will my husband stop drinking?

DKH	He won't stop the drinking until he is ready to stop! Sometimes he has to hit bottom first to get the help! You might want to go to those AA support groups for spouse's of a drunk! Good Luck!

Mrs. Mac 4	No he will not stop drinking. Remember you can not change a person you can only change yourself. I am not sure if you have heard of the serenity prayer God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I can not change. Change the things I can And the Wisdom to know the difference. Good Luck I would suggest an Alon-on meeting look in you phone book you might be able to find one there.

Here's your change	How about doing something that makes you happy, like getting out of a bad relationship and finding someone that can drink responsibly. Since he made up his mind that the drinking stays, then you need to make a decision if you still want all that crap in your life.

BoyDude	Is he abusive, crazy etc. If he is normal when he drinks, then whats the problem with his drinking. Understand this, a married man has to do something to put up with being married. Trust me on that. Coming home to the same woman everyday and loving getting the same piece of as$ take it toll on a man. Good luck to your husband.

Zenthae	It sounds like he has a problem. I would ask if he will start cutting back. My man smokes a pack a day. And he wants to quit but he cant, so we are working with just cutting it down slowly. Right now we are at a pack for every two days, andonce he is comfortable with that we will break him down again. Maybe you should ask him if he will only have one beer a night, or drink only on saturdays, depending on how big his problem is. You can also suggest going to counciling, however if hes not wanting to stop, it wont work. Other then that, just stop bringing alochol into the house, keep other beverages and never drink around him. Unless hes going out every night drinking it should get atleast a little better if theres no temptation in the fridge.

Exoilfeildtrash	No he won't he told you even it something terrble happens wich it will sooner or later he still may or may not its up to you to stay or go away.

basketcase88	You can do nothing here. If he is going to stop drinking, he's going to have to want to. Is he an alcoholic? Maybe you should try going to an AlAnon meeting/group. They would have more information. But many times the alcoholic has to hit absolute rock bottom before they're willing to accept they have a problem.

lanibear55	Your best bet is to get to the root of exactly WHY he's drinking. Then you work on that. Whatever the reason may be, you both will need professional help to intervene and help the both of you through the crisis. If you cannot afford professional help, then seek community counseling or go to your church, if you go to services. Good luck to you.

Angel Eve	Is he being abusive when he drinks? Is he doing something offensive? If he is just being a happy drunk and it isnt really interferring with anything else, then why change him? Plus, you didnt say he gets drunk... Nothing is wrong with having a drink after work. It actually promotes cardiovascular health to have a drink per day.

Kim	He wont quit until he is ready. Mine drank like a fish when we met 6 years ago, hes down to a few beers a week now and nothing hard. You don't quit drinking until you figure out that what you are looking for isn't at the bottom of the bottle. Find out why he is drinking, that would be a start and work on that issue. Don't fight with him over it, that only makes it worse. Then he will be drinking to escape your nagging. Good luck

xtremejen01	if he says he won't, he won't. you cannot control someone!

bina64davis	Honey, if he has a problem, he CAN'T quit on his own, but for him to even say he WON'T quit, that's pretty bad. It has to be his choice, no one else's. It's nothing about you or what you have or haven't done, but believe me, he will try to blame you for it. If it bothers you, you should go to an Al-Anon meeting. They are for family members who are trying to cope with someone's drinking problems.

kja63	What do you mean by drinking? Does he have 1-2 beers with a meal a few times a week? If so, there's nothing wrong with that. Is he an alcoholic? Is he a mean drunk? If so, he needs to attend AA meetings and you both need marriage counseling. If he won't go, you can go to counseling alone and attend Al-Anon meetings to help you determine what you need to do.

DaBossMan13	if he's drunk everyday.. then you have to worry... if it's a little everyday.. then what is your problem?!? geezzz... leave the man alone will yah!?!

Lisa A	You can't change someone. They have to want to change themselves. The only thing you can do (and I strongly advise this) is to join al-anon and go to their meetings. Find one you like and go. You probably enable him in ways you can't even fathom. Trust me, it can get bad and ugly. I don't miss it a bit.

watermellon_123	The only person that knows if he'll srop are him and God. Help him out. Work as a supporter. Many people get over this all of the time, just have faith. There are orginizations that offer help for people with acholism addiction. Just have faith.

GoatGirl	If he says he won't, he prolly won't. You have to decide what you want and realize that you are making choices for you. Do you want to deal with this and stick it out or don't you? Maybe you could see a counseler or something of that sort.

stacy	Did he drink before you got married or is this a new behavior? If this is the way he was before marriage what makes you think he should stop?

ann s	is he.... able to keep a job not driving while drinking paying the bills otherwise being a good hubby if he is leave him be

Chloe	First the only true way is God almighty pray and ask God to help and be there for your husband and yet show him how important it is to be sober

Rose	Talk to him, tell him your reasons for him stopping, how you're worried about him, how he makes you feel uneasy when he does it, how the relationship will be better. Don't ask him to stop cold turkey. Ask him to reduce drinking.

Mark A	Well, you can't really make his decisions for him but if it's a really bad drinking problem, then maybe it's time to look for the door out.

ELAINE C	He'll stop drinking when he stops breathing. Until then, forget him and move on.

krystyn13	Leave him becuase he wont stop he loves it more than you.

Jesusreloaded	buy him some more cans, because he is going to run out soon

goldwing	you do one of two things...you either enable him to drink by staying and doing nothing, or you get the hell as far away from him as possible...there are no inbetweens here. You cannot get him to stop drinking, only he can do that...but you do not have to stay around and watch. That part is the only decision you have. ... to stay or leave. Me, I'd say adios..but then again, I cannot stand to be around drunks. Good luck

gouldgirl2002	He absolutely won't quit until he wants to. Try Al-Anon to get some support and help you make up your mind.

Lori K	You can't change him. You can only change yourself. Go here for help: http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

skoolgrl16	throw it out down the drain or something