wife of 8 yrs pregnant by a black guy should i stay with her?

ladystarrchild107	If she loved you the trifflin heffa wouldn't have cheated. I don't see what black has to do with anything, would you be as angry if he were a 300lb lazy white man? Or a rich black man? Or lazy mexican? Or Asian? Who ever he was she found some interest in him to cheat.

symbionic1975	no,get the hell out ! while you still have some dignity left!

the_secrets_keeper	I thought this was a racist question. BUT ITS NOT. She cheated on you and you need to move on. Why would anyone want to stay and go thru the humillation of having everyone know that she is a who.re and you are a dumb.*** for staying with her? Seriously, its time to move on

js	If it was me I would divorce her and seek custody of the children

axlrose	im not sure if she should stay with you by your avatar

WhyNotMe	Rent the movie "Me, Myself & Irene" with Jim Carrey, there is a part in movie when they are having a family bar-b-q. If you can see yourself & relate to that, then you'll be ok.

tamlala6	You have a lot to think about.If you stay with her you will have to accept the baby.Are you willing to do that.If not don't put the baby through that.I can't easily say dump her because I don't know how you feel about her.The only thing you can really do is sit her down and the both of you have a heart to heart talk.That way if you decide to leave, you would have gotten all of your feelings out and there will be nothing left to say unless it is concerning your children.

Kitty	Cheat with a black woman, and tell your wife it's her kid!

archer	You don't dump her because its a black man she was with,you dump her because you cant trust her and she doesn't love you.

Lucky 7	Only stay with her if you can treat the affair child as well as your other children!!! Also only if you can forgive her for cheating!!

frank f	only if you are STUPID

bridgett678	I would get out while you can. let the lazy black man take care of her and the one on the way. All you need to worry about is your children. If you do that maybe she will learn to be faithful!!! Good Luck!!!

jenny	Only you can answer the question of weather or not to stay with her, HOWEVER, I can say that if at any point and time you have any doubts about how you will treat or love this baby... LEAVE. This child did not ask to be created and does not deserve to be mistreated in any way shape or form. Think long and hard about it.

igotplayedonce	If he's 300lbs, who cares what color he is. You must be an absolute mess! How in the hell did you lose your gal to a lazy bum? Your game must be zero. Start over and try again on this. Yet another silly question on this board.

BOO	Kick her a** to the curb, Black or White baby makes no difference, what matters is it's NOT yours.

hopeincubus	If the other guy isn't going to be there for the baby i think maybe you should be a father figure becasue that baby has no fault for your wife's actions. You should divorce her. She obviously doesn't care enough for her family and commitment she made to you. You should ask for custody of the kids and truthfully at this point you have a 99% chance of getting them. Good luck I hope i have helped and I'm so sorry you have to go through all this after 8 years of marriege.

Slimsmom	The race of the child doesn't make a difference. What does is the fact that she cheated on you and became pregnant. You will have to decide if you will stay or not. I don't envy you the position she has placed you in. One thing I do know is you will be the child's stepfather, should you decide to stay in the marriage. Will you be able to care for and support the child? Maybe you will never be able to love it as your own, but you should be able to give it the simple human decency it deserves. If for no other reason than the well being of the child, you should think long and hard whether you feel you would be able to do this. The child will be a giant reminder of your wife's infidelity every day. Will you be able to overcome this if you stay? If your wife's transgression is just too large for you to overcome, I believe it would be best to leave the relationship, for your sanity and the well-being of the child. I wish you well, and I hope you can get by this sorrow and hurt.

CJO	Sorry she's been cheating... that's a rough gig to work through. The issue of the baby's color, or the guy she's been burning you with, shouldn't even be the issues. The REAL issue is that your wife of eight years--the women who swore to stay faithful to you--has been burning you behind your back. THAT'S the issue. If you love her enough to stay with her (and you're a better man than I if you do), the color of the child still doesn't matter. It's just a color. What you should be worried about is if you can trust her... and if she'll cheat again. Also, if that other man IS the father of the baby, he will become a part of your life... so you should be prepared for that (if you stay). Have you talked to her about why she cheated? What was your marriage lacking (not necessarily your fault at all) that drove her to seek another man? Good luck!

Cync	Ask yourself are you willing to take care of another mans child regardless of its race, that's irrelevant unless you are a racist. Remember this the baby might be mixed but he or she is still gonna be your children's sister or brother and I hope for the sake of your children that you take that into consideration and act responsibly. I sympathize with your dilemma, my heart would be crushed, be strong and remember that the children come first, they are affected by all this as well. Good luck sweetie.

Jennifer S	you should leave, you might love her but it's clear that she doesn't love you, tell your friends to let you make your own decisions

S K	Dump her.

love-a	Only you can answer this question. I must say it'll cause a lot of uncomfortable questions coming from your kids and others since the baby will not look like the your children. I know ppl who stay with their wives who have cheated on them but no one but him, his wife and the person his wife cheated on know about it. So he gets to salvage some of his pride. You will not be able to do that. Hope this helps.

shasta	wow. i am so sorry for youo and your family. Your wife has done a terrible thing...something that will be with you both for the rest of your life. Will you ever be able to look at this child , or kiss this child without thinking of your wife messing around with this guy?? will you ever take out your resentment of your wife on the baby?? Think long and hard. I could not handle it. I would have to leave...it is HER who broke up your family ...do not blame yourself ou punish yourself by living in this unhappy situation. No one would blame you for leaving. Stay strong...

triangle	I say leave her because every time you look at that baby you will remember that act. If she has done it once she will again and it will just cause undue drama for the kids. They will never get over this. She made a decision that she has to live with and you are going to have the real baby daddy forever in your life. End it now or end it later but there is no future there...sorry!

sureno	SHE CHEATED HOMIE, AND YOU KNOW WHAT THEY SAY, "ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER"

sex-c-one	Sounds like you have race issues. I would leave your *** for the fat lazy dude

J Johnson	being black has nothing to do with it. its the fact she cheated..if u think u can work then do so for ya'lls children.

Traveler	If you really trust she will stop cheating on you then stick with her, but if you think she is still going to cheat then laeve her.