you gut!


aleesha4u2see
i can say from personal experience.. i only escaped into the internet world when i was trying to get away from something bad in my marriage.. but remember the internet can be addictive.. she might have a problem, i think a keylogger is invading her privacy, however, if she is your spouse there should be NO SECRETS, ask her for her passwords or ask her to go into her messengers with you present... if she wont then you have a problem.. remember.. SECRETS HAVE POWER... trust is necessary in a relationship.. GOOD LUCK


Jassypurr
if she spends a lot of time on the computer and minimizes the screen when you are around, you're in trouble. Spying on her will only start building mistrust and jealousy. Maybe you should spend time with her on the internet together? I suggest a MMORPG. lol


poison4yo_ass
thats a red flag. you have no need to go snooping. you know in your heart that something aint right. call her bluff! tell her to stop keeping things from you. one key to a relationship is communication. if she cant get with the program then do what you gotta do when your not happy. let her go.


Missy M
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It could be any number of things. You weren't very informative in your question. Are things otherwise good between the two of you? Maybe she's planning something to surprise you with on a birthday or other special occasion. If things aren't well, she could have a friend she feels comfortable with to just vent to about problems and stuff. Last, and not least, the worst would be that she is not happy and has found someone else and communicates through the internet with the other guy.


Crispy_Frog
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Your wife is hiding her computer activity because: (pick one) She does not want you to know. She is embarrassed. She doesn't want to hurt you. She is planning her getaway. she is planning a big surprise party for you. She is having an on-line affair with someone 1,200 miles away.


Mark R
i would confront her communication break down is the first sign to a failed marriage good luck


SecretFriend
Are you for certain? lying is NEVER GOOD for a relationship. But how do you know she is lying and keeping computer usage from you?


naberey
tell her that "if she wants that you will be honest with her,she must also be honest with you or else you will also lie with her"


andrewinmelbourne
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put a keylogger on the computer and track her keystrokes, gain her email password and find out what is really going on....worked for me. Now I'm divorced.







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