wives..what would you do?

Ms. GTO	I'd go nuclear on him....and probably smash his phone into a million pieces. The sneaking around and sh*t isn't supposed to happen once you get married!

~.:!17 WeEkZ WiiT TriiPLeTs!:.~	is this the father of your kids?Tell him "it's me or her,take your pick!" and if he says you disconnect his phone service just in case,if he picks her take both the kids

shady	You need to find out why he started doing it in the first place. Something is not right when half of a marriage feels the need to stray.

Lucky	His behavior is so completely unacceptable. He might need to leave for a little while until he can get his act together.

Rotten Oranges	I would consider this a strong case of cheating and would start talking to my family (and his) about getting a divorce.

Answer Fairy	Confront him about it. It is not appropriate at ALL. It's completely unacceptable behavior. Grounds for divorce.

Kitty	I would be pissed. I would warn him to give up his internet romance or we would be finished. If he keeps talking to her after that, he doesn't deserve you anyway.

Common sense isn't anymore..	Demand he stop talking to her first. Go to marriage counseling second. Honestly I wouldn't trust him again so I don't know I could stay married. I need trust to be with someone.

Horse Up	What kind of pathetic question is this? What do you mean what would you do???? Dont you know? Ide drop my husband faster than Horse$hit! Come on! UNACCEPTABLE.

TRIXIE	some how post the nude photos here, or email them to her boss, friends, family. that should stop her at-least. now for your husband...he is areal loser and i would suggest hiring someone to beat him up.

â™¥â™¥ LINDA â™¥â™¥	Call him on it. Ask him what he is doing and why he is doing it. Get the phone number of the person he is sending them to and call her and ask whats going on.

DaNewGuy	yeah, nude pics and stuff really crosses the line. At least if you want your marriage to work, be the better person to ask him to stop. If he doesn't, then take your child and leave. At least you would know that you did your part in the marriage before leaving.

macennat	that honey is up to you. just remain calm when and if you choose to confront him about it. stand up for yourself and your children, noone else will. be strong. please just dont ignore it. that would be an insult to yourself and you are worth more than that. everyone is.

SaSsYâ™¥	I would FLIP OUT on my husband..Thats still cheating to me. Ask him how he would feel if you were talking to another man and looking at nude pics? I have 2 kids with my husband and i'm pregnant with our 3rd if he pulled that **** with me..I would leave..Thats nuts!!

Life is what YOU make it!	Do you seriously have to THINK about telling him to stop speaking to her????? That should be the FIRST thing that takes place! It seems maybe your afraid to say something or demand he stops because your afraid he might leave you. But you cant delay the inevidable, if thats what he gonna do then thats what it is! But stand up for YOURSELF and YOUR CHILDREN! They depend on your happiness!

JJ	Well, if there were going to be any chance of saving the marriage, he would definitely have to stop talking to her. No doubt about that. Of course, you better ascertain first whether his choice is you or her. He can't have both, but if he wants her then you need to get rid of his lousy butt.

Heatherrrrrrrr	I'd be pissed to no end. But ultimately I can't control anyone but myself. If my husband were sending and receiving nude pictures I would ask him to get counseling and change his phone number. Clearly he has an issue and doesn't understand boundries, morals or wedding vows. Sounds like he is a creep with no values. Sorry honey.

~Ang~	Get the number, call the girl ask her WTF is going on. Tell her you will not fight for him, if she wants him she can have him, you just want to hear it out of her mouth. Listen to her story, don't get upset. Then once you've heard her story, go to him (don't tell him you talked to her) ask him their relationship, she if the stories match, and then leave his a**!

Chiema67	that is wrong it is cheating. I am very religious and i believe you stay in a marriage unless your physical saftey or your childrens physical or emotional safety is at risk. I do not think you should leave him but you two do need to adres it. My brother started that same thing now three years later he and his wife ar egetting divorced and he has an almost 2 year old son with the internet love and they lived in texas and missouri. Distance doesn't matter nip it in the bud. Also your husband is being selfish not only to you but your children as well. They didn't ask to be brought into this world so regardless of how he feels about you he needs to think abut them and be responsible

phattybiggums	You must confront him with his actions. If you have to confront her to. Let her know that you know about them, then do what you have to do from there. If he is not apologetic it is time to move on because that means he doesn't give a damn about your feelings. You have to be stern because if you go to him crying a mushy he will see you as a push over. Good luck.

Shash	confront him. if he wants to work this out he will have to do things to help you rebuild trust. first, he has to cut off all contact with this other woman. He should be willing to give up all cell phone numbers, computer passwords, e-mail passwords, anything that will help you. If it something you both are willing to give 100% towards I would recommend finding a damn good therapist and start figuring out what is going on in your relationship. There is not just one person to blame. It is a long hard road, but in the end can be rewarding and can build a stronger connection with you and your spouse. No one is perfect, marriage is not a fairy tale and it takes persistence, patience, understanding, and love. I wish you the best.

mary	That to me is cheating!! Plan and simple. It could lead to other things if not stopped!! He is having an itimate conversation with someone else and sending nude pictures??!! I can't believe you even asked if you should stop it. I would get ahold of his phone and get in touch with the girl and let her know he is married and it has to stop. Then I'd hang my husband by his " you know what's"!!!

Shenanigans	Divorce him is what I would do. If you caught that, then what would happen if you didn't? The court will get the phone records, you will win the comfort for you children in the divorce, as well as have them grow up respecting relationships, which they will not do if you put up with a cheating husband. On line affairs just make it easier to have a physical one in the future.

Charmed	I would be appalled - fortunately, my husband isn't "one of those guys." He hates email, we don't even have a texting option on our phones - that's just not him, he's a very old fashioned type who thinks the computer is a waste of time. That having been said, your husband is causing trouble and you better think of ways to deal with it or the marriage is going to go south fast.

BikerChick	ACTIONS speak louder than WORDS. You can demand anything and everything you want to, but there is no guarantee that is going to change anything. As for ME? If my husband was doing this, he would be OUT the door. The ONLY way I would even consider being with him is IF we both went to counseling, and he was truly sorry he did it, AND he had a reasonable excuse for doing it in the first place. The likelihood of THAT happening would be about zero, meaning I doubt ANY excuse would work for me.

Mrs Heather Schabby, M&D Goddess	Wow. I'm not sure if I'd be able to stay in the marriage. Honestly, that's cheating in my opinion. I think the first thing I'd do is confront him. How did you find out? Do you know her and she told you, or do you have actual proof like you saw it in his phone? If you have evidence, I'd show him. If you don't, I'd wait to confront him until you have solid proof -- like you saw it with your own eyes. As sick as this may sound, if you just "heard" from someone else she may be lying -- so find out. Not only would I demand he stop talking to her, but I'd demand he not exchange numbers with ANY women, period. I'd demand to have all his passwords and such, and his life would have to be a COMPLETE open book until enough time had passed that I was able to trust him again. Please keep in mind, trust cannot be built without opportunity, so though I understand the need to check up on him, don't too much or you'll never rebuild trust. If he were unwilling to open all these things to me and promise me it would never happen again, I'd leave. By the way, this is all IF I decided to give him another chance in the first place.

insomniac	I would take the evidence to the nearest divorce attorney. You can demand that he stop talking to her, but it probably won't work and he'll be sure to be more careful next time. I've had three friends who have had this problem with their spouse/partner and all three times it ended the relationship. The worst was a male friend whose wife "fell in love" with some guy online. He put a stop to it and they tried to fix their marriage but two years later they're divorced and she's expecting a baby with another guy she met online and cheated on my friend with. It's been my experience that once this happens, even if they stop talking to the person sooner or later there will be someone else they'll "meet" online and it will start all over again.